Some fascinating discussion going on this whole series about discovering your subconscious beliefs about money. John asked me a delicious question on Twitter…
He tweeted me to say, “I don't need a zillion dollars & material things. Not at all. I would just like a job that I enjoy doing & make enough.”
I wrote back and asked, “Do you think affirming “I don't need a zillion dollars & material things” is serving you? Because obviously I don’t.
He thought it did serve him and asked the delicious question: “What should my attitude be? Should I want a zillion dollars and a Ferrari?” My response…
He then asked, “the fact that I don't want to have $200 mil is worse than wanting like $150,000? How is that a problem?”
So here’s my take on all this…
Last week when I did the Daytime morning show, co-host Cyndi Edwards asked me something similar. (Which John might find fascinating, since the topic was "Why 'I Quit' May be Good for You") She said, “Some folks don't want to be rich; they just want to be comfortable. You’re okay with that, right?” I told her if she ever said that again, I would wash her mouth out with soap! (See the interview here: https://www.randygage.com/in-the-media/ )
I’m not being elitist here. If someone is happy with $40,000 a year in income or happy being an ascetic, that’s totally cool. If they are happy, I’m happy for them. But here is your food for thought…
If you really had a choice between having $150,000 or 200 million, it seems crazy to me not to take the 200 million. Now if you really feel like $200 million would disrupt your life and you don't want the decisions they would require of you, okay. But the real question is this:
What beliefs are causing you to make that decision?
When someone tells me they just want enough to get by, that sends all kinds of alarm bells off for me. Because usually is screams worthiness issues. The person who says it is usually surrounded by co-dependent people they are taking care of. They make sure everyone’s needs are met – except their own.
It’s like people who say a car just takes you from point A to point B, or question why you would pay $50 more for a hotel room with an ocean view instead of the dumpster view. I believe they are usually coming from lack consciousness.
No rational person who had experienced luxury would say there is no difference between a Toyota and a Lamborghini, or an ocean front suite at the Four Seasons versus a Holiday Inn. Or at least no rational person who wasn’t under the influence of worthiness issue mind viruses.
As the Course in Miracles teaches, all decisions come from either fear or love. Deciding you are worthy of the ocean view is a love decision. Choosing the other is based on the fear of losing that $50.
The other issue that came up form John’s follow up tweets was he had been at this job he hates for eight years now. No one can take advantage of you for eight years without your permission. As the CIM would say, there are no victims, only volunteers.
So just to be clear, I have no problem is someone doesn’t want money and material things, as long as that is a choice they came to as the result of serious critical thinking. But when I hear comments like John’s, it appears to me to be the result of low self-esteem and not believing he deserves better. Which he does.
Here’s the really wild aspect of all this…
When I got John’s message, I had just come back from shopping. I’m in Amsterdam and it’s a little chilly, so I went out to find a hoodie. (You can still wear hoodies without getting shot over here.) I was walking through the mall and saw an amazing jacket in the window of a store.
It was black with leather sleeves and just looked absolutely fierce. So I walked in, pointed to it, and told the clerk I wanted one in large. She kind of stammered and said that was the only one they had, and I may not want it, because it cost 10,000 Euros.
Turns out it’s a Philipp Plein creation, and the sleeves are actually crocodile. And it turns out the only one they had was… large. BOOM!
Now do I need another jacket? No. Do I need to spend 10,000 Euros on one? No. But fortunately it wasn't actually 10,000 Euros; it was only 9,999. And fortunately I don't base all buying decisions by what I “need,” but sometimes by what brings joy to my life.
Joy to the fishies in the deep blue sea – joy to you and me.