For years I prided myself on the ability to win any argument. I always got the last word and always smothered the other party with blanket evidence I was right. Took a long time to learn that by controlling my tongue, I gained possession of my mind.
When you gain wisdom you lose the desire to always be right. In fact, you sometimes celebrate being proven wrong, because that is where the learning breakthroughs are.
It takes real self-control to avoid gossip, idle words, and self-defense. But that is when you move from being right to actually becoming wise.
So how you doing on that?