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Just Be You!

Posted By: Randy GageDecember 27, 2011

One of the highest values you can bring to any relationship is to simply be real.  Real relationships are built on truth and trust. 

That mean sometimes you have to tell people things they don’t want to hear.  And sometimes you have to listen to things you don’t want to hear.  But if they are said with love and for the highest good, they are helpful.

It’s also important that you don’t try to appear to be someone you’re not.  Adopt a disguise and the universe will reveal you anyway. The only person you deceive is yourself.

By all means, work on yourself and grow a little each day.  But don’t try to be anyone else or pretend to be something you’re not.

Be you.  It’s enough.

-RG

 

37 comments on “Just Be You!”

  1. I love this advice and learning this when I first read the Go-Giver, truly changed my life and my biz. Understanding this gives me permission to NOT stifle my enthusiasm as I had been trying to do. I get excited about stuff and for years I worked on trying to appear outwardly calm and confident~like John Travolta in Grease. "Yeah, you know, no big deal. Rockin and rollin..." This crazy, out-of-control, often giddy and over-excited way works SO much better. MAD LOVE DUDE!!! There I go again!

  2. I have seen this true in a lot of ways. Be true to yourself and you never have to not want to look in the mirror. When we understand ourselves for what we are with all the blemishes out in the open, we are much more comfortable with ourselves and able to make the changes we should.

    Also when we don't "put on airs" or pretend to be something we aren't we attract the people we need in our lives, who will help be what we want to be. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. Sooner or later,the relationship not built on thrust and truth,and where you cannot things you need to Say,Will end.and i realise ,if People are too negative or selfish

  4. Sooner or later,the relationship not built on thrust and truth,and where you cannot say what you need to Say,Will end.and i realise ,if People are too negative or selfish,they are going to defend or give negative feedback,and the relationship Will be difficult to nurture.

  5. Exactly Randy!

    Love this post! Yes, sometimes is hard to say what other don´t want to know and sometimes I don´t want to listen :o)

    But there is a beauty in it... When realize, that it is a deep true. I love it. I love to be myself... Wooow, I said it loud? :o))) What I feel and know inside? Now I feel something special and I want thank the Universe, God, whatever you name, that I attracted you to my life. Thank you! That I listened to yours advices, and trully sometimes in the begginning I was fighting with myself :o)and was angry to you (trully on me).

    Now I am happy! And know that I am attracting everything I wish. I started to enjoy the life and all these things which I do.

    Take care,
    Marketa

  6. For this topic, you´re the ideal role-model! 🙂

    ...although I saw some copies running around...
    yes, a disguise will make people only feel naked after it falls off -

    ENJOY!

  7. "Adopt a disguise and the universe will reveal you anyway." Yes!

    Regarding receiving feedback: I read a biography of Brian Boitano, who won an Olympic gold medal in figure skating. He advised people to receive feedback as if they were required to accurately relay it to a third person, whom the feedback was targeted for. I find his method helps me truly hear the advice while dampening the urge to lash out at the person who is giving the advice.

    1. That actually works on children,too.if you,instead of confronting them With advices and anger,talk as if the words were meant for everybody who wants to listen,they feel free and they listen,100%!

  8. Reading this,i am thinking about the Times' where there were no place for being real,where the other part Did not listen and where i felt like if My self was disguised,and How terrible it was.how dangerous it IS.How à nice

  9. And honorable person Can turn into something totally different,even a child,when they have no chance to be that.REAL.

  10. The times I have received the greatest compliments are the times when I have laid it all out there. I'm not really that great at being something I'm not.

    There are a lot of people in this industry who think that they have to have some "perfect" persona to be a leader. My life and my business is anything but perfect, and I am a great leader!

    Thanks for being real Randy!

  11. "Real relationships are built on truth and trust." This includes the relationship we have with our own selves.

    Being honest with myself, trusting myself, and (especially) accepting myself as ME are real challenges, but I'm working on it. I'm worth it.
    jim

  12. Hey You
    Don’t you give up
    It’s not so bad
    There’s still a chance for us

    Hey You
    Just be yourself
    Don’t be so shy
    There’s reasons why it’s hard

    Keep it together
    You’ll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets would envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    Hey you
    Open your heart
    It’s not so strange
    You’ve got to change
    this time

    Hey you
    Remember this
    None of it’s real
    including the way you feel

    Keep it together
    We'll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets would envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    Save your soul, little sister
    Save your soul, little brother

    Hey you
    Save yourself
    Don’t rely on anyone else

    First, love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If, you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else

    But, you must first love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If, you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else
    But, you must first...

    Hey you
    There on the fence
    You’ve got a choice
    One day it will make sense

    Hey you
    First, love yourself
    Or, if you can’t
    Try to love someone else

    Keep it together
    We ’ll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets will envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    First, love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If you can change someone else
    Then you have saved someone else

    But, you must first love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else
    But, you must first...

    Madonna - Hey You Lyrics

    Thank you Randy for sharing your love and thoughts with us:)

  13. Hey You
    Don’t you give up
    It’s not so bad
    There’s still a chance for us

    Hey You
    Just be yourself
    Don’t be so shy
    There’s reasons why it’s hard

    Keep it together
    You’ll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets would envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    Hey you
    Open your heart
    It’s not so strange
    You’ve got to change
    this time

    Hey you
    Remember this
    None of it’s real
    including the way you feel

    Keep it together
    We'll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets would envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    Save your soul, little sister
    Save your soul, little brother

    Hey you
    Save yourself
    Don’t rely on anyone else

    First, love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If, you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else

    But, you must first love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If, you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else
    But, you must first...

    Hey you
    There on the fence
    You’ve got a choice
    One day it will make sense

    Hey you
    First, love yourself
    Or, if you can’t
    Try to love someone else

    Keep it together
    We ’ll make it all right
    A celebration is going on tonight
    Poets and prophets will envy what we do
    This could be good
    hey you

    First, love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If you can change someone else
    Then you have saved someone else

    But, you must first love yourself
    Then, you can love someone else
    If you can change someone else
    Then, you have saved someone else
    But, you must first...

    Madonna - Hey You Lyrics

    Thank you Randy for sharing your love and thoughts with us:)

  14. This is so true, because a lot of people pretend that they are some else and after a few years the other finds out that that person is completely different. Thanks for sharing!

  15. This is so true, because a lot of people pretend that they are some else and after a few years the other finds out that that person is completely different. Thanks for sharing!

  16. You can only improve when you are truly yourself .There is always room for improvement however if we are pretending then there is no room for improvement.

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  • 37 comments on “Just Be You!”

    1. I love this advice and learning this when I first read the Go-Giver, truly changed my life and my biz. Understanding this gives me permission to NOT stifle my enthusiasm as I had been trying to do. I get excited about stuff and for years I worked on trying to appear outwardly calm and confident~like John Travolta in Grease. "Yeah, you know, no big deal. Rockin and rollin..." This crazy, out-of-control, often giddy and over-excited way works SO much better. MAD LOVE DUDE!!! There I go again!

    2. I have seen this true in a lot of ways. Be true to yourself and you never have to not want to look in the mirror. When we understand ourselves for what we are with all the blemishes out in the open, we are much more comfortable with ourselves and able to make the changes we should.

      Also when we don't "put on airs" or pretend to be something we aren't we attract the people we need in our lives, who will help be what we want to be. Thanks for the reminder.

    3. Sooner or later,the relationship not built on thrust and truth,and where you cannot things you need to Say,Will end.and i realise ,if People are too negative or selfish

    4. Sooner or later,the relationship not built on thrust and truth,and where you cannot say what you need to Say,Will end.and i realise ,if People are too negative or selfish,they are going to defend or give negative feedback,and the relationship Will be difficult to nurture.

    5. Exactly Randy!

      Love this post! Yes, sometimes is hard to say what other don´t want to know and sometimes I don´t want to listen :o)

      But there is a beauty in it... When realize, that it is a deep true. I love it. I love to be myself... Wooow, I said it loud? :o))) What I feel and know inside? Now I feel something special and I want thank the Universe, God, whatever you name, that I attracted you to my life. Thank you! That I listened to yours advices, and trully sometimes in the begginning I was fighting with myself :o)and was angry to you (trully on me).

      Now I am happy! And know that I am attracting everything I wish. I started to enjoy the life and all these things which I do.

      Take care,
      Marketa

    6. For this topic, you´re the ideal role-model! 🙂

      ...although I saw some copies running around...
      yes, a disguise will make people only feel naked after it falls off -

      ENJOY!

    7. "Adopt a disguise and the universe will reveal you anyway." Yes!

      Regarding receiving feedback: I read a biography of Brian Boitano, who won an Olympic gold medal in figure skating. He advised people to receive feedback as if they were required to accurately relay it to a third person, whom the feedback was targeted for. I find his method helps me truly hear the advice while dampening the urge to lash out at the person who is giving the advice.

      1. That actually works on children,too.if you,instead of confronting them With advices and anger,talk as if the words were meant for everybody who wants to listen,they feel free and they listen,100%!

    8. Reading this,i am thinking about the Times' where there were no place for being real,where the other part Did not listen and where i felt like if My self was disguised,and How terrible it was.how dangerous it IS.How à nice

    9. And honorable person Can turn into something totally different,even a child,when they have no chance to be that.REAL.

    10. The times I have received the greatest compliments are the times when I have laid it all out there. I'm not really that great at being something I'm not.

      There are a lot of people in this industry who think that they have to have some "perfect" persona to be a leader. My life and my business is anything but perfect, and I am a great leader!

      Thanks for being real Randy!

    11. "Real relationships are built on truth and trust." This includes the relationship we have with our own selves.

      Being honest with myself, trusting myself, and (especially) accepting myself as ME are real challenges, but I'm working on it. I'm worth it.
      jim

    12. Hey You
      Don’t you give up
      It’s not so bad
      There’s still a chance for us

      Hey You
      Just be yourself
      Don’t be so shy
      There’s reasons why it’s hard

      Keep it together
      You’ll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets would envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      Hey you
      Open your heart
      It’s not so strange
      You’ve got to change
      this time

      Hey you
      Remember this
      None of it’s real
      including the way you feel

      Keep it together
      We'll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets would envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      Save your soul, little sister
      Save your soul, little brother

      Hey you
      Save yourself
      Don’t rely on anyone else

      First, love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If, you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else

      But, you must first love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If, you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else
      But, you must first...

      Hey you
      There on the fence
      You’ve got a choice
      One day it will make sense

      Hey you
      First, love yourself
      Or, if you can’t
      Try to love someone else

      Keep it together
      We ’ll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets will envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      First, love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If you can change someone else
      Then you have saved someone else

      But, you must first love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else
      But, you must first...

      Madonna - Hey You Lyrics

      Thank you Randy for sharing your love and thoughts with us:)

    13. Hey You
      Don’t you give up
      It’s not so bad
      There’s still a chance for us

      Hey You
      Just be yourself
      Don’t be so shy
      There’s reasons why it’s hard

      Keep it together
      You’ll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets would envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      Hey you
      Open your heart
      It’s not so strange
      You’ve got to change
      this time

      Hey you
      Remember this
      None of it’s real
      including the way you feel

      Keep it together
      We'll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets would envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      Save your soul, little sister
      Save your soul, little brother

      Hey you
      Save yourself
      Don’t rely on anyone else

      First, love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If, you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else

      But, you must first love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If, you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else
      But, you must first...

      Hey you
      There on the fence
      You’ve got a choice
      One day it will make sense

      Hey you
      First, love yourself
      Or, if you can’t
      Try to love someone else

      Keep it together
      We ’ll make it all right
      A celebration is going on tonight
      Poets and prophets will envy what we do
      This could be good
      hey you

      First, love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If you can change someone else
      Then you have saved someone else

      But, you must first love yourself
      Then, you can love someone else
      If you can change someone else
      Then, you have saved someone else
      But, you must first...

      Madonna - Hey You Lyrics

      Thank you Randy for sharing your love and thoughts with us:)

    14. This is so true, because a lot of people pretend that they are some else and after a few years the other finds out that that person is completely different. Thanks for sharing!

    15. This is so true, because a lot of people pretend that they are some else and after a few years the other finds out that that person is completely different. Thanks for sharing!

    16. You can only improve when you are truly yourself .There is always room for improvement however if we are pretending then there is no room for improvement.

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