So when do we cross the line from denial and not facing reality—which the herd would constantly tell us—versus having a prosperity mindset and overcoming self-imposed limitations?
Well I’ll tell you right up front—I am either the worst person in the world to ask this question, or the best.
I am the guy who sold his furniture and slept on the floor to grow my business. Twice. And I am certainly glad I did. I wouldn’t change anything, because that is what molded me into the person I have become, and created what success I have had.
I am wildly optimistic, am a hopeless dreamer, and I see the potential in everything and everybody. And I usually find a way to bring it forth.
The average person sees a deal and figures it’s worth $50.000. I estimate it’s an easy $5 million. Usually we are both wrong. But instead of $5 million, I end up with half a million. Which the average person never gets because they think it’s worth $50,000 and settle for $20,000.
And you know what?
If you keep picking up half a million here, and half a million there, pretty soon you have enough to shop Prada.
That doesn’t mean this mindset is for everybody...
Looking through my apartment I have two different sofas that cost more than 20 grand apiece. In my younger days I couldn’t have spent that on a house! But those sofas and all the other beautiful things in my home are because I was willing to sleep on the floor at one point. I was young, somewhat foolish, but absolutely certain of my eventual success.
I’d like to think that I am older and wiser now. And a better financial planner. But I still think that sometimes you have to jump off the cliff and grow your wings on the way down.
I never plan to sell my furniture again. But I sure hope I never lose that drive, determination, and absolute confidence in my dreams.
So what about you? Are you playing it safe, or really going for it?
This year I am really going for it. I have experienced both wealth and poverty and know which I prefer. I have also lost everything twice and had to start over, I'm not gonna do that any more. I made some tough decisions this year re my business and am changing things, I'm working harder this year than I have for many years and I am loving it. I am getting out there more in a bigger and better way and whilst I've been busy organising all that, the abundance has steadily rolled in. The time of delusion and illusion is over, it's time to Walk the Talk!
I agree, gotta jump off the cliff at some point to grow your wings, or more appropriately, learn to use your wings which are already there, but you don't even know that they are there, let alone how to use them.
I am going for it... Often wondering if I am taking too big riscs, but at the same time I know that I will nevet get where I want to be if I hold back now.
I definitely shoot for the stars. And yea, it usually doesn't turn out exactly like I think - but in my mind it's better to shoot for the stars and only hit the edge of the moon than to shoot for the sky and only hit the edge of a tree!
(That was a little cheesy... but you get my point)
Great post as usual, I think there is a difference in the two concepts that you are writing about.
We all get what we expect deep inside. You expect a lot and get a lot, or most of what you expect while others may have lower expectations the same will apply.
The delusion part comes from expecting a lot but thinking that it will come with no action on the part of one expecting it.
I think that is the delusional point, regardless of where your expectations are high or low.
Keep up the great work!
Here's to Your LifetoSuccess,
After reading your blog early this morning, I sat in the living room talking with my wife and said the following: I'm going to jump in search of my dreams, you're clinging to everything and if you free, you will not to meet yours. This will have a sequel. MV
Thanks for today's post Randy. I really needed to read this. I was reading an excerpt from a Jim Rohn book this morning (7 Strategies About Wealth and Happiness). Jim was talking about the power of dreams. I think now that I've heard this twice in one day -- before 9:00 a.m. I better believe in the power of my dreams and get on with it.
I take the middle path...but contemplate pure optimism from time to time.
My true nature is to to be the dreamer, to see the potential in everything and everyone as well. When I am focused on that it connects me to the ideas and inspiration that I enjoy flowing through me. It's the feeling of receiving those delicious ideas and knowing that I have put previous work behind them in order to make them a reality, that drives me forward.
So, I choose to believe in the dream. But choosing where to put my eyes depends upon which dream to invest in, and contemplating THAT for too long shuts off the stream of optimism.
That's why I choose the middle path, for flowers to bloom where I am as well as where my future sight is. So hows it working?
I think I need to choose more deliberately on the future dream.
I try not to second guess myself. I tend to think that I should not gamble what I can't afford to lose.
I'm not the wheeler and dealer type. I have met and worked with people who are financially rich who have tried to "take me under their wing".
I certainly don't become a "mini me" for that kind of manager (patronising arseholes). I am an individual and have lost jobs because of it.
I prefer the quiet life but would like, of course, to be financially well off. I have ideas all time but they never get off the drawing board because of my own limitations. I don't have an entrepreneurial mind and frankly can't be bothered putting up with all the stress and the money lovers.
Randy, I am really going for it and even though the progress is slow, I have jumped off the cliff and it seems I am flying at the moment. With my startup companies succeeding, I just got a couple of calls for two real estate projects that could pocket upwards of $500k. As I said earlier in the week, we have to stay in motion and not sit down and wait. Waiting accomplishes nothing and movement puts us in positions to see opportunities.
thanks for the pep talk this morning it was just what the doctor ordered.L.O.L You bring up a good point about not dreaming big enough. If we at least reach for the stars, we'll at least make it part of the way.
You continue to inspire and encourage me.
Thank you and have a great week!
Lucinda (The Opera Diva)
Thankyou Mr. Gage for providing this blog for us. I think that financial and business decisions are best rooted in reality. I never thought that selling one's furniture is a good idea because you'll get 30 cents on the dollar at best. Anyone who wants to sell their furniture should think twice - its better to get a loan. You can always dream big sales for your business as long as you do not have to risk losing any money.
I´m thinking A LOT about these things at the moment.And I have much experience in changing my life from one day to the other and I know it works-you sooner or later get at least the basic of what you need.Unfortunately,I have started in an MLM business and I am not happy with how the people in it works.And it is a big question for me now:Is that an excuse for not doing anything?Is it impossible for me to duplicate because I simply don´t share the view and thoughts?Do I have a future here, just have to found out how?Does life work that way?It is so difficult and I don´t know what to do about it,because right now I cannot create any forces for this my new thing who I was so excited about.Is it my temperament,am I too lazy?But I REALLY want to work MUCH NOW.
I know you have talked about this,that we duplicate our sponsor and it is important what we do everyday etc.Any advice?How do I know what is the good thing to do when I have started something?is my question to you!Thank you
Randy! I like so much your mindset! You are the right example of the things can be changed. You are guiding me by your example.
Evreyday I read your message!
Bless you all!
Best Regards from Guadalajara, Mexico
Thanks, Randy. I've been needing to hear this recently.
Love your thinking Randy. Why is it that the people closest to you always try to ground you? I stopped listening to those around me and have been stretching to hit new BIG goals. This has brought me to the point in the last 6 months of working on 2 multi million $ deals for my company that would get my bank account bulging.
Like John Madden used to say, "Don't worry about the horse being blind, just load the wagon".
Thank you for being one of the people I have around me who knows I am going for it. I have also sold everything and started over before. Sometimes those times are exhilarating because there is no baggage left over and nowhere to go but up.
This time I have burned the exit strategies, I have dozens of people who are counting on my success, watching and supporting it in their own way and everything is at risk as well. The little ‘shack’ I live in is going to decked out soon… not that it isn’t finished nicely now… and there is much more to accomplish.
I could do this without you but that would reduce the fun by a couple million or more.
I've decided to go for it this year. Pedal-to-the-metal!!
I've said this a few times in my past comments to your posts that I don't plan to add my comment... I always intend just to log in and read and get fed with the spiritual food and log right out. I keep failing my intended plan coz the way you put your thoughts in writing truly motivates me to add one more comment...and one more comment. I hate to do it, actually, coz this language is not what I grew up with and I tend to write such a lengthy writing talking on and on and on, as if you were sitting in front of me.
You certainly are the best person to ask your first question in the first paragraph. Just to think about how you lived your life when you were young - selling your furniture, eating macaroni day and night, the guy who owned the furniture store (was it a furniture store) telling you, 'you're a loser!,' you were giving a gift of $1 in the church when you have only $6 or 7, and your eyes, looking at your $1 going away in the isle.. and then you got $60 back from nowhere...on and on.. you a simply a walking testimony of going from being broke, sleeping on the floor to the world's top MLM legend.
Yes, you truly are wildly optimistic and hopeless dreamer. The difference between you and most other people is that you manifested your dream to the fullest with your belief and persistence. That energy itself is awesome and can be used as a powerful tool to convey the truth 'nothing is abolutely impossible' to world's citizens and bring the world in proper 'meant-to-be' place. I sometimes think that you can even establish a huge church filled with wild dreaming followers to fulfill their goals, dreams and their spirituality, and you being a highest leader/priest/pastor speaking in front of the vast number of people in person and through the satelite to the whole world. That would be very awesome, and as one of the world's audience, I will shout, 'Well done, our hero Randy Gage!'
[But I still think that sometimes you have to jump off the cliff and grow your wings on the way down.....I never plan to sell my furniture again. But I sure hope I never lose that drive, determination, and absolute confidence in my dreams.]
I hear you, Randy. I've got natural guts to have done what people normally wouldn't had even tried to do in the first place because they were perfectly normal living in this world. But I sometimes find my natural part of me (not my spiritual being) beginning to learn the earth's reality and its limit like everyone else, and beginning to hesitate to go further sometimes simply because this quiet tiger realizes it's got no wings to fly - the kind of wings that would often help keep us from hesitating from going forth opposing to humanness and human emotions and all... like many people. If these wings find this tiger, she could maintain that drive, determination, and absolute confidence in her dreams to the ultima
tely fullest, becoming a Tiger (GRRRR..) with the wings. ...But, seriously, you're saying that sometimes we have to jump off the cliff without our wings and grow our wings ON THE WAY down, instead of going through a waiting period (being in the comfort zone in a sense) of obtaining the wings to make sure before jumping off the cliff. I love the way you put in words, by the way. It really does take a real faith to do that, doesn't it, and I think I do. Although I like to believe that I do have a strong child-like faith/belief, but related to the thing that you questioned to us in yesterday's post.. I must admit that there are certain areas in my life that I've been accepting mediocrity, to be honest.. I'm learning. As one of the inspirational quotes say: There are no failures, just experiences and our responses to them..
Your blog is certainly inspirational and food to feed my spirit everyday. You are truly an inspirational and motivational human being, and I am very glad to have met you in my life.Thank you. Randy, may I add one more thing though... in life, sometimes it takes more faith to endure trials and difficulties than it does to receive miracles...And that is also real faith - faith that endures whatever is before us. Pls forgive me for my incredibly almost annoyingly lengthy comment. I'll try not to write a comment of a similar length in the future again. I love you, Randy. May God continue to bless you. hugs::: Saachi
Yes the universe is sending you a message!
I think it is time to second guess yourself. Or at least some of your foundational beliefs. Your philosophy seems to be at odds with what you say you want.
Yes please don't take my selling my furniture as a sound business strategy; it's not! It was simple desperation for me to be able to eat! I don't recommend it.
The question you have to ask is whether your sponsorship line is working with integrity, in duplicable, and getting results. Be sure and follow the blog on my other site, which is specifically for the Network Marketing business: http://www.NetworkMarketingTimes.com
🙂 Love this!
Please stop apologizing for making comments. It is the comments that add great depth and perspective to this blog. And your English is fine!
Great stuff. Going for it here in Indy! Vacations for us right now is going to events. Getting uncomfortable daily and soaking up info and learning on the "job" as we build this into our ft profession. Thanks for your knowledge and mentoring.
As I'm just at that point of making a huge and exciting (and maybe a little scary) decision, this post couldn't have come at a better time!
Thanks for encouraging me, even if you have no idea how! 🙂
TRUE!This blog is the most fantastic blog ever made BECAUSE you write amazing things AND the answering is really of great value-you create a space where people can be themselfes and I feel so good about it!
Very strong, I love this one....
When I was younger and would settle into my comfort zone I would sleep on the floor, either by choice or because I had to, and this would break my comfort zone.
Too many people are playing Farmville and not working on their dreams. Thanks for being you RG!
"Too many people are playing Farmville and not working on their dreams."
This has to be the sagest thing I've heard all month!
Hey! Loved this one. Hit the nail right on the head. It's all about what we want and what's the price we are willing to pay for it.
I took the time to translate it to Spanish ... for the benefit of another, what? 400 million people?! 🙂
Team, please feel free to share with your Spanish speaking friends!
Mentalidad Positiva vs. Falsa ilusiÃ³n
Entonces, Â¿cuando es que cruzamos la lÃnea entre estar en negaciÃ³n, no queriendo ver la realidad (que es lo que "el rebaÃ±o" constantemente nos dice), versus tener una mentalidad de prosperidad, sobreponiÃ©ndonos a limitaciones auto-impuestas?
Bueno, te lo digo desde ahora.
Yo soy la peor persona en el mundo para hacerle esa pregunta. O la mejor.
Soy el tipo que vendiÃ³ sus muebles y durmiÃ³ en el piso para poder crecer mi negocio. Dos veces. Y estoy muy feliz de haberlo hecho. No lo cambiarÃa por nada, porque eso fue lo que me moldeÃ³ en la persona en que me he convertido, creando el Ã©xito que he tenido.
Soy infinitamente optimista, un soÃ±ador irremediable, que ve el potencial en todo y en todos. Y generalmente encuentro una manera de hacerlo realidad.
La persona promedio ve una oportunidad de negocio y piensa que puede ganar $50,000. Yo en cambio pienso que puedo ganar $5 millones. Usualmente ambos estamos equivocados. En vez de $5 millones, termino ganando medio millÃ³n. Lo cual la persona promedio nunca recibirÃ¡ porque ellos piensan que pueden ganar $50,000 y se conforman con $20,000.
Y Â¿sabes algo? Si recoges medio millÃ³n por aquÃ y medio millÃ³n por allÃ¡, muy pronto tendrÃ¡ suficiente para ir de compras a la tienda Prada.
Eso no significa que esta actitud mental es para todos.
Echando un vistazo a mi apartamento, tengo dos sofÃ¡s que costaron mÃ¡s de $20,000 cada uno. Â¡En mis aÃ±os de juventud no hubiera gastado ese dinero ni para comprar una casa! Pero si hoy tengo esos sofÃ¡s y todas las demÃ¡s cosas hermosas que hay en mi hogar, es porque un dÃa estuve dispuesto a dormir en el piso. Era joven y un poco insensato, pero estaba absolutamente seguro de que eventualmente alcanzarÃa el Ã©xito que soÃ±aba.
Me gustarÃa pensar que ahora soy mÃ¡s viejo y sabio. Y que son un mejor planificador financiero. Pero todavÃa pienso que algunas veces tienes que saltar al precipicio y hacer crecer tus alas mientras caes al vacÃo.
No pienso vender mis muebles nunca mÃ¡s. Pero sÃ espero no perder nunca ese empuje, esa determinaciÃ³n y la absoluta confianza en mis sueÃ±os.
Entonces, Â¿quÃ© hay contigo? Â¿EstÃ¡s jugando al seguro o estÃ¡s realmente yendo tras tus sueÃ±os?
You exemplify long term vision, delayed gratification and all points in between.
I find it humorous, well sad really that society accepts the idea of college students living on ramen noodles, driving hoopties, shopping from thrift stores, etc. They say this is the "successful" route to take. Then....they graduate college, assume student loan debt, buy the big house, etc. only to find themselves living paycheck to paycheck.
But....let someone sell their furniture, barely eat, invest in training systems, attend seminars, events, etc. to start a biz and it is unheard of.
You are proof you reap what you sow! I am all the way on my way to having exactly the same results.
Thanks for modeling the results.
I wonder what a "hopeless dreamer dreams about".
Did you know that it is a different set of neurons that process and transmit the info every time you remember something of your past? Do I really have to hit rock bottom or, at least, be going that way to eventually reach success?
Dream, have a bigger vision than you can carry and go for it with discipline and no distractions: No need for pain, just a huge lust for LIFE.
As RG often says and I am paraphrasing: Do, now, what others won't so that, later, you may do what others can't.
Life is what we make it for ourselves but no matter what we ain't making it alive at the finish line. It's all about the journey!!
Hi! I don´t think so.My sponsor is doing many things but I think he missed the point at some point...I cannot get any inspiration from our work, and one friend asked me to ask myself if networkmarketing is really the right thing for me and I REALLY THINK SO. But of course, though it isn´t going very well I can´t say that for sure.I don´t think he have success enough my sponsor.He is talking much.Is it better to change company if that gives you a sponsor you can work with?Isn´t that a risky thing?Any experiences of this(Guess you have!)Thanks for answering-I will check out your other side, didn´t even know about it!
It's about using a little time for some meditation and while you are doing it think positively. Do this at the start of the day and you will set yourself up.