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Upgrading the People in Your Life

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By Randy Gage in Critical Thinking, Success, Prosperity.

I believe the path to enlightenment and prosperity is a continuous progression of “upgrading” the people in your life.  Often this happens naturally, as people move away from each other and interests change.  Other times, you have to proactively and mindfully make this happen.

Like I mentioned in the last post, this isn’t about being arrogant or thinking you are better than other people.  (Although in many cases, you actually might be.) You have to recognize that different people are on different journeys.

Your best bud, who was the drummer or your rock band in high school, may not be going on the same direction as you, when you guys are 30.  People who are your drinking buddies when you’re 20, may not be the best influence on you when you are in your 40s.  People growth and reach awareness at different speeds and different levels.

I like to think of consciousness development as the size of the window through which you view the world.  As you develop, the window gets bigger, allowing you to take in more and more prosperity.  As this happens, if you’re mindful, you will notice that some of the people surrounding you are not keeping up.

• You want to watch something on NatGeo and they want to watch The Bachelor.
• You want to play chess and they want to find a happy hour somewhere.
• You desire to live in harmony and they feed off unnecessary drama in their relationships.
• You want to set aside money for investments and they want to bet it on the Lotto.
• You like to exercise and eat healthy, and they like to binge watch and drink booze.

When it comes to the breaking point, you will discover something critical:

Most people want to be surrounded by others who give them permission to stay the way they are.  And you want to be surrounded by people who challenge you to become a higher and better version of yourself.

So that takes us back to the immutable law of the universe…

Your health, happiness and prosperity will be the median of the five people you spend the most time with.

Recognizing this, you realize that that are some people you need to start lowering your exposure to.  Maybe instead of meeting for dinner once a week, you go to every other week, or once a month.  There may be groups, or social events, or specific environments that you decide to reduce your participation with.

At the same time, you consciously work to find and attract people who are operating at a higher consciousness, that you can bring more into your life.  When you become serious about self-development and personal growth – you actually make this a conscious, mindful process.

You don’t create criteria of a certain net financial worth, but you do look for people who are manifesting prosperity, harmony, and abundance in their lives.  You look to bring them into your life and think about how you can add value to theirs.

In the next post, we’ll explore what has to happen in the extreme cases, when someone is so toxic and/or abusive you need to completely remove them from your life.  But until then, here’s a question to do some critical thinking one:

How often do you put yourself in the company of people who challenge your beliefs, expand your concept of abundance, and inspire you to become a higher, better version of yourself?

– RG

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6 thoughts on “Upgrading the People in Your Life

  1. maryellen514 says:

    I think at the end of the day, it all comes down to the heart. It hurts to remove people that no longer belong in your life, but at the same time, my focus is,… what was my attraction to them. I think so many people look for happiness in all the wrong places and they think that by finding that RIGHT person, that all their dreams will come true. Well, I say, go watch the wizard of oz, because you have a better chance of landing on mars than you do with those aspirations.
    It’s like the dating sites. People go on the hunt for love as if it has to meet a certain criteria, and the whole “I’m available and looking”, would make me run for cover.
    We all make our own mess’s and we all have to clean them up. If we keep repeating the same pattern, better bust the mirror. If we continue on our own paths without expectation of anything but fulfilling our own unique purpose for God, then everything else will fall into place. It’s not about time being measured, it’s about the heart being measured.
    Please forgive me Randy, I have turned into a ranter. Not on my bucket list.

    1. Paul Erickson says:

      You had me until that “unique purpose for God” – I am certain that people who strap explosives on their bodies and blow-up a bus filled with children, women and old people overwhelmingly believe that is God’s purpose for them.

  2. Wendy says:

    This really hits home in my marriage right now. Looking forward to next week’s blog-need to get out of a toxic relationship gracefully without harming my 3-year-old daughter!

    1. Paul Erickson says:

      Here are some of my suggestions for getting out of a bad marriage – place some banana peels at the top of the stairs, have your husband go hunting with ex-Vice President Cheney, have him wear a “I Love Hillary” T-shirt to a Trump rally…you get my drift.

  3. The communication linkage is critical. Integral to that is the critical thinking skill. The more in-depth you go, the more limitations you can release I believe. Thanks!

  4. Bernice says:

    No toxic hate relationship

 

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