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Self-Belief for Success

Posted By: Randy GageMarch 18, 2011

Some great comments on the last post about how you overcome negative self-beliefs that trigger your self-preservation instinct and cause you to hold back from attempting great things. But you do know you are meant to attempt great things right???

And I do mean GREAT Things.  So how do you build positive self-belief?

Two very different scenarios I’ll throw at you; both which can work…

Method one is the incremental process.  You build small victories, constructing your confidence and belief with each step.

Method two is the valiant, crazy jump.  You attempt something so bold, daring and audacious that the allure of the ultimate reward pulls you over your fear.  You simply decide to override your fears and go for it.

I’ve had success with both ways, but the bold option seems to motivate me better.  What about you?

-RG

32 comments on “Self-Belief for Success”

  1. Definitely the bold, audacious, crazy way seems to be my natural inclination. 🙂

    But I'm learning about the other way now too - which helps my mom sleep better at night, so it has its payoffs.

    Love ya. xoxo

  2. Randy, another option is a big RELATED jump. I am 49 and ran in my first half marathon last year. A lot of my friends are slowing down. At this stage in my life I am ramping up. This was a huge confidence builder. It shifted me into thinking what ELSE am I capable of. On the physical side, I am doing another half marathon in June, and then have signed up for a full marathon. This bold achievement in one area of my life is fueling greater belief in what I can accomplish in other areas of my business life. Achievement drives possibility thinking which drives more achievement.

  3. I think which method works best depends on the consequences of failure. If you take a bold, crazy leap of faith that fails (it can happen), and if the consequences aren't too terrible, then I prefer bold and crazy. If you fail, you lick your wounds and try again.

    But sometimes the consequences of failure can be so bad that they undo all the progress you've made, sending you back to square one. Your sense of self-esteem hasn't been wounded, it's dead. In such a case, small incremental victories may be slower, but your ultimate success is assured.
    jim

  4. I committed to the European Travel Incentive 2011 "Heaven on Earth". That is HUGE for me, as I have no previous experience with network marketing, and I´m scared to death, just by the thought, but I´m going for it.

    Lene 🙂

  5. Hi Randy,
    I have have hauled around with me a large sack of fear, doubt and self loathing all my life.
    As the sack of victories and encouragement has grown, the sack of lies has shrunk. Now it is just a lump in my pocket. It's time to take not just one, but several "leaps of faith" and know that wherever I land it will be worth the effort. The worst thing that can happen will be that I learned what didn't work (but will not mean that I am less of a person) and the best thing will be another giant stepping stone to the brilliant future that awaits me.
    Thanks for holding my hand/kicking my butt when needed, Randy.
    All things are possible with clear vision and good mentoring.

  6. RG,
    I have done the increments and followed "The SLight Edge", I like the bold jump better.

    I have also learned that by the time I do it I have already done it.
    Thanks
    Jim

  7. I'd like to say The Big Jump...tho what felt like a Big Jump last year looks like a little hop from here. And I presume that the Big Jump I'm working on NOW will be a pretty small hop when I glance back at it in 2012.
    Some people say "Feel the Fear (& do it anyway)" I guess they like to feel like Heroes. I've been listening to "Let's Despise the Slaves" on Prosperity TV today ;>)
    I am going to say "Forget the Fear. It is SO not important."
    I have set a Big Goal; I'm just doing the Next Thing, calmly & joyfully. Peaceful Joyful Jumping, la la la. That's what works for me.

  8. BIG Leap ...
    Land Safely ...
    Celebrate ...
    Repeat.

    (Not to mention it gives the ground crew a great show, someone to cheer on and job security!) 😉

    K

  9. P.S. - Just wanted to say I have really missed posting here with you guys lately!

    Tail end of week 3 of the 'mung flu'. Almost my old self again ... nah - let's be optimistic and say 'better than my old self'!!!

    🙂

      1. Ha ha - absolutely! ... (Right after I get him to sign the prescription for a week of R&R in an over-water, glass-bottom hut on a Tahitian island.) 🙂

    1. Kimbralee, I wondered what happened to you. I am so glad you are well again. Sorry you had flumung, I just learned that word. I tried to send you hearts the other day and they didn't turn out well, so I will try again. 🙂 Just imagine some hearts.

      Now, I have to tell you this really terrible story, because it is late and I just have the need to share it. When I was in first grade I had this really horrible old man teacher, and he made us call him "Leo". I never wanted to, I would have rather called him "Mr." something, because he was not my friend.

      Okay, let me get to it. It was Valentine's Day and "Leo" had us small children cut out red construction paper hearts to put on the bulletin board in our classroom. Not so bad, I enjoyed the activity and was quite pleased with my little heart.

      Then that terrible old man got to putting our "hearts" on the bulliten board. Then the most awful thing occured, he got to my heart, and on a ladder in front of the class he said "Who made this heart it looks like a tomato!" Of course I did not claim it as my own. My little six year old heart sank. 🙁

      But, just for you, I will send you some of my hearts even if they don't look right, and I will claim them as my own. 🙂

      1. For Kimbralee: ©©©

        They look like like tomatoes. But you know what they really are. Really, why are they like that?

        Annie

        1. Awww Annie,

          No one has ever given me a bunch of tomatoes before - I love them and I am feeling much better!

          Thank you! 😉
          xoxo

          K♥

  10. I think depending on where you are with your self belief determines which avenue works. If you are building your beliefs then take route 1 and build upon your small success's. If you have developed the ability to overcome the fear and take action, then option 2 is possible but can lead you straight back to option 1 if you don't evaluate, educate and feel a burning desire for the outcome. I've taken the train and the jet and looking back enjoyed the train rides and wrecks much more than the jet. I was able to celebrate the success as I went along with 1. With 2, it's like a hot passionate night of sex that awakens you to a reality you would not have chosen to be in if you took time to evaluate. I think this site is all about identifying and progressing so my conclusion would be to take the slow and steady choice and enjoy the ride.

  11. Hi everyone...

    There's a time and a place for both methods of progress. My biological tendency is toward the slow and steady, plan-an-execute way. But the Hail-Mary style...there's a high to it, I don't know how else to put it! It's awesome, scary, thrilling, down-to-your-soul stuff, even if it doesn't work out the way you planned (which is in no way a euphemism for "fail"). Leap and the net will be there.

    But I don't see these two styles as mutually exclusive. They can enhance and balance each other.

  12. Of course we all have our definitions of small and bold leaps. What some think are bold steps will be small to others and vice versa. Studies tell us that big, bold steps work for a very samll part of the population. The vast majority does much better with small steps (see the book, "One Small Step Can Change Your Life" by Dr Robert Maurer). There's an old saying, "think big, start small."

  13. Hi Randy,

    The bold option.

    I've also done well with both strategies but the cool thing about the bold approach is that your ego doesn't have the time to figure everything out when you jump right it.

    Ego out of the way - universe comes fully into play. You're in the moment, and that's when magic happens.

    Thanks for sharing!

    RB

  14. I always go for the bold one but what i found is that in building the foundation for the bold one inevitably you get small wins along the way. And actually i don't look at them at wins because is nothing to win it's is just manifestation of what this experience of live caused you to desire(become). So is actually a remembering of that. Creation is done! You don't have to recreate creation. Wright broders didn't invented the air plains they discover the way an object heavier than air can fly... that was already here, everything is already here, you are that, you are. So everything that you desired from your small window of seeing YOU(some ego-s call that god) is already here, you are that, you are.. but only when you align with the creation you start remembering the part(conditions) that makes the manifestation of the desired outcome inevitable and spontaneous.. you let go of the window through you see the world you recognize you are the world... you are infinite intelligence and you start to live fully from that.

  15. I live in Switzerland and my biggest challenge with living in such a conservative place is that if you think big people think you are nuts. Every speaker I have brought from America, 75 percent of people here ask if it's a sect! This is why I love to nourish my dare factor with blogs such as this one. Thank you everyone......

    To be a champ, you have to believe in yourself when nobody else will."

    --Sugar Ray Robinson
    1920-1989, Boxer

    Also 2 quotes from America's most successful woman
    Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.
    Oprah Winfrey

    I believe that one of life's greatest risks is never daring to risk.
    Oprah Winfrey

    1. Dear Hilary, how I understand you!! I'm born Swiss but left 'home' 6 years ago again. After years at sea, working on cruise ships, one is hardly compatible with the Swiss way of living and thinking. Right now, calling my friends with my new business makes me feel like an alien from another planet...too much energy and joy of life...
      Love to all of you

  16. I like to use both Method 1 and 2. Here is why. By achieving small victories you will increase your confidence while pursuing your bold and Audacious Goal. Usually your Bold And Audacious goal will take some time to achieve.

  17. For me it's the incremental approach. I've tried the crazy jump on a few occasions and didn't succeed, so it put me off and now I'm actually scared of taking that approach because I've ended up feeling worse for it. Incremental is far more positive for me.

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  • 32 comments on “Self-Belief for Success”

    1. Definitely the bold, audacious, crazy way seems to be my natural inclination. 🙂

      But I'm learning about the other way now too - which helps my mom sleep better at night, so it has its payoffs.

      Love ya. xoxo

    2. Randy, another option is a big RELATED jump. I am 49 and ran in my first half marathon last year. A lot of my friends are slowing down. At this stage in my life I am ramping up. This was a huge confidence builder. It shifted me into thinking what ELSE am I capable of. On the physical side, I am doing another half marathon in June, and then have signed up for a full marathon. This bold achievement in one area of my life is fueling greater belief in what I can accomplish in other areas of my business life. Achievement drives possibility thinking which drives more achievement.

    3. I think which method works best depends on the consequences of failure. If you take a bold, crazy leap of faith that fails (it can happen), and if the consequences aren't too terrible, then I prefer bold and crazy. If you fail, you lick your wounds and try again.

      But sometimes the consequences of failure can be so bad that they undo all the progress you've made, sending you back to square one. Your sense of self-esteem hasn't been wounded, it's dead. In such a case, small incremental victories may be slower, but your ultimate success is assured.
      jim

    4. I committed to the European Travel Incentive 2011 "Heaven on Earth". That is HUGE for me, as I have no previous experience with network marketing, and I´m scared to death, just by the thought, but I´m going for it.

      Lene 🙂

    5. Hi Randy,
      I have have hauled around with me a large sack of fear, doubt and self loathing all my life.
      As the sack of victories and encouragement has grown, the sack of lies has shrunk. Now it is just a lump in my pocket. It's time to take not just one, but several "leaps of faith" and know that wherever I land it will be worth the effort. The worst thing that can happen will be that I learned what didn't work (but will not mean that I am less of a person) and the best thing will be another giant stepping stone to the brilliant future that awaits me.
      Thanks for holding my hand/kicking my butt when needed, Randy.
      All things are possible with clear vision and good mentoring.

    6. RG,
      I have done the increments and followed "The SLight Edge", I like the bold jump better.

      I have also learned that by the time I do it I have already done it.
      Thanks
      Jim

    7. I'd like to say The Big Jump...tho what felt like a Big Jump last year looks like a little hop from here. And I presume that the Big Jump I'm working on NOW will be a pretty small hop when I glance back at it in 2012.
      Some people say "Feel the Fear (& do it anyway)" I guess they like to feel like Heroes. I've been listening to "Let's Despise the Slaves" on Prosperity TV today ;>)
      I am going to say "Forget the Fear. It is SO not important."
      I have set a Big Goal; I'm just doing the Next Thing, calmly & joyfully. Peaceful Joyful Jumping, la la la. That's what works for me.

    8. BIG Leap ...
      Land Safely ...
      Celebrate ...
      Repeat.

      (Not to mention it gives the ground crew a great show, someone to cheer on and job security!) 😉

      K

    9. P.S. - Just wanted to say I have really missed posting here with you guys lately!

      Tail end of week 3 of the 'mung flu'. Almost my old self again ... nah - let's be optimistic and say 'better than my old self'!!!

      🙂

        1. Ha ha - absolutely! ... (Right after I get him to sign the prescription for a week of R&R in an over-water, glass-bottom hut on a Tahitian island.) 🙂

      1. Kimbralee, I wondered what happened to you. I am so glad you are well again. Sorry you had flumung, I just learned that word. I tried to send you hearts the other day and they didn't turn out well, so I will try again. 🙂 Just imagine some hearts.

        Now, I have to tell you this really terrible story, because it is late and I just have the need to share it. When I was in first grade I had this really horrible old man teacher, and he made us call him "Leo". I never wanted to, I would have rather called him "Mr." something, because he was not my friend.

        Okay, let me get to it. It was Valentine's Day and "Leo" had us small children cut out red construction paper hearts to put on the bulletin board in our classroom. Not so bad, I enjoyed the activity and was quite pleased with my little heart.

        Then that terrible old man got to putting our "hearts" on the bulliten board. Then the most awful thing occured, he got to my heart, and on a ladder in front of the class he said "Who made this heart it looks like a tomato!" Of course I did not claim it as my own. My little six year old heart sank. 🙁

        But, just for you, I will send you some of my hearts even if they don't look right, and I will claim them as my own. 🙂

        1. For Kimbralee: ©©©

          They look like like tomatoes. But you know what they really are. Really, why are they like that?

          Annie

          1. Awww Annie,

            No one has ever given me a bunch of tomatoes before - I love them and I am feeling much better!

            Thank you! 😉
            xoxo

            K♥

    10. I think depending on where you are with your self belief determines which avenue works. If you are building your beliefs then take route 1 and build upon your small success's. If you have developed the ability to overcome the fear and take action, then option 2 is possible but can lead you straight back to option 1 if you don't evaluate, educate and feel a burning desire for the outcome. I've taken the train and the jet and looking back enjoyed the train rides and wrecks much more than the jet. I was able to celebrate the success as I went along with 1. With 2, it's like a hot passionate night of sex that awakens you to a reality you would not have chosen to be in if you took time to evaluate. I think this site is all about identifying and progressing so my conclusion would be to take the slow and steady choice and enjoy the ride.

    11. Hi everyone...

      There's a time and a place for both methods of progress. My biological tendency is toward the slow and steady, plan-an-execute way. But the Hail-Mary style...there's a high to it, I don't know how else to put it! It's awesome, scary, thrilling, down-to-your-soul stuff, even if it doesn't work out the way you planned (which is in no way a euphemism for "fail"). Leap and the net will be there.

      But I don't see these two styles as mutually exclusive. They can enhance and balance each other.

    12. Of course we all have our definitions of small and bold leaps. What some think are bold steps will be small to others and vice versa. Studies tell us that big, bold steps work for a very samll part of the population. The vast majority does much better with small steps (see the book, "One Small Step Can Change Your Life" by Dr Robert Maurer). There's an old saying, "think big, start small."

    13. Hi Randy,

      The bold option.

      I've also done well with both strategies but the cool thing about the bold approach is that your ego doesn't have the time to figure everything out when you jump right it.

      Ego out of the way - universe comes fully into play. You're in the moment, and that's when magic happens.

      Thanks for sharing!

      RB

    14. I always go for the bold one but what i found is that in building the foundation for the bold one inevitably you get small wins along the way. And actually i don't look at them at wins because is nothing to win it's is just manifestation of what this experience of live caused you to desire(become). So is actually a remembering of that. Creation is done! You don't have to recreate creation. Wright broders didn't invented the air plains they discover the way an object heavier than air can fly... that was already here, everything is already here, you are that, you are. So everything that you desired from your small window of seeing YOU(some ego-s call that god) is already here, you are that, you are.. but only when you align with the creation you start remembering the part(conditions) that makes the manifestation of the desired outcome inevitable and spontaneous.. you let go of the window through you see the world you recognize you are the world... you are infinite intelligence and you start to live fully from that.

    15. I live in Switzerland and my biggest challenge with living in such a conservative place is that if you think big people think you are nuts. Every speaker I have brought from America, 75 percent of people here ask if it's a sect! This is why I love to nourish my dare factor with blogs such as this one. Thank you everyone......

      To be a champ, you have to believe in yourself when nobody else will."

      --Sugar Ray Robinson
      1920-1989, Boxer

      Also 2 quotes from America's most successful woman
      Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.
      Oprah Winfrey

      I believe that one of life's greatest risks is never daring to risk.
      Oprah Winfrey

      1. Dear Hilary, how I understand you!! I'm born Swiss but left 'home' 6 years ago again. After years at sea, working on cruise ships, one is hardly compatible with the Swiss way of living and thinking. Right now, calling my friends with my new business makes me feel like an alien from another planet...too much energy and joy of life...
        Love to all of you

    16. I like to use both Method 1 and 2. Here is why. By achieving small victories you will increase your confidence while pursuing your bold and Audacious Goal. Usually your Bold And Audacious goal will take some time to achieve.

    17. For me it's the incremental approach. I've tried the crazy jump on a few occasions and didn't succeed, so it put me off and now I'm actually scared of taking that approach because I've ended up feeling worse for it. Incremental is far more positive for me.

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