Last post I posited that the level of your self-esteem as you reached young adulthood is the single biggest determinant in how wealthy (happy, healthy, and successful) you become. Here’s the most important thing you should know about this: While the state of your self-esteem then impacted where you are now – your self-esteem can be improved. And when you improve your self-esteem, you can break the negative patterns it created, and construct a powerful, positive new pattern.
You can improve your self-esteem – and once you do so – you will become healthier, happier, and wealthier. (And just overall live longer at a higher quality of life.) Really.
Why do so many people enter adulthood with low self-esteem? And more importantly, where do they get it from? Let me share the five most common occurrences…
- Organized religion taught you that you’re not worthy. Religion frequently does this by introducing concepts such as being born in original sin, needing more lifetimes to reach enlightenment, or the belief that this life is only a dress rehearsal and the good stuff comes only after you die.
- Your nuclear family created a belief than you’re substandard. There are literally thousands of possible ways this is done. These include comparing you unfavorably with a sibling, making love conditional, and sexual, physical, or mental abuse.
- Your government fostered an entitlement culture and you developed neediness beliefs about your ability to provide for yourself. This is done by creating “catch-22” scenarios with assistance programs making it difficult to escape them. Governments need you to need them. That’s the only way they can maintain power over you.
- The media may have programmed you into a fear-based consciousness. When everything becomes breaking news and only the worst-case-possible scenarios are highlighted in reporting, you become frightened and cautious, doubting yourself and lowering your self-esteem.
- The education system programmed you to be a drone in the collective. Far too many people escape from the system having actually lowered their ability for free thinking, which is a prerequisite for healthy self-esteem. This happens because so many schools and universities teach to a test, train on memorizing instead of how to think, and have systemic bias based on color, race, and economic factors,
Look at the list and notice what all five examples have in common: They all are subjective beliefs, not facts. If you believe them, they will impact you as if they were facts. But…
If you recognize them for the lies they really are – they are powerless over you.
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