One of the most complex issues you will ever deal with both in business and personal relationships is when someone tells you one thing, but does another. When you’re facing conflicting messages from someone, go by the actions.
Your boss says he values you, but never demonstrates it with your pay or benefits. Your wife says she will quit drugging, but she goes on another binge. Your husband promises to stop cheating on you, but you discover he has another profile on an Internet dating site.
If I learned anything after four year of therapy it is this: What people tell you means a lot less than what they actually show you.
Truth is seldom heard, but it’s usually seen.