Doesn’t that title today sound callous? I mean here we are talking about upgrading people, much like we would a new car model. It sounds very cold, calculating and selfish.
Maybe it is. But it is sometimes necessary, if you want to move forward.
Last week I mentioned Jim Rohn’s quote about your income being the average of your five closest friends. And went on to say that I think the same thing holds true with your health, relationships, and all forms of prosperity.
I received an email that said, “I cannot believe you'd really pick friends in any way, shape, manner or form based on their income!!! HONESTLY!!! PLEASE tell me you're kidding!!!
“How about the content of their character, their values, their
kindness, their capacity to engage you in a conversation &
stimulate you mentally...none of that matters if they don't EARN ENOUGH!?!? Please!
“My husband and I are EXACTLY the same people we were at each and every stage of our financial rollercoaster.”
Very good questions. Here’s another one:
Do you believe the writer and her husband were EXACTLY the same people they were when they were poor as they are now that they are more prosperous?
I’m sure a lot of people would agree with her, that you shouldn’t pick friends based on how much money they earn. And actually I’d agree.
If I find someone mentally stimulating and interesting to talk to, I like to hang out with them. If they are different than me with other interests, culture, and language it’s wonderful to learn and share with them.
I don’t pick friends by how healthy they are either. Or by how happy they are. However...
When people are always sick, broke and unhappy, I don’t usually like hanging around them. And I tend to get bored with people who stay in the same space in life. I like people who are growing and challenge me.
I want to hang with people who are smarter than me, have a higher consciousness than me, and make more money than me! So I do consciously put myself in situations that put me in contact with those kinds of people. And I do consciously get away from situations that don’t put me in contact with those people. And I sometimes find that I need to move away from certain people in my life who are mired in lack patterns.
Now that doesn’t mean I desert someone because they get sick or injured, and I really don’t care how much money someone makes. But when they are in lack patterns, and the only conversations they can have are lack-centered, I move on. Who needs the negative influence?
What about you? How do you handle these situations? What kind of people do you have in your life? Please share your thoughts and we’ll pick up there on the next post.