I had some real fun reading your replies to yesterday’s post on the relationship seminars you’d lead. Quite an interesting line up to choose from!
It was good to see mostly everyone taking responsibility for the patterns they’ve been repeating. Not very often you will see that in the herd. I did get a few emails from people that felt they were victimized in relationships. So I thought it would be some more fun to look up the definitions of victim. Here’s what I came up with:
1. One who is harmed or killed by another: Ex: a victim of a mugging;
2. A living creature slain and offered as a sacrifice during a religious rite.
3. One who is harmed by or made to suffer from an act, circumstance, agency, or condition: victims of war.
4. A person who suffers injury, loss, or death as a result of a voluntary undertaking: Ex: You are a victim of your own scheming.
5. A person who is tricked, swindled, or taken advantage of:
And boy, don’t those work for people who want to stay in victim-hood! Number four is the only one that speaks of being in any way responsible yourself. And even that one still hints at you being victimized.
So for all of you relationship victims out there – here’s your thought for today, courtesy of the Course in Miracles:
There are no victims, only volunteers.