Yesterday we explored how people live in fantasy states and prevent themselves from creating prosperous relationships around them. So once you accept reality – how do you attract people around you who have your highest good in mind, and are actually able to help you become a better person? (And you, them?)
You can’t present facades. You have got to allow yourself to be vulnerable. You can’t maintain the “social media you” with the real friends in your life. And you have to be courageous enough to ask for help.
When I was in the throes of my crystal meth addiction, I don’t think anyone close to me was aware of it. Like the vast majority of addicts, I was a functioning one. I was maintaining my social media facade, and it almost killed me.
You saw the Oscars last week? Not one of those winners for best actors could hold a candle to an addict. Why? Because we are acting for our lives. (Or at least that’s what we believe. In truth, we’re really acting for our deaths.)
You have to find at least a couple people you trust, that you can be vulnerable with. People you don’t try and impress with the silly facades society seems to relish, but people who are impressed with you, just because you’re you.
They know you’re not perfect, and that’s why they love you. And you love them. Here’s the ironic thing…
Once you give up the need for approval and show your authentic self, people accept you unconditionally. And that’s the ultimate approval.
The friends you can’t admit your weaknesses to, aren’t really friends at all. If you don’t have real friends, find them. A few tips:
What about you? Got any tips you’d add? Please share them below. (Also, you know I'm back posting here again daily, but everyone else doesn't. So can you please use the share buttons above and spread the word?)