My publisher once refused a book I wanted to write. The desired title was, “Fuck the Homies!” For some reason, they felt it lacked my usual diplomacy, subtlety, and tact.
Then there’s the problem with getting printed on the New York Times list and getting the cover art displayed for the appearance on Good Morning America. Obviously I had some fun with the idea, but the issue of being held back by the people around you is a serious one.
There are two chunks in this problem:
1) We like to surround ourselves with people who give us permission to stay the way we are. We love the safety of our comfort zone.
2) Often our family and friends are invested in keeping us where we are at. They know you as you are, not necessarily as you could be. And sometimes that person you can be - is very threatening to them and their own comfort zone.
One of the greatest gifts you can give another is challenging them, telling them the truth with love. And finding people who will do this with you is one of the greatest gifts you can receive.
So how you doing on this?