Let’s be honest. You usually don’t learn a lot from your wins. It is our defeats, obstacles and challenges that teach us the most. And ultimately, our pain.
That doesn’t mean we want to go around inflicting pain on others, or hoping for more pain ourselves. But no matter how positive or optimistic you may be, you will still face pain.
Get over it.
Or more specifically, stop trying to create a life with no pain. It doesn’t exist. Nor would you want it to.
Take a cue from nature on this. Sunshine and rain are both necessary. So are earthquakes, tornados and hurricanes. Nature doesn’t judge them good or bad, they’re all part of the balance and ecosystem that makes the planet work.
Your life fits in that same process. You are going to have special moments in your life. Amazing experiences. Sensational accomplishments. And some of the other stuff…
There is a certain amount of pain we all must endure. People you love will die. Many things won’t work out the way you hope. It’s all part of the game.
If you’ve never been hurt in love, then you’ve never let yourself be vulnerable and experience the true meaning of love.
You don’t have to seek out pain. But don’t try to create a life avoiding it. When you try to avoid reality, it always catches up with you, in amplified ways. So play the game and take the pain with the joy. And look for the hidden gifts and lessons it has for you.