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Making the Difficult Choices

Posted By: Randy GageDecember 5, 2018

I began this series stating we all need something bigger than ourselves to be a part of.  And as you saw in the last post, some people run from that reality.  Now we can look at the third option: mindfully seeking a life of meaning. 

We all know the alarming rates for suicide and depression.  I believe they are the direct result of having such a huge group of people who are bored.  Bored with their job, bored with their relationship, and bored with their life.

To escape that reality requires a conscious choice.  Massive amounts of introspection.  Professional help sometimes.  Becoming a true critical thinker.  Having the willingness to question all of your core foundational beliefs about everything.

This is hard work, because it is so threatening to our self-esteem and self-awareness.  We usually discover we’re not the person we put out there for the world to see.  But even worse, if you discover you’re not the person you hoped you were.  And to someone actually sentient, discerning and perceptive enough to do this kind of introspection and analysis – this is perhaps the most excruciating realization you can experience.

But of course, that’s where the breakthroughs live…

This path isn’t for everyone.  But I honestly believe it’s the only way we become the highest possible version of ourselves.  The only way we move from success to significance; and live a life of purpose and meaning.

Which is where we will begin on the next post.  Until then, love to hear your thoughts.

-RG

5 comments on “Making the Difficult Choices”

  1. I disagree about boredom as a cause of depression or suicide. Clinical depression and suicidal thoughts are symptoms of an urgent medical situation, and I urge people experiencing those to seek a medical doctor or an emergency room for help, immediately.

    When people are perpetually bored, that typically signals being in a rut. I agree that introspection can be helpful in discovering what one truly wants out of life, and those discoveries can uncover some uncomfortable realizations about one's past decision-making and behavior.

    However, for the person who is experiencing suicidal thoughts or clinical depression (not a mild 'down in the dumps'), self-introspection can easily lead to rumination, which makes the situation worse. The therapist's job includes guiding the introspection and logical thinking in ways that dig deep yet keep the person's mind from being a weapon turned against oneself. The very process of therapy typically includes examining every belief one has. (I use the word 'typically' here, because there are many modes of psychotherapy.)

    I don't think public speaking is truly people's number one fear.

    Deep introspection is.

    Only the brave attempt it, either on their own or with a therapist. Only the bravest make the changes it indicates.

  2. Very profound, tough, rough and reality chek provoking article Randy.
    Must say I love to have the talk to be about the deep truth for each individual, so we Can get people away from just being copies, but instead find the very core in our self.

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    1. I disagree about boredom as a cause of depression or suicide. Clinical depression and suicidal thoughts are symptoms of an urgent medical situation, and I urge people experiencing those to seek a medical doctor or an emergency room for help, immediately.

      When people are perpetually bored, that typically signals being in a rut. I agree that introspection can be helpful in discovering what one truly wants out of life, and those discoveries can uncover some uncomfortable realizations about one's past decision-making and behavior.

      However, for the person who is experiencing suicidal thoughts or clinical depression (not a mild 'down in the dumps'), self-introspection can easily lead to rumination, which makes the situation worse. The therapist's job includes guiding the introspection and logical thinking in ways that dig deep yet keep the person's mind from being a weapon turned against oneself. The very process of therapy typically includes examining every belief one has. (I use the word 'typically' here, because there are many modes of psychotherapy.)

      I don't think public speaking is truly people's number one fear.

      Deep introspection is.

      Only the brave attempt it, either on their own or with a therapist. Only the bravest make the changes it indicates.

    2. Very profound, tough, rough and reality chek provoking article Randy.
      Must say I love to have the talk to be about the deep truth for each individual, so we Can get people away from just being copies, but instead find the very core in our self.

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