So we began a fascinating discussion on the last post about self-hate, and how that could come about. The examples I gave already started stirring some controversy. Let’s begin with them again:
So how could this possibly be? Because of one of the most seminal changes in history. A development that came about without much public notice or media fanfare. And this is it:
We now change and develop more from the influence of mind viruses than we do from physical evolution. As usual, the mind is driving the bus. But the problem is, the mind is not thinking clearly. Remember the process I spelled out yesterday. This is the cycle of self-sabotage:
A negative or limiting belief, creates a negative or limiting vision, which inspires negative or limiting actions, which produce negative or limiting results.
And of course most of those limiting beliefs are created by the most virulent mind viruses, which are now assaulting us 24/7. These include the crazy “you’re not worthy” memes programmed by organized religion, the “you need us to take care of you” memes propagated by nanny state governments, and the “everyone should look young, skinny and sexy” memes disseminated by pop culture. We haven’t mentioned the sibling rivalry stuff, limiting beliefs you got from coaches or teachers at school, and I haven’t even started with your mother-in-law.
The point being, you are being assaulted with thousands of mind viruses a day; most of them being negative.
The reason this has become so acute today is the advent of technology. Since the beginning of man, there has always been mind viruses and limiting beliefs. But technology has changed everything…
Television broadcast networks are so monolithic now, and satellite and cable have made them even more so. The Internet energized the information dissemination tidal wave exponentially, and social media and email have accelerated it even more. A mind virus that used to take 150 years to go around the globe can now accomplish the feat within 48 to 72 hours.
The breathtaking spread of the KONY 2012 video movement is the most compelling example of this you may ever see. At least until the next one. (Which might be tonight's 17-minute Obama for America movie, the sequel to Avatar, or a video of a water-skiing hedgehog.)
If you look at the most prevalent mind viruses circulating today – money is bad, rich people are evil, entitlement programs are undeniable human rights, and it’s spiritual to be poor – you can see how they integrate and cascade upon one another, actually creating memeplexes.
Your religion brainwashes you that you’re not worthy before you’re six years old. Your mother tells you that you don't sit up as straight as your sister. Television and teen magazines build an idealist image that you never have a chance to match. Government needs you to be needy and gets you to give away your power. Your date says, “Are you going to wear that?”
If you’re like most people today (which obviously you aren’t, or you wouldn’t still be reading this), you’re watching five to six hours worth of television a day. That means you’re getting 40 to sixty minutes worth of subliminal programming every single evening, to drink beer, sugary sodas and eat lots of pizza and junk food.
This makes you fat, which is exacerbated by all those beautiful bikini models in the Budweiser and Go Daddy commercials. Fortunately there are lots more commercials for diet plans, liposuction, facelifts, Botox, and hair plugs. The amount of neurotic, psychotic programming you receive on a daily basis in the world today is mind blowing. (Almost in a literal sense.)
So let’s go back to our examples…
Someone is raised a Catholic, Mormon, or Muslim, and they are brainwashed at a young age that homosexuality is a choice people make, which disqualifies them from God’s grace. They start to grow up, reach puberty and begin to experience hormonal urges of their natural sexuality – which might be Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender.
Think of all the messages they have already received, and will continue to receive, telling them they are different, bad, evil, unacceptable, flawed, forsaken by God, or all of the above. They can walk in all the Pride marches, and play all the Gloria Gaynor anthems they want – they’re probably going to hate themselves on a subconscious level.
I believe the higher percentages of smoking, unsafe sex, and recreational drug use in the Gay community is a manifestation of death wish acting out – fueled by self-hate.
Let’s suppose you’re a minority who is frequently discriminated against, and grow up in a tenement or barrio. People are afraid to come to your neighborhood, they look away when they see you, and they’re scared to get in an elevator with you. How does that make you feel about yourself?
Take our third possibility. You don’t grow up poor; you actually are blessed to grow up in a wealthy family. Whatever you need or want is provided for you. Meantime you make a friend at school who is extremely poor. You visit their house, see how their family lives, and discover how they struggle. Subconsciously, you’re likely to feel guilty.
You travel the world, see an inner city for the first time. And even though you’re wealthy, you’re still getting bombarded with all the negative programming about rich people and money from all the usual sources. You could actually buy into the mind viruses and begin to hate rich people - even though you are one.
These are just three examples of how this kind of self-hate can come about. There are plenty more. (Let’s say you’re a woman growing up in a country controlled by the Taliban, etc.) Can you see how growing up in situations like these – you might begin to think you’re inferior, or even feel guilty for being born?
Now I don’t expect all this to generate a lot of agreement and amens…
Fundamentalists will likely feel I’m purposing inflaming the discussion by using the term brainwashing. But it’s not a bait. I have to side with Bill Maher on this one: brainwashing is brainwashing. And most of the dogma, doctrines and other propaganda that organized religion is programming kids with today, is unblemished brainwashing.
I may hear it from Gays, suggesting that I’m calling them out on the death wish behavior. But that’s what I see in the community. And understand I’m not saying this to be judgmental. I’m simply presenting my analysis of what I see most, when counseling people whose prosperity is blocked.
The number one issue I see is the one of worthiness, and self-hate is playing a bigger and bigger part. So I’m just calling it as I see it, in the hope that the discussion leads you to the critical thinking that may help you uncover whether you’re affected.
Now this is where the blog is supposed to end…
But something happened as I wrote it: Something that couldn’t be left out. And I must warn you. It will stretch the belief of some of you. In fact, if I was writing for a newspaper, there isn't an editor in America who would publish what you’re about to hear. They would have a hard time believing what happened next…
I'm an open book and people seem to open up to me quickly, often sharing the most intimate stuff, minutes after I meet them. And obviously I believe in the law of attraction, but even I was surprised with what came down next...
I was writing this post while eating dinner at an Asian restaurant in Fort Lauderdale. As I was finishing, the waiter struck up a conversation with me. After a while he introduced himself. Since it was a Thai restaurant I expected him to be Thai. But his name was Arabic. So I asked if he was from Indonesia. He was. Then I asked if he was Muslim. He said he was, but then looked down, and sheepishly said he couldn’t practice it devoutly, because he was Gay.
Within twenty minutes, I pretty much heard the story of his life. He came to Florida to escape the pressure to marry a woman which is so pervasive at home. So he traveled to the other side of the world, and works two jobs, so he can send money home to support his mother, who he loves so dearly, that he cannot tell her he is Gay. He said it would crush her.
I asked if anyone in his family knew. His answer was absolutely chilling…
He said he has told one sister, but not the other. And then he calmly stated that he could never tell his two brothers, because if he did – they would kill him.
He is here on a religious persecution visa, because he had two Gay friends murdered in his hometown. I’ve been there twice, and can confirm this certainly does happen there.
So I ask you…
How would you feel, knowing someone in your own family would kill you, for the perceived disgrace they felt you inflicted on them? And that disgrace was you simply existing as who you were born as.
Think of the kids that get bullied all around the world, whether for sexuality, being poor, being rich, or just being different in some way...
Think of all the suppressive and limiting beliefs the government is shoving down your throat to create an entitlement society of people who need them...
Think of all the oppressive and negative brainwashing being done by fundamentalist extremists in so many different religions around the world...
There are a lot of people with crazy thought processes, trying to infect you with the same crazy shit they believe.
This is the programming that causes self-hate. Stand up and take notice. Because just the awareness and recognition of it, helps dispel some of its power. Then decide, right now, to take back your own power.
There are a lot of people with crazy, dysfunctional and judgmental thinking that are in positions of power or influence. That doesn't mean they are right. It just means they are powerful and influential, and thus very dangerous to your health and welfare.
Examine your core fundamental beliefs. Think how old you were when you adopted them and who taught them to you. And question if they really serve you.
Because if they don’t – if they lead you to believe you are not worthy, not chosen, not good enough, or not equal – that is a crazy belief that you must blow up, and replace with an empowering belief that serves you. Only beliefs that tell you that you are worthy and deserve to enjoy a healthy, happy and productive life of joy, without judgment or persecution, are beliefs that serve you and should be adopted.
The Democrats have the right to think you need to be protected by a socialistic nanny state. The Republicans have the right to think they should police the activity in your bedroom. Cult leaders have the right to tell you that you don't deserve the grace of God. Media personalities have the right to tell you that poverty is a virtue. Racists have the right to tell you that their race is superior to yours.
And you have the right to listen to their beliefs, evaluate them, and recognize them for the crazy, unhealthy and dangerous beliefs they actually are.
Don’t let other people’s limiting beliefs become yours.