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Knowing When to Quit

Posted By: Randy GageAugust 2, 2011

Great discussion going on the last post about how to determine when something that isn't working is a test to determine is you are serious and committed about achieving it – or a signal from the universe that you should move on. 

I promised to share how I decide on this.  Here’s my take…

Since I’m a baseball guy, I stick with the “three strikes and you’re out” system.  I try to do something and face resistance, no problem.  I attempt it again and it doesn't happen.  I go again.  But if it doesn't happen the third time, I assume the universe is sending me a message that something else is my highest good.

This doesn't apply on matters of principle when I need to do the right thing.  I use this system as my radar for making decisions like a new business venture, renting an office space, or buying a condo.  When I swing and miss three times, I assume it's one of those things that are out of my control and look for something that is ultimately better.

Is this the best system?  I don’t know.  But it works pretty good for me.  What works for you?

-RG

34 comments on “Knowing When to Quit”

  1. I think I use that system from time to time. I mostly make a goal going into it that if I try 2 or 4 times and fail I'll let it go and go on with something else. My number of tries depend on the deadline I have to complete each task before I run out of time or patience.

    Then, there are some things that are worth Never giving up on...

  2. Great question! I'm the student here. I have had a tendency to keep on too long, so I'll definately try this out. I do use this 3 time system though in some of my work.

  3. Absolutely. When I come up against closed doors, then I stop and review. Then open my mind further, to look for what I am supposed to see. It is not always visible, but it generally isn't too far away.

  4. If my inner gut says don't give up nothing will break me. If my inner gut says enough, no alternative options will tempt me. I am always open to change if I am moved within first. My success always comes but is also very slow. I am open to learning new ways of working with life so that with some things I can have quicker results! But I don't want to loose my inner connection because that is most important.

  5. Interesting that I use that same indicator in many biz situations. If I feel like I am trying to push too hard or like I am swimming upstream I step back and look at it as a possible sign that it is not the right fit. Sometimes that is easy to see and other times not. Then there is always prayer.

  6. Hi Randy, as I think about it I am doing the same it quit the same as you describe here but I was not that conscious about it.
    I am reading the book Sedona Method (again) and I must say that if you learn REALLY to let go of things it works wonders!
    Cheers!
    ~Dennis

  7. Wow, I can really relate to this. I'm a baseball guy myself. I will have to implement this into my work. Thanks Randy!!

  8. I know that God knows the desires of my heart and reads it and my intentions will full clarity as he does every ones. Once I decide, visualize and emotionalize my desire, I release it to God and ask for direction and that his will be done. The unwavering faith is where the power is along with patience. That's my part. He always takes care of the rest and the outcome is always so much more than I expect and almost always in a different form than I imagined it to manifest.

  9. Great topic. I've been asking myself the same question for sooo long. But, finally I learned that if the goal I'm pursuing is part of my definite purpose in life, I just keep trying until I achieve it. Other things can fit in the 3-tries system just fine.

  10. Getting "all in", change as a person to make it happen no matter what, yet still be able to come out on the other side realizing it was not for me.

    What really works for me? Realizing it took about 10 000 hours and a few other things for most people to get "to the top" and stay there.

    Yes, that's about 3 hours a day for 10 years.

    This is covered in "Outliers" by Malcolm Gladwell.

    At 40, people may realize they are fundamentally the same as when they were 14.

    But they got duped, took the wrong trains and pretty much missed everything.

    You might still find your purpose, but it doesn't take away the 10 000 hours.

  11. Hi Randy,

    in fact, you're seconding me on my decision to quit on my former business. Just like you, I don't know if it's the best system or if it would have worked at the fourth strike. Well, in Robert Kiyosaki's and Donald Trump's book "Why we want you to be rich" we are all told the story of "Seven up"...

    Thanks for sharing your insights.

    Take care

    Oliver

  12. Hey Randy,

    A very perceptive and paractical view you just shared in this and last week's blog. I like it alot.

    It takes humility to accept if things are not going right, to make the necessary changes and to accept that God (or in your case the Universe) has something better planned for us. And I guess this virtue of humility keeps us on our toes, constantly being open to learning and self-development.

    What works for me is a half-hour meditation in the morning and another half-hour in the evening. During which I will converse with God, telling Him about my concerns, dreams and plans, pausing to listen for inspirations. Works everytime.

    Nathan

  13. Hi Randy

    'OUR GREATEST GLORY
    is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    and move on to our highest good!

    Thanks vm

  14. Hi Randy

    'OUR GREATEST GLORY
    is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    and move on to our highest good!

    Thanks vm

  15. Hi Randy

    'OUR GREATEST GLORY
    is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    and move on to our highest good!

    Thanks vm

  16. Hi Randy,

    'OUR GREATEST GLORY
    is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail'

    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    and move on to our highest good.

    Cheers!

  17. well, I can assure myself, I never give up until I achieve my goals. And thats for sure! ... I am a tennis player!

  18. I have thin line of separation of things. The variation is personal, professional, relational, blah .. blah ..

    I agree with the number of finite attempts for the professional things. But not with the relational things. I agree Bernise towards the Thomas Edision 1000 times concept for personal things, but not with the professional things.

    Having mentioned such, I never give-up with the things that are relational. I think that human is living in the world full of relations and I don't want to break the relations.

    Apart of these, it is really worth to evaluate self towards when to give-up and when not to.

  19. Hi RG,

    This might be the biggest challenge out there.

    When to persist in 1 direction, or to let go and grow.

    I make sure I'm in a high energy vibe before deciding to let go, or hold on. We quit too easily when in a low energy vibe, or hold on to a situation we've outgrown.

    Past that, I spend *a lot* of time in absolute silence when making a decision on whether to quit something. A Perfect Guide awaits in the realm of silence.

    Whenever I quiet the ego chatter and allow the Universe to send me a direct telegram, I make the right choice. Every time.

    The key is to still the wheels of your mind and sit quietly, whether it take 5 minutes or 45 minutes to do it. It's worth it.

    Thanks for sharing your insight Randy.

    RB

  20. In this I am not so agree. Because everything can not apply the rule of 3 times. For example, in my MLM company all say we should not abandon till we achieve our goals. If I should leave on my third attempt, with the poor results I have, should have left long time ago. Indeed I think I have left, but I think it depends also on the desires of each one.
    Perhaps to know whether to apply the rule of 3 times is good or not, have to be in a much higher level of personal development (may be I am not in that level)
    However, I feel like mixed messages on the one hand, "Do not give up your dreams till you achieve," and on the other hand, "the third attempt, if it fails, the universe will say no and leave". How to apply each one? ¿?¿?¿?

  21. I agree in terms of personal relationships, with regards to business Goals its persist until I succeed with obvious adjustments to the trim of the sail as Zig Ziglar says!

  22. I actually like this a lot. I've made the mistake of not bailing soon enough. I've also made the other mistake. I can't help but think that God (the Universe, if "God" makes you uncomfortable) would respond to this by recognizing that you have a method in place and by aiding that method. Just a thought! 🙂

  23. knowing when to quit:
    - basic rule is if its against your moral/ethical values you should stop
    - 2nd rule is if you did EVERYTHING you can, you have to "turn it over" to the "universe", GOD or "Greater Power" logical reason is you can't handle it
    - 3rd rule is silence yourself, let the "inner voice" tell you...'hey, thats enough..its over'
    its called intuition...i call it "God's voice"

  24. I don't about the others, but I alweys have this feeling inside "when the party is over". It's an energy which you feel inside, if it's there or not- you know it. It's very important to alweys be awere of what is happening whith you- what you feel at the moment?
    For example. Randy can teach me how to earn millions and some other- broke- guy can tell me how to get rich. Even if I don't know that the other guy is broke, I'd still would listen more to Randy, and not becouse I know he's rich, but becouse you can feel when person is talking to you from his own experience and when is the time to "stay in the party".

  25. Randy, don't you think that every time you attempted to accomplish any task or achieve any goal you pursued you might have been out of sync with vibrations of that task/goal?

  26. Brian Tracys question is à good one to ask yourself if you gonna continue something that you are unsure of: if I knew then what I now know. Would I do the same thing again?

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  • 34 comments on “Knowing When to Quit”

    1. I think I use that system from time to time. I mostly make a goal going into it that if I try 2 or 4 times and fail I'll let it go and go on with something else. My number of tries depend on the deadline I have to complete each task before I run out of time or patience.

      Then, there are some things that are worth Never giving up on...

    2. Great question! I'm the student here. I have had a tendency to keep on too long, so I'll definately try this out. I do use this 3 time system though in some of my work.

    3. Absolutely. When I come up against closed doors, then I stop and review. Then open my mind further, to look for what I am supposed to see. It is not always visible, but it generally isn't too far away.

    4. If my inner gut says don't give up nothing will break me. If my inner gut says enough, no alternative options will tempt me. I am always open to change if I am moved within first. My success always comes but is also very slow. I am open to learning new ways of working with life so that with some things I can have quicker results! But I don't want to loose my inner connection because that is most important.

    5. Interesting that I use that same indicator in many biz situations. If I feel like I am trying to push too hard or like I am swimming upstream I step back and look at it as a possible sign that it is not the right fit. Sometimes that is easy to see and other times not. Then there is always prayer.

    6. Hi Randy, as I think about it I am doing the same it quit the same as you describe here but I was not that conscious about it.
      I am reading the book Sedona Method (again) and I must say that if you learn REALLY to let go of things it works wonders!
      Cheers!
      ~Dennis

    7. Wow, I can really relate to this. I'm a baseball guy myself. I will have to implement this into my work. Thanks Randy!!

    8. I know that God knows the desires of my heart and reads it and my intentions will full clarity as he does every ones. Once I decide, visualize and emotionalize my desire, I release it to God and ask for direction and that his will be done. The unwavering faith is where the power is along with patience. That's my part. He always takes care of the rest and the outcome is always so much more than I expect and almost always in a different form than I imagined it to manifest.

    9. Great topic. I've been asking myself the same question for sooo long. But, finally I learned that if the goal I'm pursuing is part of my definite purpose in life, I just keep trying until I achieve it. Other things can fit in the 3-tries system just fine.

    10. Getting "all in", change as a person to make it happen no matter what, yet still be able to come out on the other side realizing it was not for me.

      What really works for me? Realizing it took about 10 000 hours and a few other things for most people to get "to the top" and stay there.

      Yes, that's about 3 hours a day for 10 years.

      This is covered in "Outliers" by Malcolm Gladwell.

      At 40, people may realize they are fundamentally the same as when they were 14.

      But they got duped, took the wrong trains and pretty much missed everything.

      You might still find your purpose, but it doesn't take away the 10 000 hours.

    11. Hi Randy,

      in fact, you're seconding me on my decision to quit on my former business. Just like you, I don't know if it's the best system or if it would have worked at the fourth strike. Well, in Robert Kiyosaki's and Donald Trump's book "Why we want you to be rich" we are all told the story of "Seven up"...

      Thanks for sharing your insights.

      Take care

      Oliver

    12. Hey Randy,

      A very perceptive and paractical view you just shared in this and last week's blog. I like it alot.

      It takes humility to accept if things are not going right, to make the necessary changes and to accept that God (or in your case the Universe) has something better planned for us. And I guess this virtue of humility keeps us on our toes, constantly being open to learning and self-development.

      What works for me is a half-hour meditation in the morning and another half-hour in the evening. During which I will converse with God, telling Him about my concerns, dreams and plans, pausing to listen for inspirations. Works everytime.

      Nathan

    13. Hi Randy

      'OUR GREATEST GLORY
      is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

      Ralph Waldo Emerson

      and move on to our highest good!

      Thanks vm

    14. Hi Randy

      'OUR GREATEST GLORY
      is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

      Ralph Waldo Emerson

      and move on to our highest good!

      Thanks vm

    15. Hi Randy

      'OUR GREATEST GLORY
      is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail'

      Ralph Waldo Emerson

      and move on to our highest good!

      Thanks vm

    16. Hi Randy,

      'OUR GREATEST GLORY
      is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail'

      Ralph Waldo Emerson

      and move on to our highest good.

      Cheers!

    17. well, I can assure myself, I never give up until I achieve my goals. And thats for sure! ... I am a tennis player!

    18. I have thin line of separation of things. The variation is personal, professional, relational, blah .. blah ..

      I agree with the number of finite attempts for the professional things. But not with the relational things. I agree Bernise towards the Thomas Edision 1000 times concept for personal things, but not with the professional things.

      Having mentioned such, I never give-up with the things that are relational. I think that human is living in the world full of relations and I don't want to break the relations.

      Apart of these, it is really worth to evaluate self towards when to give-up and when not to.

    19. Hi RG,

      This might be the biggest challenge out there.

      When to persist in 1 direction, or to let go and grow.

      I make sure I'm in a high energy vibe before deciding to let go, or hold on. We quit too easily when in a low energy vibe, or hold on to a situation we've outgrown.

      Past that, I spend *a lot* of time in absolute silence when making a decision on whether to quit something. A Perfect Guide awaits in the realm of silence.

      Whenever I quiet the ego chatter and allow the Universe to send me a direct telegram, I make the right choice. Every time.

      The key is to still the wheels of your mind and sit quietly, whether it take 5 minutes or 45 minutes to do it. It's worth it.

      Thanks for sharing your insight Randy.

      RB

    20. In this I am not so agree. Because everything can not apply the rule of 3 times. For example, in my MLM company all say we should not abandon till we achieve our goals. If I should leave on my third attempt, with the poor results I have, should have left long time ago. Indeed I think I have left, but I think it depends also on the desires of each one.
      Perhaps to know whether to apply the rule of 3 times is good or not, have to be in a much higher level of personal development (may be I am not in that level)
      However, I feel like mixed messages on the one hand, "Do not give up your dreams till you achieve," and on the other hand, "the third attempt, if it fails, the universe will say no and leave". How to apply each one? ¿?¿?¿?

    21. I agree in terms of personal relationships, with regards to business Goals its persist until I succeed with obvious adjustments to the trim of the sail as Zig Ziglar says!

    22. I actually like this a lot. I've made the mistake of not bailing soon enough. I've also made the other mistake. I can't help but think that God (the Universe, if "God" makes you uncomfortable) would respond to this by recognizing that you have a method in place and by aiding that method. Just a thought! 🙂

    23. knowing when to quit:
      - basic rule is if its against your moral/ethical values you should stop
      - 2nd rule is if you did EVERYTHING you can, you have to "turn it over" to the "universe", GOD or "Greater Power" logical reason is you can't handle it
      - 3rd rule is silence yourself, let the "inner voice" tell you...'hey, thats enough..its over'
      its called intuition...i call it "God's voice"

    24. I don't about the others, but I alweys have this feeling inside "when the party is over". It's an energy which you feel inside, if it's there or not- you know it. It's very important to alweys be awere of what is happening whith you- what you feel at the moment?
      For example. Randy can teach me how to earn millions and some other- broke- guy can tell me how to get rich. Even if I don't know that the other guy is broke, I'd still would listen more to Randy, and not becouse I know he's rich, but becouse you can feel when person is talking to you from his own experience and when is the time to "stay in the party".

    25. Randy, don't you think that every time you attempted to accomplish any task or achieve any goal you pursued you might have been out of sync with vibrations of that task/goal?

    26. Brian Tracys question is à good one to ask yourself if you gonna continue something that you are unsure of: if I knew then what I now know. Would I do the same thing again?

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