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When to Never Quit

Posted By: Randy GageMay 26, 2009

In yesterday’s post, we talked about when you’re better off to quit something.  (Some really great comments there if you haven’t read already.)  Today let’s look at when to hang on.

I mentioned that many people fail, because they don’t know when to give up on a bad idea.  But the inverse is also true…

People give up on a company right before the stock takes off.  They run from a relationship at the first sign of work.  They quit a business just before the breakthrough.

So when do you fight longer?

If you have a bad idea or business concept that continues to fail, sometimes it is best to let it go.  It is sometimes through trial and error that we discover the real breakthrough concepts.  But have the philosophy, “this or something better.”  Never let go of your ultimate dream of success.  Find another concept and throw yourself into it.

Fight for love.  Love isn’t always easy.  Relationships, even friendships, take a lot of work.  If you aren’t willing to invest in relationships, you’ll go through life devoid of one of its greatest pleasures.  If you are seeing progress and the relationship is generally healthy, it’s probably worth the work.

When someone you love is fighting addiction, or the relationship has reached the point of dysfunction, I think you give it every possible chance, even seeking professional help.  But when it reaches the point of enablement and/or co-dependency, the loving thing to do is to move away.  You’re no longer helping them and you are hurting yourself as well.

If it is you fighting an addiction, you must never give up.  No matter how many times you relapse, you must get up and go another round.  Your sanity and life depend on it.  And don’t think you must do it alone.  Get professional help.

Some things are a hill to die on.  And your dreams of health, happiness and success all qualify for this.

-RG

9 comments on “When to Never Quit”

  1. Oh Randy:

    You had to push my addiction button so early this morning. I've addressed my own problem(s) in previous posts and work as an addictions nurse so this is very near and dear to my heart. You are absolutely correct in that people in addiction should never quit no matter how many times they relapse but unlike food a person does not need illegal drugs and or alcohol in their life ever. Most people who relpase after having a period of success relapsed in their mind long before they take that first drink or drug. Speaking before a group of recovering addicts last week we discussed the idea that the internal work is the hardest. However if/when you accept the idea that drinking or drugging is not an option you can stay clean and sober for 1 day, then 1 week, then 1 year then an entire lifetime. Relapse occurs because somewhere deep down within there is still the stinking thinking that drinking or drugging this time will some how be different.

    BTW, if you watch Intervention on TV you are watching one of the best examples how NOT to do addiction treatment.

    Create A Great Day

  2. HI RANDY

    I agree with you Randy, I'm young but it makes me feel sad seening lot of people quitting on their dreams, because of their age or problems along the way. As you said the pursuit of happiness, success and health it’s worth trying, reach it or die for it.

  3. Randy
    Thanks for these great posts about quitting and never giving up. I believe the key to all of this is communication. How you talk to others and really important how you talk to yourself. Yes, three strikes works great and I use it - because I know that I don't want to swim upstream on my dreams. I like going with the river. But when it comes to relationships I think we forget to talk to each other. We forget to say thank you to the most important people in our lives.

    So Randy, as a person who reads you faithfully and loves your insight - Ttank you for your communication, ideas and thoughts. You make our days better and challenge us to be better people.

  4. Randy,

    Timing, the timing of your post is perfect for the situation I am faced with. Great post. Thank you...

    WT

  5. Hi Randy,

    I think a great way to gauge whether or not you should continue with an effort is to base it on your passion and how it aligns with your values.

    If you're pursuing a relationship or project where the odds are clearly against you, it's still possible to gain value from the pursuit which can include enjoyment, fulfillment and learning. Even if you don't achieve the ultimate goal, you can still come out ahead.

  6. Hi Randy

    Travelling the world on my own has highlighted how important purpose and people are in my life. Not having a stimulating job/work/business to devote my many hours to and not having my friends and family around me every day makes me realise what is most important in my life and what I am looking forward to when I get back home.

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    1. Oh Randy:

      You had to push my addiction button so early this morning. I've addressed my own problem(s) in previous posts and work as an addictions nurse so this is very near and dear to my heart. You are absolutely correct in that people in addiction should never quit no matter how many times they relapse but unlike food a person does not need illegal drugs and or alcohol in their life ever. Most people who relpase after having a period of success relapsed in their mind long before they take that first drink or drug. Speaking before a group of recovering addicts last week we discussed the idea that the internal work is the hardest. However if/when you accept the idea that drinking or drugging is not an option you can stay clean and sober for 1 day, then 1 week, then 1 year then an entire lifetime. Relapse occurs because somewhere deep down within there is still the stinking thinking that drinking or drugging this time will some how be different.

      BTW, if you watch Intervention on TV you are watching one of the best examples how NOT to do addiction treatment.

      Create A Great Day

    2. HI RANDY

      I agree with you Randy, I'm young but it makes me feel sad seening lot of people quitting on their dreams, because of their age or problems along the way. As you said the pursuit of happiness, success and health it’s worth trying, reach it or die for it.

    3. Randy
      Thanks for these great posts about quitting and never giving up. I believe the key to all of this is communication. How you talk to others and really important how you talk to yourself. Yes, three strikes works great and I use it - because I know that I don't want to swim upstream on my dreams. I like going with the river. But when it comes to relationships I think we forget to talk to each other. We forget to say thank you to the most important people in our lives.

      So Randy, as a person who reads you faithfully and loves your insight - Ttank you for your communication, ideas and thoughts. You make our days better and challenge us to be better people.

    4. Randy,

      Timing, the timing of your post is perfect for the situation I am faced with. Great post. Thank you...

      WT

    5. Hi Randy,

      I think a great way to gauge whether or not you should continue with an effort is to base it on your passion and how it aligns with your values.

      If you're pursuing a relationship or project where the odds are clearly against you, it's still possible to gain value from the pursuit which can include enjoyment, fulfillment and learning. Even if you don't achieve the ultimate goal, you can still come out ahead.

    6. Hi Randy

      Travelling the world on my own has highlighted how important purpose and people are in my life. Not having a stimulating job/work/business to devote my many hours to and not having my friends and family around me every day makes me realise what is most important in my life and what I am looking forward to when I get back home.

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