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Are You in Service?

By Randy Gage in Prosperity.

Service to others can be a very dangerous sword.  It can bring you unparalleled joy.  Or it can be another act of codependency, taking care of others above your self, or a continuance of worthiness issues.  

You have to love yourself first, take care of your own needs first and serve yourself first.  Until you are whole, you can’t help others really.  But once you have done that – then serving others can be one of the most rewarding things you can do.  And there is almost no better time to do it than when the holidays and Holy Days are upon us.

Why not think now about how you might serve others this season, and make it your best ever?



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14 thoughts on “Are You in Service?

  1. Hi Randy!

    So true.

    In order to truly be a blessing to someone else you need to take care of yourself first, then you can give your best to others.

    May you have a Happy & Wonderful Thanksgiving!

    ~ Dorene Pierceall

  2. Karina Kazakhstan says:

    I also thought, it’s so weird when someone who is not earning himself go teaching people how they can earn big incomes…..first have to DO himself, ah?

  3. Jeffrey Tang says:

    Randy – a very insightful little post. Most people forget that true service must come from a mature soul, not from a desire for outside approval.

  4. Darrell Schoen says:

    What you posted is true and in line with the ancient scripture: Love the Lord with all your heart, your soul, and mind, and your neighbor AS yourself. If you don’t love/care for yourself, how can you love another? Makes sends to me!

  5. Kathleen Caldwell says:

    In relationship counselRandy,
    Happy Thanksgiving! and thank you for giving us more to be THANKFUL for. Never were your words more true on so many levels.In relationship counseling we’re told, ” Two sick people does not a whole person make”. If we are not happy, whole, at peace and full of love ourselfs, how can we give to another that which we know nothing about. The only thing we can share is our loneliness, bitterness and anger. We will attract the same and two people with cups full of poison will bear children doomed to repeat the same cycle. Ground hog Day. (I experienced this with my parents.) When we love, forgive, nurture, teach the child in us, created in God’s image and intended for great things, we will bless others with the overflow of our cup and truly be of “service” to others. To be a “servant” is to be lower than, unworthy. “Servanthood” in the Godly sense is to make available to others the gifts, talents and compassion that lives in our hearts.
    Again, thankyou, I love you, for helping me to learn, share and grow in the incredible future before me.

  6. David says:

    Most unhappy people I know do not address their own needs. They believe they will be better if they help others while they suffer … only to be more miserable down the road…. go figure.

  7. Jason says:

    I agree…but with caveats:

    Gandhi once said ‘If you want to find yourself, lose yourself in service to others’. I guess this could turn into codependency if approach with the wrong state of mind; there is a big difference between ‘needing’ to service (to feel fulfilled) and offering service selflessly.

    It always comes down to intention…


  8. I won’t give out coins to the street kids, but I will feed them. Sometimes I really enjoy taking my lunch at a corner Food Haus eating with barefoot dirty street kids (also call Rats).

    To those that understand me I chat about reading, work and going to Mass (its important these buggers are around positive people).

    Liked the post.


  9. Melvin Neo says:

    Yes! The Word says, “Love your neighbors as yourself.” You can’t do that without first loving yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you love your neighbors as yourself? 🙂

  10. Rachel Henke says:

    It’s like the flight attendant says… put on your own oxygen mask first! Happy Thankgiving. I can FEEL the quiet even in the UK!

  11. Bernice says:

    You need to give yourself unconditional love and put yourself first. Sometimes others view this as selfish but if you don’t put yourself first you lose yourself. You lose your purpose and your happiness.

    Serving others does bring joy when you love yourself. “Love your neighbors as yourself.”

  12. Michele says:

    Agreeing with Jason’s comment completely. Well said!

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone…

  13. Scott Cofer says:

    I like the fact that you pointed out how serving others brings YOU joy – which is the reason YOU should engage in the act. Serving others shouldn’t be done out of guilt, or for ‘look what I did’ approval.


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