We have a great dialogue going on the last post about having the courage to question your beliefs. The thing people ask me the most is, ‘How do I know whether a belief I have is lack oriented?’
This is actually quite easy. Don’t make it complicated. The question is simply:
“Does this belief serve me?”
And the way to discern that is with your rational mind. Emotions are good. They are a vital part of living a full and rich life. But the truly sane and emotionally balanced person will know – or will make it a point to discover – what is causing those emotions.
When I question a core belief of yours, are you furious with me because I’m “wrong,” or because you are afraid to even ask the question?
When someone tells you that they love you and you are afraid – is it because you don’t love them, or because you do, and you’re afraid you’ll lose them?
Is it really fear of failure that holds you back? Or is it really fear of success?
So yes, you experience emotions. But don’t make life-altering decisions based solely on them. Feel your emotions, then learn what causes them. Then use your rational mind to decide what is in your highest good.
That means extend the situation to its logical conclusion, and see if the logic holds up. Suddenly your may find that a lot of things that seem sensible on the surface are actually quite insane.
Think about some of your beliefs on money, and when and where you got them.
Some possible beliefs you might have and want to check out:
Rich people are snobby.
You have to have money to make money.
Rich people lie, cheat and steal to get ahead.
It’s spiritual to be poor.
You were born a sorry sinner.
You have any of these? Where did you get them? From who? And when?
Check in on these questions below. Then next time we’ll look at the role having a philosophy plays in forming your beliefs.