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Letting Go of Being a Victim

Posted By: Randy GageMarch 14, 2009

There are a lot of things you have to do to go from minimum wage to multi-millionaire as I have.  Big things like changing the way you think.  Little things like making time for self-development, making prosperity manifestation maps, and doing affirmations.  But let me tell you what I believe is the single most important one.  And the one I had the most difficulty with:

Releasing being a victim.

Now I talk about that so much that you probably think I did it years ago, and you have already handled that issue as well.  Quite doubtful.

I have faced this issue as recently as last week.  And I bet you’re still mired in all kinds of victim mindsets that you aren’t aware of.

Now if you are like most, you figure I’m talking about everyone else, and you have this licked.  But I bet you’re wrong.  In fact, I’ll wager to say that you are holding on to all kinds of victim beliefs, and they are stopping you from moving forward still.

So give it some real thought and check in below.  Then we’ll explore the issue deeper on the next post.

-RG

37 comments on “Letting Go of Being a Victim”

  1. Great post, Randy!

    I find that there is a fine line between celebrating where I came from and releasing victimhood.

    I have to constantly make sure I have the right mindset as well to not let that self-pity creep back in . . .

    -David

  2. Of course it is easier to blame others for things! Taking the responsibility to say "I am in control of this situation, whether it turns out positive or negative...I am in control"

    No one is perfect at being victimless. Sometimes you are a victim of circumstances-but you still need to take control of the outcome.

    Stand back and say to yourself "Wait a minute...this is my life and I am in control here-I will not be a victim"

    Then, do yourself a favor and look in the mirror and, tell yourself it may have been of your own doing, but it will NEVER happen again! I am better than that and I can control my life-I will not let anyone else control my life, and I will not feign the victim any longer.
    Thanks for the message Randy, it is a hard one to work on, but like anything else, practice makes it easier-puts it on "auto Pilot"

  3. Hi Randy,

    This is an ever relevant subject. I find myself always challenged with myn own victim mentality and that of others in my life. It is hard to separate yourself from those people .. epsecially when they are close to you. The challenge continues.

  4. My FAVORITE Randy line...

    Who Was At The Scene Of Every Crime???

    When ever I go into victim I ask myself that question.

    And POOF...

    I remember that I am..and have ALWAYS BEEN..in control.

    Made this video a year and a half ago on this topic..

    Hope it serves...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa-7Mz6_dpg

    It is an ODE to the lesson you taught me Randy...

    With Gratitude...

    Diane Hochman

  5. To be a victim--or to be victorious--is a choice we make every day, even in seemingly insignificant moments such as deciding what to have for breakfast.

    Do I "deserve" to have a couple of doughnuts on Saturday morning after having had a "rough week," or do I decide to power up with a protein shake that will provide the steady flow of energy I need to create something better?

    When choosing how to spend the evening, do I let myself go numb in front of the TV and get easy stimulation by more action and drama, or do I choose to feel the tension left over from the day and transform it by soaking in a bath and consciously letting go of all the drama?

    Drama always says we are a victim and have no choice. A clear mind doesn't let itself get hijacked by negativity and drama.

    We become victorious by cultivating a drama-free heart, the prerequisite for accessing the creative mind to new growth and opportunities.

  6. The other posts are correct as are you Randy. I am personally fighting every day to focus my mind on my goals and it is VERY easy to blame the economy, my parents, society or my wife for my not being "prepared" for life.
    Doing what we say we are going to do is the key and you cannot be a victim when you are "doing".

    Thanks Randy.

  7. I think the most impotrant thing is to take responsibility for your own life and for all your actions. I am sure it helps 🙂

  8. I constantly start as a hero and end up as a victim. I have to keep my self from taking on others problems, which end up with my being the victim. A bit different from the discussion here, but wait. I then blame others because I feel they took advantage of me. My desire to help causes this and I have to find a way to keep from dong myself in. I have come to realize that all of my "victim" mentality is self induced. Thanks for letting me rant.

  9. HI Randy,
    One place where I still remain a victim is in blaming my own habit of thoughts (and sometimes gut reaction negativity) for things.

    In other words instead of being a "victim" of others actions I sometimes allow myself to be a victim of myself..... perhaps shifting responsibility to something subconscious in me is a step in the right direction, but that doesn't mean I've made it out of the woods!

    There is a real need to stop hiding behind victimhood of ANY flavour!

  10. Hi Randy,
    How coincidental that you should post on this subject! I just did the same thing, focusing on accountability, or rather the lack of it, in society at large today. I was horrified to realize that I had succumbed to this malady, and had to do some massive action to get myself out of victim-hood.
    Interesting to hear that someone as vastly successful as you are, still has to remain vigilant on this issue - do you think one is ever fully "cured"?

  11. Without doubt, THE most relevant issue where beliefs that hold us back is concerned.

    Most recently, I find myself taking issue with the owner of our company flaunting his riches by driving around in his Bentley while many in the company are barely getting by. And this is EASY to do, but in reality a victim belief that I can never seem to overcome. And it's not that I believe money is evil, its simply the Victim issue.

    So yes, how DOES one really let go of this belief? And more importantly, if I'm accountable for not having the life I desire, what are the steps to get there? I completely believe that Prosperity is INDEED a state of mind, but if you've never truly BEEN prosperous, how do you make the shift?

  12. Hi Randy,

    Thanks for raising this issue, which is always so pertinent. The posts before me have added real content, and I thank them all as well.
    Whenever we focus on past or present, we run the risk of victimhood. It's only by being present in the NOW, can we avoid demeaning self talk/thoughts that many times we chose to defuse by blaming ourselves or others for one irrelevancy or another.
    Ekhart Tolle teaches us that by witnessing our thoughts, we can liberate our consciousness from inefficiencies of the mind.

  13. Exercise can help your mind work better and clearer. By having the stress out of the body with the exercise release, you will be able to think of yourself as in control rather than the victim all the time.

    For help with getting on the right path with exercise, there is a book on the website listed, so take the first step in the right direction, you know what to do.

    http://www.fityouwillmakeyousucceed.com

  14. Dear Randy,

    First of all, happy to have an opportunity to say thank you again for all you have done in my life in so many countless ways. I'm hoping one of my next trips to see Lisa in FL will give me an opportunity to say thank you in person. I'll bring a token of my appreciation just in case our paths cross.
    Finally, I see how as an artist the role of a victim was just too easy. This economic downturn helped me to realize this. I feel happy, blessed and more excited today despite it all and believe that the victim mentality will no longer haunt me like in the past. It no longer is serving me. I'm now seeing how being a victim repels and the forces are with the victors. I'm attracting again and I feel FREE, LOVE and GRATITUDE. You rock.

  15. One of my favorite quotes in from Adams Family Values where the kids are at camp and the Director asks for a volunteer and she says with waving hands "I'll be the victim!" And Wednesday Adams replies:
    "All your life!" I work in addictions and you don't know the number of people who personify that quotation. They have a miriad of excuses why their life is in the toilet and why they use drugs. Fact of the matter, they all choose to use drugs and their life is in the toilet as a consequence of that choice. Randy is right. When someone using drugs is able to let go of the victimhood it's miraculous how they can stay sober and become a much better person for it.

  16. How is it that you are always spot on on topics I need? L.O.L. Ok, so here it is, I have been thinking hard lately about what I must be holding onto.

    I have been listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer on Manifesting Your Destiny. He talks about how one of his daughter's was always critizing his parenting skills. (Mind you, she was only nine years old at the time.) Anyway, he finally had had enough of her and so told her to stop whining and take responsibility for her parents. Confused, she asked him how. he told her,
    " before you came here, you chose your parents. You made the choice based on the lessons you needed to learn etc. So, since you chose us to be your parents, stop whining and take resposibility for your decision."

    Ok, I thought I had done the same but I realized I have really been hanging onto alot of resentment towards both my parents and my father in particular. So, I have consciously
    started working on letting go. I chose my parents, I obviously had lessons to learn, so I am getting on with it. Is it easy, no, of course not. but I do feel better knowing I am heading in the right direction.

    Thanks Randy for the reminders.
    Lucinda

  17. Our Society trains us to be victims from birth, that's a helluva lot of conditioning to break through. Like you Randy, I have done much over the years to break this pattern, and like you, a little test will spring up when I least expect it. I don't know that I will ever totally overcome the pattern. 90% of the time I am doing okay, I guess the other 10% reminds me that I am human and still a masterpiece in the making.
    Thanks for another great thought provoker!
    Blessings

  18. This is the ultimate question and test. Whenever I am feeling "done wrong to" I know that I am in the victim mindset...Turn off TV, Radio and Newspapers! Take a mental break and then the most powerful step...Ask the question, How and Why am I creating this?
    Then change it.
    The Victim Triangle is very interesting, google it.

  19. Randy, releasing my victimhood is one of my bigger challenges. It doesn't help that having a victim's mentality has such a nice payoff. ("It's not my fault" and "I can't help it" are such wonderful get-out-of-jail cards for avoiding responsibility.)

    I'm trying to handle it this way: I remember how Bill Gove maintained that a speaker is responsible TO his audience, but not FOR his audience. I think life is the same way: we're each responsible TO everyone else in our lives, but we're not responsible FOR them. (When I think I'm responsible for their happiness, or for their success, or for what they think of me, or for anything else, I'm casting myself as a victim.) This enables me to interact with others and not become a hermit, but also not take on the guilt-laden responsibility FOR them.

    However, it's easier said than done, so I'm still working on it......
    -- jim

  20. Just weighing in with a few quick thoughts:

    1. Randy, I think your post was great. So very true, at least for me.

    2. I have to continually stay conscious of this in my own life. By my very nature, I always tended to blame others for that which I truly brought onto myself. It was only after I learned about that (became conscious of it) and began to work on that very counter-productive character trait that things began to change for me in a very positive way. And...to this day, I still need to stay conscious of that tendency.

    3. I really enjoyed many of the comments from other readers.

    4. Jim Barber, that quote by Bill Gove is among my all-time favorite Gove-isms and also made a huge difference in my life since hearing directly from that great man many, many years ago.

    Bob

  21. hmmm.

    Unless we face the role of victim then we can not move
    past it and grow out of it.

    The victim role is in each and everyone of us. Reasons to vast to mention. It just is! Some valid some not. Does it matter?

    I believe all things will work together for good IF we allow them.

    So my daily weapon against being a victim is I remind my self

    If buy into it I just as well vomit all over myself.

    Only I can give permission to take on that role..

    And the moving past the role does get easier in terms of the length of time I wallow in my own self pity.

    That picture in my mind of that vomit gives me a swifter exit!

    Peace,
    ~JD

  22. Hi Randy,

    you are always so positive and cheering us up.
    Do not know you like this.
    Use afformations they work wonders.

    All best

  23. Hi Randy

    You are so right. Being a victim does hold you back. Until you control that little voice in your head and create positive thoughts you will stay where you are currently thinking.

    Peace be still.

  24. I find this is a constant battle for me as well. I have many friends & family members who seem to revel in this type of mentality. I used to get angry & upset with them for their attitudes. But not anymore. I am now able to separate who they are from their behavior and take the good and ignore the bad. It's not that simple, however, when it comes to myself. I still occasionally catch myself participating in this "stinkin thinkin," but when I do I am able to release it quickly and move forward with more productive thoughts.

  25. Randy,

    I had this too last week. There I was thinking, I'm thinking prosperously. Even though things I wanted hadn't come to the fore. Then bang, slap, wallop. Evidently I wasn't!

    Thus, saying let go of being a victim is a very easy thing to say. Even rather flippant. Yet I and no doubt almost everybody else reading this makes time for the little things like time for self-development, making prosperity manifestation maps, and doing affirmations.

    Yet, we get the 'inner' victim that comes back to the surface. Just to remind us?

    How do you let go of it once and for all? Or how do you let go of the victim long enough to have a physical, mental and emotional shift? To the point where things you want appear infront of you and you grab them.

    Happy Travels

    A

  26. Hi Randy ,
    This is what I am working on at this moment.
    Today, I became concious that humans measure their self-worth by their possessions. We also seem to either keep track of or bury the memories that bother us, or in which we feel victimized, or rather wonder what we could have done to have better control or perhaps a different outcome.

    Here is what I propose to do for myself. I claim, today, that the only possessions important to my self-worth are my memories, and my dreams. I can write the role I play any way I choose. I can change the way I think about the story, my attitude within the story, and the impressions made by the story.

    So , I'm asking myself as I create and recreate.
    1. How do I want to feel?
    2.How do I want to make others feel?
    3.Did I consider that people remember me based on how I made them feel?

    To Recreate!
    marysprints

  27. Yes, victimhood is in most of us.
    Myself: This contemplative plan to "bitterly, angrily reject" a full range of benefits if it ever came to pass for me. This has welled up in me even recently.

    Lemme explain:
    My folks seem to becoming increasingly defeatist in their views about everything nowadays. They have begun advocating me getting a job in the Federal Govt. (civil) service. Being "Realistic about where you can go, what you can ever do or achieve"! Security for old age must come first. [BULLSHIT! Hi Randy! Say, nice program you've got there...]

    As I recall from the past, "cos of ... you cannot get a Job!" in that sector due to ....blah... BTW, I am increasingly upbeat these days too, about my life.

    Now, they've switched 180 degrees and begun advocating this, just as I have found my feet and are on the verge of making some key breakthroughs in my life!

    If I was in that job, I Will Channel ALL benefits by dollar value to Charity. Any declared bonuses? Get a personal loan for 110% of the gross amount & pay out to charity. Service the loan out of pocket, supporting the bank & charity, not me. 🙁 Cost of Living Allowance? They're 3 charity organizations and 1 orphanage within 10 miles of where I live. Medical Benefits? Skip the National Medicare claims scheme for civil servants, go Private & destroy all the receipts the issue me.

    Part of me knows that I was meant for higher things. I have chosen that path. The premeditation to act in a Master Victim fashion comes upon reflecting,"What if I am goaded into taking up something that's Wrong for me?" No. Wait. I can choose my thoughts and actions at will. Between Randy Gage & my old folks, thanks for having this website, thanks for blogging your rants & thanks for BEing, Randy. ;=)

  28. I love this conversation. It is funny because even know people might believe they are "victims" are create evidence (their results/reality) they are still creators. They are just more results to support their limiting beliefs. How powerful are we!! I actually did an article on the Madoff "victims" and the Law of Attraction that I feel might add to this conversation, you can view it here:

    http://hakashamut.wordpress.com/2009/03/17/the-madoff-victims-and-the-law-of-attraction/

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  • 37 comments on “Letting Go of Being a Victim”

    1. Great post, Randy!

      I find that there is a fine line between celebrating where I came from and releasing victimhood.

      I have to constantly make sure I have the right mindset as well to not let that self-pity creep back in . . .

      -David

    2. Of course it is easier to blame others for things! Taking the responsibility to say "I am in control of this situation, whether it turns out positive or negative...I am in control"

      No one is perfect at being victimless. Sometimes you are a victim of circumstances-but you still need to take control of the outcome.

      Stand back and say to yourself "Wait a minute...this is my life and I am in control here-I will not be a victim"

      Then, do yourself a favor and look in the mirror and, tell yourself it may have been of your own doing, but it will NEVER happen again! I am better than that and I can control my life-I will not let anyone else control my life, and I will not feign the victim any longer.
      Thanks for the message Randy, it is a hard one to work on, but like anything else, practice makes it easier-puts it on "auto Pilot"

    3. Hi Randy,

      This is an ever relevant subject. I find myself always challenged with myn own victim mentality and that of others in my life. It is hard to separate yourself from those people .. epsecially when they are close to you. The challenge continues.

    4. My FAVORITE Randy line...

      Who Was At The Scene Of Every Crime???

      When ever I go into victim I ask myself that question.

      And POOF...

      I remember that I am..and have ALWAYS BEEN..in control.

      Made this video a year and a half ago on this topic..

      Hope it serves...

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa-7Mz6_dpg

      It is an ODE to the lesson you taught me Randy...

      With Gratitude...

      Diane Hochman

    5. To be a victim--or to be victorious--is a choice we make every day, even in seemingly insignificant moments such as deciding what to have for breakfast.

      Do I "deserve" to have a couple of doughnuts on Saturday morning after having had a "rough week," or do I decide to power up with a protein shake that will provide the steady flow of energy I need to create something better?

      When choosing how to spend the evening, do I let myself go numb in front of the TV and get easy stimulation by more action and drama, or do I choose to feel the tension left over from the day and transform it by soaking in a bath and consciously letting go of all the drama?

      Drama always says we are a victim and have no choice. A clear mind doesn't let itself get hijacked by negativity and drama.

      We become victorious by cultivating a drama-free heart, the prerequisite for accessing the creative mind to new growth and opportunities.

    6. The other posts are correct as are you Randy. I am personally fighting every day to focus my mind on my goals and it is VERY easy to blame the economy, my parents, society or my wife for my not being "prepared" for life.
      Doing what we say we are going to do is the key and you cannot be a victim when you are "doing".

      Thanks Randy.

    7. I think the most impotrant thing is to take responsibility for your own life and for all your actions. I am sure it helps 🙂

    8. I constantly start as a hero and end up as a victim. I have to keep my self from taking on others problems, which end up with my being the victim. A bit different from the discussion here, but wait. I then blame others because I feel they took advantage of me. My desire to help causes this and I have to find a way to keep from dong myself in. I have come to realize that all of my "victim" mentality is self induced. Thanks for letting me rant.

    9. HI Randy,
      One place where I still remain a victim is in blaming my own habit of thoughts (and sometimes gut reaction negativity) for things.

      In other words instead of being a "victim" of others actions I sometimes allow myself to be a victim of myself..... perhaps shifting responsibility to something subconscious in me is a step in the right direction, but that doesn't mean I've made it out of the woods!

      There is a real need to stop hiding behind victimhood of ANY flavour!

    10. Hi Randy,
      How coincidental that you should post on this subject! I just did the same thing, focusing on accountability, or rather the lack of it, in society at large today. I was horrified to realize that I had succumbed to this malady, and had to do some massive action to get myself out of victim-hood.
      Interesting to hear that someone as vastly successful as you are, still has to remain vigilant on this issue - do you think one is ever fully "cured"?

    11. Without doubt, THE most relevant issue where beliefs that hold us back is concerned.

      Most recently, I find myself taking issue with the owner of our company flaunting his riches by driving around in his Bentley while many in the company are barely getting by. And this is EASY to do, but in reality a victim belief that I can never seem to overcome. And it's not that I believe money is evil, its simply the Victim issue.

      So yes, how DOES one really let go of this belief? And more importantly, if I'm accountable for not having the life I desire, what are the steps to get there? I completely believe that Prosperity is INDEED a state of mind, but if you've never truly BEEN prosperous, how do you make the shift?

    12. Hi Randy,

      Thanks for raising this issue, which is always so pertinent. The posts before me have added real content, and I thank them all as well.
      Whenever we focus on past or present, we run the risk of victimhood. It's only by being present in the NOW, can we avoid demeaning self talk/thoughts that many times we chose to defuse by blaming ourselves or others for one irrelevancy or another.
      Ekhart Tolle teaches us that by witnessing our thoughts, we can liberate our consciousness from inefficiencies of the mind.

    13. Exercise can help your mind work better and clearer. By having the stress out of the body with the exercise release, you will be able to think of yourself as in control rather than the victim all the time.

      For help with getting on the right path with exercise, there is a book on the website listed, so take the first step in the right direction, you know what to do.

      http://www.fityouwillmakeyousucceed.com

    14. Dear Randy,

      First of all, happy to have an opportunity to say thank you again for all you have done in my life in so many countless ways. I'm hoping one of my next trips to see Lisa in FL will give me an opportunity to say thank you in person. I'll bring a token of my appreciation just in case our paths cross.
      Finally, I see how as an artist the role of a victim was just too easy. This economic downturn helped me to realize this. I feel happy, blessed and more excited today despite it all and believe that the victim mentality will no longer haunt me like in the past. It no longer is serving me. I'm now seeing how being a victim repels and the forces are with the victors. I'm attracting again and I feel FREE, LOVE and GRATITUDE. You rock.

    15. One of my favorite quotes in from Adams Family Values where the kids are at camp and the Director asks for a volunteer and she says with waving hands "I'll be the victim!" And Wednesday Adams replies:
      "All your life!" I work in addictions and you don't know the number of people who personify that quotation. They have a miriad of excuses why their life is in the toilet and why they use drugs. Fact of the matter, they all choose to use drugs and their life is in the toilet as a consequence of that choice. Randy is right. When someone using drugs is able to let go of the victimhood it's miraculous how they can stay sober and become a much better person for it.

    16. How is it that you are always spot on on topics I need? L.O.L. Ok, so here it is, I have been thinking hard lately about what I must be holding onto.

      I have been listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer on Manifesting Your Destiny. He talks about how one of his daughter's was always critizing his parenting skills. (Mind you, she was only nine years old at the time.) Anyway, he finally had had enough of her and so told her to stop whining and take responsibility for her parents. Confused, she asked him how. he told her,
      " before you came here, you chose your parents. You made the choice based on the lessons you needed to learn etc. So, since you chose us to be your parents, stop whining and take resposibility for your decision."

      Ok, I thought I had done the same but I realized I have really been hanging onto alot of resentment towards both my parents and my father in particular. So, I have consciously
      started working on letting go. I chose my parents, I obviously had lessons to learn, so I am getting on with it. Is it easy, no, of course not. but I do feel better knowing I am heading in the right direction.

      Thanks Randy for the reminders.
      Lucinda

    17. Our Society trains us to be victims from birth, that's a helluva lot of conditioning to break through. Like you Randy, I have done much over the years to break this pattern, and like you, a little test will spring up when I least expect it. I don't know that I will ever totally overcome the pattern. 90% of the time I am doing okay, I guess the other 10% reminds me that I am human and still a masterpiece in the making.
      Thanks for another great thought provoker!
      Blessings

    18. This is the ultimate question and test. Whenever I am feeling "done wrong to" I know that I am in the victim mindset...Turn off TV, Radio and Newspapers! Take a mental break and then the most powerful step...Ask the question, How and Why am I creating this?
      Then change it.
      The Victim Triangle is very interesting, google it.

    19. Randy, releasing my victimhood is one of my bigger challenges. It doesn't help that having a victim's mentality has such a nice payoff. ("It's not my fault" and "I can't help it" are such wonderful get-out-of-jail cards for avoiding responsibility.)

      I'm trying to handle it this way: I remember how Bill Gove maintained that a speaker is responsible TO his audience, but not FOR his audience. I think life is the same way: we're each responsible TO everyone else in our lives, but we're not responsible FOR them. (When I think I'm responsible for their happiness, or for their success, or for what they think of me, or for anything else, I'm casting myself as a victim.) This enables me to interact with others and not become a hermit, but also not take on the guilt-laden responsibility FOR them.

      However, it's easier said than done, so I'm still working on it......
      -- jim

    20. Just weighing in with a few quick thoughts:

      1. Randy, I think your post was great. So very true, at least for me.

      2. I have to continually stay conscious of this in my own life. By my very nature, I always tended to blame others for that which I truly brought onto myself. It was only after I learned about that (became conscious of it) and began to work on that very counter-productive character trait that things began to change for me in a very positive way. And...to this day, I still need to stay conscious of that tendency.

      3. I really enjoyed many of the comments from other readers.

      4. Jim Barber, that quote by Bill Gove is among my all-time favorite Gove-isms and also made a huge difference in my life since hearing directly from that great man many, many years ago.

      Bob

    21. hmmm.

      Unless we face the role of victim then we can not move
      past it and grow out of it.

      The victim role is in each and everyone of us. Reasons to vast to mention. It just is! Some valid some not. Does it matter?

      I believe all things will work together for good IF we allow them.

      So my daily weapon against being a victim is I remind my self

      If buy into it I just as well vomit all over myself.

      Only I can give permission to take on that role..

      And the moving past the role does get easier in terms of the length of time I wallow in my own self pity.

      That picture in my mind of that vomit gives me a swifter exit!

      Peace,
      ~JD

    22. Hi Randy,

      you are always so positive and cheering us up.
      Do not know you like this.
      Use afformations they work wonders.

      All best

    23. Hi Randy

      You are so right. Being a victim does hold you back. Until you control that little voice in your head and create positive thoughts you will stay where you are currently thinking.

      Peace be still.

    24. I find this is a constant battle for me as well. I have many friends & family members who seem to revel in this type of mentality. I used to get angry & upset with them for their attitudes. But not anymore. I am now able to separate who they are from their behavior and take the good and ignore the bad. It's not that simple, however, when it comes to myself. I still occasionally catch myself participating in this "stinkin thinkin," but when I do I am able to release it quickly and move forward with more productive thoughts.

    25. Randy,

      I had this too last week. There I was thinking, I'm thinking prosperously. Even though things I wanted hadn't come to the fore. Then bang, slap, wallop. Evidently I wasn't!

      Thus, saying let go of being a victim is a very easy thing to say. Even rather flippant. Yet I and no doubt almost everybody else reading this makes time for the little things like time for self-development, making prosperity manifestation maps, and doing affirmations.

      Yet, we get the 'inner' victim that comes back to the surface. Just to remind us?

      How do you let go of it once and for all? Or how do you let go of the victim long enough to have a physical, mental and emotional shift? To the point where things you want appear infront of you and you grab them.

      Happy Travels

      A

    26. Hi Randy ,
      This is what I am working on at this moment.
      Today, I became concious that humans measure their self-worth by their possessions. We also seem to either keep track of or bury the memories that bother us, or in which we feel victimized, or rather wonder what we could have done to have better control or perhaps a different outcome.

      Here is what I propose to do for myself. I claim, today, that the only possessions important to my self-worth are my memories, and my dreams. I can write the role I play any way I choose. I can change the way I think about the story, my attitude within the story, and the impressions made by the story.

      So , I'm asking myself as I create and recreate.
      1. How do I want to feel?
      2.How do I want to make others feel?
      3.Did I consider that people remember me based on how I made them feel?

      To Recreate!
      marysprints

    27. Yes, victimhood is in most of us.
      Myself: This contemplative plan to "bitterly, angrily reject" a full range of benefits if it ever came to pass for me. This has welled up in me even recently.

      Lemme explain:
      My folks seem to becoming increasingly defeatist in their views about everything nowadays. They have begun advocating me getting a job in the Federal Govt. (civil) service. Being "Realistic about where you can go, what you can ever do or achieve"! Security for old age must come first. [BULLSHIT! Hi Randy! Say, nice program you've got there...]

      As I recall from the past, "cos of ... you cannot get a Job!" in that sector due to ....blah... BTW, I am increasingly upbeat these days too, about my life.

      Now, they've switched 180 degrees and begun advocating this, just as I have found my feet and are on the verge of making some key breakthroughs in my life!

      If I was in that job, I Will Channel ALL benefits by dollar value to Charity. Any declared bonuses? Get a personal loan for 110% of the gross amount & pay out to charity. Service the loan out of pocket, supporting the bank & charity, not me. 🙁 Cost of Living Allowance? They're 3 charity organizations and 1 orphanage within 10 miles of where I live. Medical Benefits? Skip the National Medicare claims scheme for civil servants, go Private & destroy all the receipts the issue me.

      Part of me knows that I was meant for higher things. I have chosen that path. The premeditation to act in a Master Victim fashion comes upon reflecting,"What if I am goaded into taking up something that's Wrong for me?" No. Wait. I can choose my thoughts and actions at will. Between Randy Gage & my old folks, thanks for having this website, thanks for blogging your rants & thanks for BEing, Randy. ;=)

    28. I love this conversation. It is funny because even know people might believe they are "victims" are create evidence (their results/reality) they are still creators. They are just more results to support their limiting beliefs. How powerful are we!! I actually did an article on the Madoff "victims" and the Law of Attraction that I feel might add to this conversation, you can view it here:

      http://hakashamut.wordpress.com/2009/03/17/the-madoff-victims-and-the-law-of-attraction/

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