Last post we discussed how your ego defense mechanisms can become so strong that they lead you into self-delusion. Which unfortunately happens to millions of people. You don’t want to be one of them.
The best way I know to avoid this is having at least one, and hopefully two or three, people in your life that you can use to check things out.
These are people who know you well, love you and want the highest good for you. And most importantly, they will be brutally honest with you. Brutally honest, with love.
When they think you treated someone unfairly and owe them an apology, they’ll tell you. If you’re dealing with addiction, dysfunctional relationships, or other self-destructive behavior – they won’t be afraid to step in, because they love you enough to confront you. If your ego is getting out of control and you’re heading towards narcissism, they’ll give you a wake up call.
They’ll do all this for you because they love you and want the highest good for you – and they know that you will provide the same check for them.
These kinds of relationship are difficult and require serious effort to maintain them. But ultimately, they the only ones that will make a real difference in who you become.
This total and unvarnished honestly is the highest value I have in my own relationships. And I’m fortunate enough to have developed five or six such relationships in my life.
How about you?
How many have you developed? You really need to think about that and know who they are. And if you don’t have any yet, you need to change that quickly!