I had a fascinating experience back when I was doing my coaching program. At one of the Retreats I was working with a speaker about growing his business. I came up with an idea that could generate $15 or $20 million a year in revenue. It had the potential to get up to $30 million a year quite readily. At that time, he was doing only about $500,000 a year.
As I sketched out the concept, I felt him and his wife tuning out. It became obvious to me and the group, that they simply couldn’t put themselves in that picture. They came expecting to learn how to make an extra $50,000 or maybe $250,000, but when we started talking millions, it just was too unbelievable.
Now to be fair, they didn’t first see the situation that way. They just thought that the idea was difficult, needed more research, would take longer to develop, etc. It was only when the entire Mastermind confronted them that they accepted the possibility that they might be running from the idea because it was too prosperous for them to accept.
They left with the agreement that they would listen to my “Prosperity” album to expand their prosperity consciousness.
They returned to the next retreat and both felt that they had worked through their prosperity issues and were willing to accept abundance. So I asked the wife a very simple question….
I wanted to know how her life would be different if their business did $30 million this next year. The answer was fascinating...
She insisted that it would pretty much stay the same. She made a great point to confirm that her needs were basically met, and the only real difference was she wouldn’t have stress about paying bills. I pressed her for tangible changes that would take place in her lifestyle. EVERYTHING she came up with had to do with helping someone else.
She would sponsor a Boy Scout camp, help out her parents, sponsor a school, etc. She didn’t name one thing she would do for herself. I threw the question to her husband.
He started where she left off, but he got more specific. He mentioned the exact Boy Scout activities that would sponsor, and suggested that he would hire a 24-hour caregiver for his sick father. But he was still only talking about giving money away to others.
I let them know that I felt their religious upbringing had programmed them for lack, because they didn’t think they were worthy of anything. They of course got very defensive. But I again pointed out that everything they suggested would be for someone else. Finally exasperated, I blurted out to the woman, “Come on, I just asked you to picture you’re making $30 million dollars a year. You can’t even tell me you would buy yourself a fucking pair of shoes or something!”
After much searching, he finally suggested that they could get a cabin on the lake. This prompted his wife who finally acknowledged that she would like a 4-wheel drive vehicle. Then they said if they got these things, they could bring more Boy Scouts on field trips there. (Sigh.)
I love that they want to help other people and I hope you do too. But what about your needs? Giving comes from abundance, and that means taking care of yourself too. If you don’t think you are worthy, you won’t manifest prosperity and you can’t help anyone.
So how are you doing on that? How would your life be different if you made $30 million this year? Tell me what you would do for others. But also tell us what you would do for YOU!