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Forgive Yourself

Posted By: Randy GageJuly 1, 2011

You messed up.  Made some mistakes.  Did some things you really regret.  Great.  Welcome to the latest class in the “how to be a human” course.

Now get over it, forgive yourself, and move on.

Any time I fail to be my best self, I have to remind myself that I’m still a student.  I’m still learning to live, love and evolve to the highest level of my soul.  And mistakes are part of the process.  I go into the stillness and ask Infinite Intelligence to guide me closer to my higher self.  And I ask for the courage to make that change.

No one can manifest a life of health, happiness and prosperity without practicing the forgiveness law of prosperity.  And that always starts with yourself.

As you learn to forgive yourself, you’ll find it easier to forgive others.  And doing so creates a vacuum for good to enter your life.  It would be good to review my video on the forgiveness law of prosperity, so I’m embedding it below.

After that video, the question I get is, what about the guy who shot me?  Did I forgive him?  And the answer is of course.  He was a crack addict, looking for his next fix, and he was doing the best he could, with what he had to work with too.  And the truth is, it was a lot easier for me to forgive him, then the doctor!

So here’s your mantra for today:

I release and let go.  I have no regrets, and I love the person I’m becoming and the life I’m living.

You up for that?

P.S. I’m here in Tokyo; the first time I’ve conducted a program here.  That picture today is two of Tokyo's most famous attractions at night, seen from Odaiba: The Rainbow Bridge and the illuminated Tokyo Tower in the background.

 

-RG

36 comments on “Forgive Yourself”

  1. Hi Randy,

    I'm up for that 🙂

    Forgiveness is essential. With it, many things that stick to us (because we stick to them) just fall away with forgiveness. You get to be free, more you and more alive when you don't hold yourself in a state of guilt or resentment.

    Love the video!

    Josip

  2. Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves. To this day I sometimes hit myself when I think about some stupid little thing I said or did 20 years ago? Chances are the people who were around probably don't remember that small moment, but it still makes me want to beat my head against the wall.

  3. Forgiving myself for hurts I know I've caused others from many, many years ago remains a real sticking point for me. I continually have to work on that.

  4. Forgiving other people is a big challenge in itself. (I mean REALLY forgiving, not simply uttering the words.) But I'm working at it, and making some progress. But forgiving myself? That's a tough one!

    Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement, Randy! And have a happy 4th!
    jim

  5. Forgiveness for the past and sometimes even the present when I slip up. Oh well, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you and I love you. I look forward to your post on Independence (freedom) 4th of July post. Not just a holiday.

    Charlene

  6. Randy this is huge i was just on a Radio show and me and a "Channel" were discussing forgiveness she/he LOL! Was speaking that we should not forgive for this keeps us feeling guilty. That we should learn the lesson for both are co-creators of the situation and we both have lessons to learn and we must choose to grow. Mmmmmmm. I added forgiveness has nothing to to with guilt it frees you from the ties of the negative energy and allows you to move forward with some inner peace.

  7. Dear Randy,
    really this is the most important thing that you pointed..
    but it's really hard to do that,can u open it that how should we do that?
    tnx Randy

  8. What an incredible story Randy. If you can forgive those doctors, then anything is possible. Letting go and forgiving yourself is moving towards feeling worthy and being able to love yourself. This can be difficult to achieve, however with constant positive self talk it can be achieved.

  9. There's someone I hate. I enjoy indulging in these feelings but I can't let go. What works for this? Mantras?

  10. This is understandable, I have to swept the past, forgive yourself and others and new life stage begins. But in practice?

    I've made in my ​​life bad things that can not be changed. I am simply the "buried" it, and pretend that I do not remember. Have I forgiven myself?

    I want to share where I found to get help, if the stones in the past are so big that you don't know what to do with them.

    It is the confession of the Catholic Church. Although I go to church very rarely and I am baptized as a Protestant.

    With fact that I come to the confession I declare myself and the Co-creator that I want to find forgiveness.

    Pastor helps me recognize the stone and gives ideas how to look things differently.

    The Co-creator sees and listens my efforts, and I feel how purity coming in me. Confession is a good helper for forgiveness.

  11. Hi Randy,

    We can release on someone when we forgive them. When we don't forgive them, a bond stronger than steel develops between the 2 people.

    No matter how good your day is going, simply thinking about someone who you haven't forgiven can ruin it. I had a few folks in my life who I resisted forgiving for months, even years, and the pain of the perceived offense continued to arise and affect my day in a negative way until I finally decided to release them for good.

    Forgiveness opens you up to so many more possibilities. Holding a grudge keeps you bound to one.

    As for you getting shot, I try to keep this statement in mind at all times: hurt people, hurt people. Anyone who intentionally hurts others in any way is fearful, terrified or scared, and is doing whatever they can to alleviate these feelings. It might take more than a moment to embrace this idea but realizing this concept can immunize you to the mental chaos that holding onto a grudge creates.

    Thanks for sharing your insight Randy. I love it every time I stop by and see a "Ponder-ism" in your posts 😉

    Ryan

  12. Well said Randy!Keep spreading the Joy!
    Forgiveness of oneself is the answer! We all were born to achieve great things but we can settle for less than we deserve!We were all born free! So lift those eagle wings and soar the open skies, love generously and maintain that position of listening as if you were a fly on a wall.The 3rd person perspective. GI JOY XX

  13. Hey Randy,

    The story of you getting shot is intense man! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you ever.

  14. What happened? The day we are silent is the day we lose our rights.---Martin Luther King Jr. 🙂

  15. Hi Randy,
    I love today's lesson.Watched your videon few times I think.Your story is powerful and inpirational.Many people(Including myself for a couple of years) blame themselves for the craziest pieces of nothing(a bad grade,a break up,a lousy performance etc).And you let it go even if you were shot. I noticed that is enough to say to yourself:I love you and I forgive you for all.A great feeling of peace and gratitude is present right after these afirmations.Making from it a habit will definitely change your life for the better.

    Thanks for sharing,
    Radu

  16. This was very, very powerful Randy, and I had a dramatic realization in regard to my self-forgiveness! My twin sister was killed in a car accident when we were 16 years old, I just realized that I still need to forgive myself for living on, while she had to pass over. Thank you for your wisdom!
    ~Melody Lea Lamb

  17. The one thing I tell clients when I start working with them that is non-negotiable, is that they be kind to themselves.

    I think this is pretty much the same message because beating ourselves up for previous indiscretions serves zero purpose.

    Learn and move on.

  18. Great reminder. In the midst of a great transition in my life. This just has reminded me to leave no stone unturned in moving forward. To forgive dosen't meanhat they are off the hook it just meas we have relased them and they are no longer our issue. Forgive them and keep it moving.

  19. Forgiving myself has been on my mind a lot recently. I said a couple of things at work that I regretted afterwards. The first one was inappropriate and I beat myself up about it. I decided to go and apologise to the people involved, and that made all the difference to how I felt. It turned out that they'd forgotten what I'd said. The second one is more recent and a different situation. I was wondering if I statement I made in front of senior management was perceived as being naive. I've just been reminding myself of what happened just a few weeks earlier where the people involved forgot all about it, so even this second time around, I might be blowing it out of proportion. For all I know, they might think that my comment was intelligent and insightful. (That was my original intention). These two situations have had me wonder in amazement that I am capable of making mountains out of a molehills. Like you said Randy, we're only human. We're a work in progress.

  20. Thank you for an excellent example that really drove the point home. I'm sorry that you had to go through hell to be able to share it. I've been struggling with self-forgiveness for quite some time. Why is it easier to forgive others but not so much oneself? I guess it doesn't really matter - the main thing is to accept it all and move forward. I'm just tired of not being able to give 100% to my kids/the people I Love/care about because the space to do that is clogged up with feeling bad. Your alluding to people doing the best they can at that time is very true. The thing is - so was I! Thanks Randy. And, yes, I'm up for it. Blessings to you!

  21. July 5,2011 at 6:36pm

    I always beat myself up for mistakes done.I will apply the mantra.

    Thanks.

  22. Thank you Randy, I really appreciate your on-going messages. I am actively forgiving myself and moving on for joy, happiness and greatness.
    Blessings,
    Terry

  23. always a powerful video Randy, forgiveness its s tough one, but how else to we let go of the garbage that keeps us standing still and bitter. I read your book about the operation so was amazing forgiveness.

  24. Whenever I get in the mode of self-bashing I am using my Mantra: I allow me to think completly good of myself!

    Thank you Randy
    Best
    Martin

  25. Hi Randy,

    what a terrific lesson you are sharing with us. Of course, when watching this video, specific persons who are unforgiving and only hurt themselves came into my mind. Isn't it interesting that we always know what other people's problems are and what they should do to solve them ? That's why I am glad and grateful that you point out that we have to forgive ourselves. What holds true for others, also holds true for ourselves.

    Thanks for sharing your insights.

    Take care

    Oliver

  26. I think forgiveness can definitely be difficult to both grant and attain. I just try to remind myself that when I forgive someone, I am lessening the burden on both of us.

    I admire the depth of your forgiveness, Randy!

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  • 36 comments on “Forgive Yourself”

    1. Hi Randy,

      I'm up for that 🙂

      Forgiveness is essential. With it, many things that stick to us (because we stick to them) just fall away with forgiveness. You get to be free, more you and more alive when you don't hold yourself in a state of guilt or resentment.

      Love the video!

      Josip

    2. Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves. To this day I sometimes hit myself when I think about some stupid little thing I said or did 20 years ago? Chances are the people who were around probably don't remember that small moment, but it still makes me want to beat my head against the wall.

    3. Forgiving myself for hurts I know I've caused others from many, many years ago remains a real sticking point for me. I continually have to work on that.

    4. Forgiving other people is a big challenge in itself. (I mean REALLY forgiving, not simply uttering the words.) But I'm working at it, and making some progress. But forgiving myself? That's a tough one!

      Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement, Randy! And have a happy 4th!
      jim

    5. Forgiveness for the past and sometimes even the present when I slip up. Oh well, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you and I love you. I look forward to your post on Independence (freedom) 4th of July post. Not just a holiday.

      Charlene

    6. Randy this is huge i was just on a Radio show and me and a "Channel" were discussing forgiveness she/he LOL! Was speaking that we should not forgive for this keeps us feeling guilty. That we should learn the lesson for both are co-creators of the situation and we both have lessons to learn and we must choose to grow. Mmmmmmm. I added forgiveness has nothing to to with guilt it frees you from the ties of the negative energy and allows you to move forward with some inner peace.

    7. Dear Randy,
      really this is the most important thing that you pointed..
      but it's really hard to do that,can u open it that how should we do that?
      tnx Randy

    8. What an incredible story Randy. If you can forgive those doctors, then anything is possible. Letting go and forgiving yourself is moving towards feeling worthy and being able to love yourself. This can be difficult to achieve, however with constant positive self talk it can be achieved.

    9. There's someone I hate. I enjoy indulging in these feelings but I can't let go. What works for this? Mantras?

    10. This is understandable, I have to swept the past, forgive yourself and others and new life stage begins. But in practice?

      I've made in my ​​life bad things that can not be changed. I am simply the "buried" it, and pretend that I do not remember. Have I forgiven myself?

      I want to share where I found to get help, if the stones in the past are so big that you don't know what to do with them.

      It is the confession of the Catholic Church. Although I go to church very rarely and I am baptized as a Protestant.

      With fact that I come to the confession I declare myself and the Co-creator that I want to find forgiveness.

      Pastor helps me recognize the stone and gives ideas how to look things differently.

      The Co-creator sees and listens my efforts, and I feel how purity coming in me. Confession is a good helper for forgiveness.

    11. Hi Randy,

      We can release on someone when we forgive them. When we don't forgive them, a bond stronger than steel develops between the 2 people.

      No matter how good your day is going, simply thinking about someone who you haven't forgiven can ruin it. I had a few folks in my life who I resisted forgiving for months, even years, and the pain of the perceived offense continued to arise and affect my day in a negative way until I finally decided to release them for good.

      Forgiveness opens you up to so many more possibilities. Holding a grudge keeps you bound to one.

      As for you getting shot, I try to keep this statement in mind at all times: hurt people, hurt people. Anyone who intentionally hurts others in any way is fearful, terrified or scared, and is doing whatever they can to alleviate these feelings. It might take more than a moment to embrace this idea but realizing this concept can immunize you to the mental chaos that holding onto a grudge creates.

      Thanks for sharing your insight Randy. I love it every time I stop by and see a "Ponder-ism" in your posts 😉

      Ryan

    12. Well said Randy!Keep spreading the Joy!
      Forgiveness of oneself is the answer! We all were born to achieve great things but we can settle for less than we deserve!We were all born free! So lift those eagle wings and soar the open skies, love generously and maintain that position of listening as if you were a fly on a wall.The 3rd person perspective. GI JOY XX

    13. Hey Randy,

      The story of you getting shot is intense man! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you ever.

    14. What happened? The day we are silent is the day we lose our rights.---Martin Luther King Jr. 🙂

    15. Hi Randy,
      I love today's lesson.Watched your videon few times I think.Your story is powerful and inpirational.Many people(Including myself for a couple of years) blame themselves for the craziest pieces of nothing(a bad grade,a break up,a lousy performance etc).And you let it go even if you were shot. I noticed that is enough to say to yourself:I love you and I forgive you for all.A great feeling of peace and gratitude is present right after these afirmations.Making from it a habit will definitely change your life for the better.

      Thanks for sharing,
      Radu

    16. This was very, very powerful Randy, and I had a dramatic realization in regard to my self-forgiveness! My twin sister was killed in a car accident when we were 16 years old, I just realized that I still need to forgive myself for living on, while she had to pass over. Thank you for your wisdom!
      ~Melody Lea Lamb

    17. The one thing I tell clients when I start working with them that is non-negotiable, is that they be kind to themselves.

      I think this is pretty much the same message because beating ourselves up for previous indiscretions serves zero purpose.

      Learn and move on.

    18. Great reminder. In the midst of a great transition in my life. This just has reminded me to leave no stone unturned in moving forward. To forgive dosen't meanhat they are off the hook it just meas we have relased them and they are no longer our issue. Forgive them and keep it moving.

    19. Forgiving myself has been on my mind a lot recently. I said a couple of things at work that I regretted afterwards. The first one was inappropriate and I beat myself up about it. I decided to go and apologise to the people involved, and that made all the difference to how I felt. It turned out that they'd forgotten what I'd said. The second one is more recent and a different situation. I was wondering if I statement I made in front of senior management was perceived as being naive. I've just been reminding myself of what happened just a few weeks earlier where the people involved forgot all about it, so even this second time around, I might be blowing it out of proportion. For all I know, they might think that my comment was intelligent and insightful. (That was my original intention). These two situations have had me wonder in amazement that I am capable of making mountains out of a molehills. Like you said Randy, we're only human. We're a work in progress.

    20. Thank you for an excellent example that really drove the point home. I'm sorry that you had to go through hell to be able to share it. I've been struggling with self-forgiveness for quite some time. Why is it easier to forgive others but not so much oneself? I guess it doesn't really matter - the main thing is to accept it all and move forward. I'm just tired of not being able to give 100% to my kids/the people I Love/care about because the space to do that is clogged up with feeling bad. Your alluding to people doing the best they can at that time is very true. The thing is - so was I! Thanks Randy. And, yes, I'm up for it. Blessings to you!

    21. July 5,2011 at 6:36pm

      I always beat myself up for mistakes done.I will apply the mantra.

      Thanks.

    22. Thank you Randy, I really appreciate your on-going messages. I am actively forgiving myself and moving on for joy, happiness and greatness.
      Blessings,
      Terry

    23. always a powerful video Randy, forgiveness its s tough one, but how else to we let go of the garbage that keeps us standing still and bitter. I read your book about the operation so was amazing forgiveness.

    24. Whenever I get in the mode of self-bashing I am using my Mantra: I allow me to think completly good of myself!

      Thank you Randy
      Best
      Martin

    25. Hi Randy,

      what a terrific lesson you are sharing with us. Of course, when watching this video, specific persons who are unforgiving and only hurt themselves came into my mind. Isn't it interesting that we always know what other people's problems are and what they should do to solve them ? That's why I am glad and grateful that you point out that we have to forgive ourselves. What holds true for others, also holds true for ourselves.

      Thanks for sharing your insights.

      Take care

      Oliver

    26. I think forgiveness can definitely be difficult to both grant and attain. I just try to remind myself that when I forgive someone, I am lessening the burden on both of us.

      I admire the depth of your forgiveness, Randy!

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