We’ve been talking about manifesting challenges; fighting the forces of evil, and overcoming obstacles that could make us feel noble. I asked if this was just another way for you to hold onto being a victim. And why would anyone want to do that anyway?
I hope you’ve been reading the comments over the last few days. Because they are filled with potential answers for you. There are some very insightful comments about how we create challenges to bolster our self-esteem, feed our victim mentality, or play into our “I’m not worthy” beliefs.
We choose challenges because they really do allow us to be a victim. And when we are victims, we get sympathy from others, we have an excuse for failure, and we don’t have to feel responsible for not succeeding. It’s the ultimate cop-out.
It allows us to lie to ourselves. We figure that no one can say we didn’t give it our best shot. You can say, “I gave it my all, but:
• I didn’t have the right connections;
• I'm from the wrong side of the tracks
• I’m the wrong color;
• I was raised in an abusive environment;
• You need money to make money;
• I don’t have the education required;
Or any one of another hundred excuses. And that’s all they are: Bullshit excuses which are built in validation for a life of mediocrity.
I know, because I did this for 30 years. Manifested one challenge after another, because it made me feel noble and worthy. And gave me a built in excuse for failure before I ever began.
But after 30 years of struggle, I finally decided I didn’t want to be a victim anymore. I wanted to be a victor.
So what about you?
Are you ready to lay aside the victim-hood bullshit and become a victor? I hope so. Because that is where we’ll pick up on tomorrow’s post.