So this week we’ve been talking about when to exclude the people in our lives and when we cross the line and become judgmental. Well I got a fascinating message on Facebook in that regard yesterday…
The person wrote, “I never want to be your friend, though I'm taking this opportunity to see if you've sharpened up your stage skills and have stopped degrading people when they get on stage so that people can give their opinion of them. I wish I was as strong then as I am now because if I could have used my voice then I would of told you to fuck right off!”
Now this comment is a tad judgmental, don’t you think? 🙂 But I’ll plead guilty as charged.
I’m assuming that they saw me give someone a "hot seat" at one of my Boot Camps. Those have always been the highest rated and most helpful parts of my programs for the attendees. We always billed them as rough and no holds barred. But looking back today, I have to admit I certainly could have done some of them with more empathy and care for the participants. I was convinced of the power of my convictions. And also young and arrogant. I'd like to think I honor people better these days.
But that’s all part of the journey, and demonstrates what we’ve been discussing the last few days. Everyone is in a different spot on the journey and we need to love them and let them grow. Reach down and help them if we’re able. If we can refrain from being judgmental and instead offer hope, it makes it better for us all.
So how you doing on that?