I’ve been president of about four companies, my church board, and the chamber of commerce, and vice president of my condo board and the Viper club. And chaired more committees and served on more boards than I can remember. And this taught me a very important lesson…
You can’t accomplish anything great, without pissing some people off.
And the greater it is, the more people you will piss off. Because for every person seeking to do something great, there are dozens dedicated to safeguarding mediocrity. (And BTW, the inverse is true: If you're not pissing some people off, you're not doing anything great.)
Surround yourself with people who want to be amazing.
Take their counsel, involve them in the process. And when other people are forced on you, due to the structure of organizations and committees, reach out to them and give them an opportunity to be heard. But if you determine that their real agenda is to demean, stay comfortable, or tear down, give their feedback the appropriate weight. Don’t pander to mediocrity to seek approval. When you know deep in your soul that you’re on the right path, let no person deter you from the way.
Some people have settled for mediocrity for so long, they can no longer answer the bell for excellence. In fact, they see anyone who strives for excellence as a threat. Because your success takes away their excuses.
No matter what you do or say, they can’t be won over because they don’t really want to win, want you to win, or the team to win. They want everyone to agree to commiserate with them that great things can’t be accomplished. They’re professional victims. And you’re not the victim whisperer.
When you encounter these people – in work or your personal life – reach out to them. Try to sell them on your vision. But you can’t drag people across the finish line. They’ll be trying to drag you back to the other side.
If they make it clear that this is their intention, raise the force field! Set boundaries on how you will allow yourself to be treated. If they don’t honor the boundaries, get away from them. Fast.
Create a vacuum and you’ll attract the people that want to be amazing and do epic things. Ain’t it great!