So we’ve been discussing the virtues of selfishness and in yesterday’s post I said that trying to make other people happy is dysfunctional craziness. That leads us to the question of whether I am advocating Hedonism…
The philosophy of hedonism holds that only what is pleasant or has pleasant consequences is intrinsically good. The psychology of hedonism holds that all behavior is motivated by the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. I am most decidedly not advocating hedonism, and here’s why…
Simply lusting after pleasure all the time with no regard for the consequences won’t make us happy. And will certainly lead to unhappiness.
And there will be times as many of you pointed out in the comments, where you will choose to help someone over yourself. I have no problem with that and do it on occasion as well.
But the point is, you can only do this if you have taken care of yourself first. Your help can only come from a position of strength. And hedonism produces weakness not strength.
So my goal is to be healthy myself, practice selfishness, and know that a lot of times that selfishness will lead me to help others – because of the joy it brings me.
So what about you?