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Forgiveness

Posted By: Randy GageApril 18, 2012

So what stops most people from manifesting prosperity? 

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BREAKING UPDATE

 

Hey guys, I'm locking down the blog!  I know many of you want to read the next post on the other spiritual law that blocks many people from prosperity.  But I'm going to keep this post up, until Project Forgive gets 100% funded.  We're 87% there as of the time I'm writing this.  Let's get it done!

If you haven't supported the project, please do.  And please share the link all over your world, email, Twitter FB and Pinterest.  We can make this happen.  We really can.  -RG

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Most of you know, I teach seven laws of prosperity you must live by.  Most people don't have a problem with most of them.  But there are two that seem to get a lot of resistance with a large group of people.  Let’s look at the first one…

The Forgiveness Law of Prosperity

So why is this so hard for so many?  Victim-hood.  Or more specifically, the desire that comes from remaining in victim-hood.  Some people get a psychic payoff from feeling exploited.  So they hold onto that victim state like a bulldog with a bone.  And that, doesn't serve you…

You can be a victim – or you can be a victor – but you can’t be both. 

Forgiveness also lets you practice the Vacuum Law of Prosperity.  You release being a victim and that creates a vacuum for your good.

And who do you think is the hardest person in the world to forgive?

Now how did I know you were going to say that?  We are all our toughest critics.  And we’ve all done things and said things we wish we had never done.  That’s just part of being human.  So apologize if appropriate, forgive yourself, resolve to do better, and move on.  You too, deserve forgiveness, including from yourself.

Next post we’ll look at the other law people have the hardest time with.  But before that, I want to tell you about an amazing mission about forgiveness taking place.  It’s called Project Forgive.  It’s a transformational documentary being created by Emmy-winning producer Shawne Duperon.  She and some of the other people behind the film have put up a page on Kickstarter to fund the project.  They’re a couple days away from the deadline and they’re almost there.  They could use your help.

Please go here and watch the video.  You’ll know what to do next!

- RG

105 comments on “Forgiveness”

  1. That is amazing. I made my forgiveness list just this morning and have been working on this.
    How did you know? Lol.
    A perfect message at a perfect time.
    As Joe Vitale says 'I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.'
    Have you met him Randy?

  2. That is amazing. I made my forgiveness list just this morning and have been working on this.
    How did you know? Lol.
    A perfect message at a perfect time.
    As Joe Vitale says 'I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.'
    Have you met him Randy?

  3. Glad you brought this up, Randy.  Over the past 15 years, give or take, I've done a lot of forgiveness work around some of the major hitters in my life: parents, siblings, school teachers, ex-lovers.  I was inspired to do this work because someone suggested that because A) un-forgiveness = emotional entanglement, and  B) I'd be involved with these difficult people in future lives if I didn't disentangle myself in this life.  While I'm agnostic on reincarnation, I don't want to risk the chance: I did forgiveness work! 
     
    However, as I've mentioned here before, there are still some annoying or iwwitating people in my life.  They aren't Big Deals, but they are still detrimental to my peace of mind (& prosperity?)  This post is my inspiration to do some forgiveness work on the minor players in my life.
     
    Also, I need to forgive some Behaviors.  I love my husband, and my young adult kids, but oh my!  Some of the %#[email protected]#&**!!  stupid things  they do.....!  I need to work on that.  Thanks for the eye-opener.

  4. Glad you brought this up, Randy.  Over the past 15 years, give or take, I've done a lot of forgiveness work around some of the major hitters in my life: parents, siblings, school teachers, ex-lovers.  I was inspired to do this work because someone suggested that because A) un-forgiveness = emotional entanglement, and  B) I'd be involved with these difficult people in future lives if I didn't disentangle myself in this life.  While I'm agnostic on reincarnation, I don't want to risk the chance: I did forgiveness work! 
     
    However, as I've mentioned here before, there are still some annoying or iwwitating people in my life.  They aren't Big Deals, but they are still detrimental to my peace of mind (& prosperity?)  This post is my inspiration to do some forgiveness work on the minor players in my life.
     
    Also, I need to forgive some Behaviors.  I love my husband, and my young adult kids, but oh my!  Some of the %#[email protected]#&**!!  stupid things  they do.....!  I need to work on that.  Thanks for the eye-opener.

  5. RG,
    I used to think I was "bad" just for assassinating and as many of my ex's have said. "wishing horrible things on people who have crossed you." I still do that but only for a few seconds. I have found saying STOP helps me and I move to a Louise L Hay affirmation. I know you have had a challenging life and I wonder  what you did to create the vacuum.
    Thanks,
    Jim

  6. RG,
    I used to think I was "bad" just for assassinating and as many of my ex's have said. "wishing horrible things on people who have crossed you." I still do that but only for a few seconds. I have found saying STOP helps me and I move to a Louise L Hay affirmation. I know you have had a challenging life and I wonder  what you did to create the vacuum.
    Thanks,
    Jim

  7. Thanks for reminding us about this important concept.  It is so very critical to health and prosperity.Thanks also for the introduction to Project Forgive.  What an awesome idea.  I am now an official backer! 

  8. Thanks for reminding us about this important concept.  It is so very critical to health and prosperity.Thanks also for the introduction to Project Forgive.  What an awesome idea.  I am now an official backer! 

  9. In some ways this is connected to another concept you've shared previously which is built around being in service to others rather than Objectivism. I know many people who put other's happiness ahead of their own, which of course degrades self image. I have been guilty of this myself and now forgive myself for behaving this way. I really believe it's incredibly important to put OUR happiness ahead of others in order that we can make others happy too. So if we forgive ourselves for behaving otherwise, we can open the door to feeling good about ourselves which ushers in abundance.. BOOM! 

  10. In some ways this is connected to another concept you've shared previously which is built around being in service to others rather than Objectivism. I know many people who put other's happiness ahead of their own, which of course degrades self image. I have been guilty of this myself and now forgive myself for behaving this way. I really believe it's incredibly important to put OUR happiness ahead of others in order that we can make others happy too. So if we forgive ourselves for behaving otherwise, we can open the door to feeling good about ourselves which ushers in abundance.. BOOM! 

  11. That's an incredibly important lesson, Randy. Since starting my own personal growth and development, and taking a stern hard look at myself; I noticed how hard I used to be on me and others, when it came to forgiving. One of the most important steps I've taken has been to forgive myself for allowing the victim role to be played in my life. I was the type of person who pushed all of what was going wrong in my life onto other people; and while they may have contributed to the situation, it was my responsibility to choose to let it go. I also noticed that it was the main reason I didn't care to see others happy and enjoying life. I felt happy people were annoying people. It really takes us being super honest with ourselves, and owning up to when and where we are being wrong. And as you said, apologize, forgive ourselves, resolve to do better, and move past it. Who would've known that once I faced this very Law of forgiveness, I would become one of those annoying happy people, I used to despise. 😀 Thanks for the sharpening mate. Great lesson!

  12. That's an incredibly important lesson, Randy. Since starting my own personal growth and development, and taking a stern hard look at myself; I noticed how hard I used to be on me and others, when it came to forgiving. One of the most important steps I've taken has been to forgive myself for allowing the victim role to be played in my life. I was the type of person who pushed all of what was going wrong in my life onto other people; and while they may have contributed to the situation, it was my responsibility to choose to let it go. I also noticed that it was the main reason I didn't care to see others happy and enjoying life. I felt happy people were annoying people. It really takes us being super honest with ourselves, and owning up to when and where we are being wrong. And as you said, apologize, forgive ourselves, resolve to do better, and move past it. Who would've known that once I faced this very Law of forgiveness, I would become one of those annoying happy people, I used to despise. 😀 Thanks for the sharpening mate. Great lesson!

  13. Forgivenss means that something was wrong. That is not so. Nothing is wrong. Don't forgive yourself but accept that you went thru a period in which you did not accept your true self which was needed to discover your trueself. I believe forgiveness is one of the worst things one can do, to oneself (as you don't accept your past and see it as wrong which it is not) or to someone else which means you feel yourself superior to the other person, which is silly as we are all one (= energy) and therefor means you feel yourself superior to....yourself.

  14. Forgivenss means that something was wrong. That is not so. Nothing is wrong. Don't forgive yourself but accept that you went thru a period in which you did not accept your true self which was needed to discover your trueself. I believe forgiveness is one of the worst things one can do, to oneself (as you don't accept your past and see it as wrong which it is not) or to someone else which means you feel yourself superior to the other person, which is silly as we are all one (= energy) and therefor means you feel yourself superior to....yourself.

  15. oh, baby. I've been working hard on forgiveness lately.
     
    I have a question for you as the answer alludes me. I have someone in my life, who will be in my life to a certain degree for many many years. I've detached as best possible. This person continues to harass me with court actions, harassing comments within emails, and general hateful energy.
     
    I refuse to be the victim, and I"m not. I truly want to forgive him for his actions. How do I do this when the actions continue? Do I continually forgive him and bless him?
     
    I'll forgive him, bless him for past actions and then wham-o! He does something and I can feel the anger and hate all over again.
     
    Any insights would be awesome, because I truly DO want to forgive him and bless him in all ways!
     
    Kindly,
     
    Me. 🙂

  16. oh, baby. I've been working hard on forgiveness lately.
     
    I have a question for you as the answer alludes me. I have someone in my life, who will be in my life to a certain degree for many many years. I've detached as best possible. This person continues to harass me with court actions, harassing comments within emails, and general hateful energy.
     
    I refuse to be the victim, and I"m not. I truly want to forgive him for his actions. How do I do this when the actions continue? Do I continually forgive him and bless him?
     
    I'll forgive him, bless him for past actions and then wham-o! He does something and I can feel the anger and hate all over again.
     
    Any insights would be awesome, because I truly DO want to forgive him and bless him in all ways!
     
    Kindly,
     
    Me. 🙂

  17. I have a very hard time forgiving my parents. I have had counseling, but I cannot get over how mean and cruel they are.They are both extremely abusive people who chose never to deal with their problems, and still believe that "authority" of any kind has their own best interest at heart and is supposed to take care of them. When you leave yourself open to that, it means never having to take responsibility for your actions/results.Even worse is their mentality of "you have to do it all by yourself" or "I won't help you unless you do it my way", or "it's the government's job". I was told to my face that "You deserve to end up in a gutter somewhere", and when I came out to them, that I deserved AIDS, and I am regularly told that I live a "lifestyle" and am even referred to in the 3rd person.My father especially almost always has treated me like second class citizen, and has  used food, money, blaming those "authority" figures who loves so much "they told me to do it", and lying about caring, when he is clearly sick and evil. I also have a hard time forgiving my mother because she was not willing to get a divorce from someone who is clearly a sick and evil human-being.It is extremely difficult as I grew up around people who either well-off financially or their family at least believed their children deserved more than "doing it all themselves" or working for a Union. Most of the "evil rich people" and "spoiled professionals" made sure their kids were confident, happy and stood a chance. Their were also far more generous than my parents, who gave my brother and I the bare minimum and acted like they were kind and loving.My mother's side of the family is very well-off and it's very awkward attending family gatherings being from the "broke" family. It's very hard for me to forgive people who willingly choose to be as cruel and apathetic as they are. 

  18. I have been able to forgive most of the people who have trespassed against me, as well as myself, but I have difficulty forgiving my parents.They both have a tendency to be on the abusive, controlling side, and neither of them really love themselves, and by default, their own children.The good news, is in spite of their cruelty, my younger brother and I put in the effort to be decent human beings. We do not use "no one taught me", "no one helped me", "it's someone else's job to take care of me"etc. as excuses. 

    1. ThomasMrak, I feel for you with your difficult parents, and want to applaud you & your bro. for rising above what they modelled.  Neurotic people make lousy parents, and yet a huge percentage of parents ARE neurotic - mine certainly were, poor souls.
      I found "forgiving" easier to do if I went through a preliminary stage.  I started by asking for help to WANT to forigive. 
      I don't know if you are a praying person. I am - pragmatically speaking, I recognized that people who chose to believe in a present & personal & loving God seemed to be happier than those who didn't.  If you aren't into God, then you might want to just "send your requests out into the Universe."
      I began the long Process of forgiving my father by praying, "Please help me to WANT to forgive my horrid beastly rotten etc. father."
      When I found sufficient reason to WANT to forgive him (primarily for my own peace of mind) I changed the prayer to "Please help me to forgive him." 
      In my experience, forgiving is not a one-time event; rather it is a process.  Just as I had to find reasons to WANT to forgive, I also had to find reasons that made him forgiveable.  I studied up on how he had been raised, the experiences that helped form him...and for a long time, that wasn't enough.  I kept on asking "help me to forgive him" (because by that time, I really really REALLY wanted to).  Eventually I completed the process. Took me a couple years.
      If you are looking for a reason to WANT to forgive, you might take a look at my previous post on this blog-topic.  Your reasons might be completely different, but I am confident you will find your good reasons why you want to forgive.  All Best Wishes, elaine

      1.  @MrsHealthandProsperity I've had a rough adult life because of it. We both have. For the longest time I settled for very little, especially since they were so dysfunctional, even though they made enough money, our future was just not a priority. Essentially, we were expected to do as well as people who did get the planning love, and support, but we were either held back, micromanaged, or ignored.It's hard to do well when you are young being raised in an environment like that, especially when you see what "normal" is everyday.When I was 25 I was in a relationship which mirrored their own. Around this time I discovered Randy's "Why You're Dumb, Sick and Broke" book.The past 5 years have been rough but at least I know i have worth, and even though these are highly uncertain times, I am pushing through. 

        1.  @ThomasMrak You have convinced me that your parents made mistakes, lots of them, and that you have suffered as a result.  Now you are in the process of recovery from your childhood, which is great.   
          Let's move on....let's talk about forgiveness:
          Do you want to forgive these people? 
          If NO, that's fine.  It's your choice.
           If YES, why would you want to forgive them?  Is there any benefit FOR YOU in forgiving them? Can you convince me that you want to forgive them?

  19. I have been able to forgive most of the people who have trespassed against me, as well as myself, but I have difficulty forgiving my parents.They both have a tendency to be on the abusive, controlling side, and neither of them really love themselves, and by default, their own children.The good news, is in spite of their cruelty, my younger brother and I put in the effort to be decent human beings. We do not use "no one taught me", "no one helped me", "it's someone else's job to take care of me"etc. as excuses. 

  20. ThomasMrak, I feel for you with your difficult parents, and want to applaud you & your bro. for rising above what they modelled.  Neurotic people make lousy parents, and yet a huge percentage of parents ARE neurotic - mine certainly were, poor souls.
    I found "forgiving" easier to do if I went through a preliminary stage.  I started by asking for help to WANT to forigive. 
    I don't know if you are a praying person. I am - pragmatically speaking, I recognized that people who chose to believe in a present & personal & loving God seemed to be happier than those who didn't.  If you aren't into God, then you might want to just "send your requests out into the Universe."
    I began the long Process of forgiving my father by praying, "Please help me to WANT to forgive my horrid beastly rotten etc. father."
    When I found sufficient reason to WANT to forgive him (primarily for my own peace of mind) I changed the prayer to "Please help me to forgive him." 
    In my experience, forgiving is not a one-time event; rather it is a process.  Just as I had to find reasons to WANT to forgive, I also had to find reasons that made him forgiveable.  I studied up on how he had been raised, the experiences that helped form him...and for a long time, that wasn't enough.  I kept on asking "help me to forgive him" (because by that time, I really really REALLY wanted to).  Eventually I completed the process. Took me a couple years.
    If you are looking for a reason to WANT to forgive, you might take a look at my previous post on this blog-topic.  Your reasons might be completely different, but I am confident you will find your good reasons why you want to forgive.  All Best Wishes, elaine

  21. Forgiving ourselves is the most challenging part of being human. It's true though, when we are able to easily forgive ourselves, forgiving others becomes effortless. 
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  22. Agel is a company that does not respect anyone, only your interests, arrived in Brazil, cheated and stole the Brazilians to buy a product already registered and sold as a new technology that is a crime and we will back our rights. Agel has no scientific study that proves this tecnoligia if this company is careful in your country because you are being deceived. We will close this company and its representatives to pay damages

  23. Agel is a company that does not respect anyone, only your interests, arrived in Brazil, cheated and stole the Brazilians to buy a product already registered and sold as a new technology that is a crime and we will back our rights. Agel has no scientific study that proves this tecnoligia if this company is careful in your country because you are being deceived. We will close this company and its representatives to pay damages

  24. I am a backer of FOGIVE almost from the beginning on - when I received your 1st Email about it!
    you know I am follower of yours, so relax!
    Get the others up from their sofa  🙂

  25. I am a backer of FOGIVE almost from the beginning on - when I received your 1st Email about it!
    you know I am follower of yours, so relax!
    Get the others up from their sofa  🙂

  26.  @MrsHealthandProsperity I've had a rough adult life because of it. We both have. For the longest time I settled for very little, especially since they were so dysfunctional, even though they made enough money, our future was just not a priority. Essentially, we were expected to do as well as people who did get the planning love, and support, but we were either held back, micromanaged, or ignored.It's hard to do well when you are young being raised in an environment like that, especially when you see what "normal" is everyday.When I was 25 I was in a relationship which mirrored their own. Around this time I discovered Randy's "Why You're Dumb, Sick and Broke" book.The past 5 years have been rough but at least I know i have worth, and even though these are highly uncertain times, I am pushing through. 

  27. Fabulous idea, fabulous mission and in perfect keeping with all you have done to teach people how to live better lives.  Thanks so very much.  ~Karen

  28. Fabulous idea, fabulous mission and in perfect keeping with all you have done to teach people how to live better lives.  Thanks so very much.  ~Karen

  29. Thanks for sharing this Great Blog, Randy! Your ideas and thoughts are great, and people who follow and have followed, would sure be living a happy and peaceful life, and that is what is life about-FORGIVENESS!
    Ramesh Shankerlal
    @ransae 

  30. Thanks for sharing this Great Blog, Randy! Your ideas and thoughts are great, and people who follow and have followed, would sure be living a happy and peaceful life, and that is what is life about-FORGIVENESS!
    Ramesh Shankerlal
    @ransae 

  31.  @ThomasMrak You have convinced me that your parents made mistakes, lots of them, and that you have suffered as a result.  Now you are in the process of recovery from your childhood, which is great.   
    Let's move on....let's talk about forgiveness:
    Do you want to forgive these people? 
    If NO, that's fine.  It's your choice.
     If YES, why would you want to forgive them?  Is there any benefit FOR YOU in forgiving them? Can you convince me that you want to forgive them?

  32. Randy - Thanks for this. I know how much good the project can do. I've supported it on Kickstarter too. If we only change one life, it's worth it.  But I am confident that many many lives will be changed. Thanks for your support and encouragement!

  33. Randy - Thanks for this. I know how much good the project can do. I've supported it on Kickstarter too. If we only change one life, it's worth it.  But I am confident that many many lives will be changed. Thanks for your support and encouragement!

  34. Know for certain have had to forgive me, not my SELF, not to mention a bunch of others who I thought were evil MF' ers, well am a very direct sort of guy,
     
    Anyway, the ONE IMMORTAL SELF is the only True leader,who never fails and always leads "me" to exactly where i am supposed to be, the one i call me,' in the equation is the one who sometimes doesn't listen, then has to 'forgive' himself for not listening.

  35. Know for certain have had to forgive me, not my SELF, not to mention a bunch of others who I thought were evil MF' ers, well am a very direct sort of guy,
     
    Anyway, the ONE IMMORTAL SELF is the only True leader,who never fails and always leads "me" to exactly where i am supposed to be, the one i call me,' in the equation is the one who sometimes doesn't listen, then has to 'forgive' himself for not listening.

  36. Was wondering if we would start forgiving and enjoying it, we would still end up manifesting opportunities to forgive ourselves and others. That would be sabotage. Another thing that was flashing through mind was, when we affirm prosperity aren't we really being not rich enough.

  37. Was wondering if we would start forgiving and enjoying it, we would still end up manifesting opportunities to forgive ourselves and others. That would be sabotage. Another thing that was flashing through mind was, when we affirm prosperity aren't we really being not rich enough.

  38. I am a backer of the movie and I hope that others will do the same! Forgiving is as easy or hard as one chooses it to be. There is something that can be said for the person that can forgive the bee sting but cannot the wrong of another when the you feel the pain of the bee sting right away!

  39. I am a backer of the movie and I hope that others will do the same! Forgiving is as easy or hard as one chooses it to be. There is something that can be said for the person that can forgive the bee sting but cannot the wrong of another when the you feel the pain of the bee sting right away!

  40. Forgiveness is changing your beliefs that make you a victim, less than others, better than others, not good enough, slaves, unequal, not worthy, valuable, etc. Change the source of your beliefs.

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  • 105 comments on “Forgiveness”

    1. That is amazing. I made my forgiveness list just this morning and have been working on this.
      How did you know? Lol.
      A perfect message at a perfect time.
      As Joe Vitale says 'I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.'
      Have you met him Randy?

    2. That is amazing. I made my forgiveness list just this morning and have been working on this.
      How did you know? Lol.
      A perfect message at a perfect time.
      As Joe Vitale says 'I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.'
      Have you met him Randy?

    3. Glad you brought this up, Randy.  Over the past 15 years, give or take, I've done a lot of forgiveness work around some of the major hitters in my life: parents, siblings, school teachers, ex-lovers.  I was inspired to do this work because someone suggested that because A) un-forgiveness = emotional entanglement, and  B) I'd be involved with these difficult people in future lives if I didn't disentangle myself in this life.  While I'm agnostic on reincarnation, I don't want to risk the chance: I did forgiveness work! 
       
      However, as I've mentioned here before, there are still some annoying or iwwitating people in my life.  They aren't Big Deals, but they are still detrimental to my peace of mind (& prosperity?)  This post is my inspiration to do some forgiveness work on the minor players in my life.
       
      Also, I need to forgive some Behaviors.  I love my husband, and my young adult kids, but oh my!  Some of the %#[email protected]#&**!!  stupid things  they do.....!  I need to work on that.  Thanks for the eye-opener.

    4. Glad you brought this up, Randy.  Over the past 15 years, give or take, I've done a lot of forgiveness work around some of the major hitters in my life: parents, siblings, school teachers, ex-lovers.  I was inspired to do this work because someone suggested that because A) un-forgiveness = emotional entanglement, and  B) I'd be involved with these difficult people in future lives if I didn't disentangle myself in this life.  While I'm agnostic on reincarnation, I don't want to risk the chance: I did forgiveness work! 
       
      However, as I've mentioned here before, there are still some annoying or iwwitating people in my life.  They aren't Big Deals, but they are still detrimental to my peace of mind (& prosperity?)  This post is my inspiration to do some forgiveness work on the minor players in my life.
       
      Also, I need to forgive some Behaviors.  I love my husband, and my young adult kids, but oh my!  Some of the %#[email protected]#&**!!  stupid things  they do.....!  I need to work on that.  Thanks for the eye-opener.

    5. RG,
      I used to think I was "bad" just for assassinating and as many of my ex's have said. "wishing horrible things on people who have crossed you." I still do that but only for a few seconds. I have found saying STOP helps me and I move to a Louise L Hay affirmation. I know you have had a challenging life and I wonder  what you did to create the vacuum.
      Thanks,
      Jim

    6. RG,
      I used to think I was "bad" just for assassinating and as many of my ex's have said. "wishing horrible things on people who have crossed you." I still do that but only for a few seconds. I have found saying STOP helps me and I move to a Louise L Hay affirmation. I know you have had a challenging life and I wonder  what you did to create the vacuum.
      Thanks,
      Jim

    7. Thanks for reminding us about this important concept.  It is so very critical to health and prosperity.Thanks also for the introduction to Project Forgive.  What an awesome idea.  I am now an official backer! 

    8. Thanks for reminding us about this important concept.  It is so very critical to health and prosperity.Thanks also for the introduction to Project Forgive.  What an awesome idea.  I am now an official backer! 

    9. In some ways this is connected to another concept you've shared previously which is built around being in service to others rather than Objectivism. I know many people who put other's happiness ahead of their own, which of course degrades self image. I have been guilty of this myself and now forgive myself for behaving this way. I really believe it's incredibly important to put OUR happiness ahead of others in order that we can make others happy too. So if we forgive ourselves for behaving otherwise, we can open the door to feeling good about ourselves which ushers in abundance.. BOOM! 

    10. In some ways this is connected to another concept you've shared previously which is built around being in service to others rather than Objectivism. I know many people who put other's happiness ahead of their own, which of course degrades self image. I have been guilty of this myself and now forgive myself for behaving this way. I really believe it's incredibly important to put OUR happiness ahead of others in order that we can make others happy too. So if we forgive ourselves for behaving otherwise, we can open the door to feeling good about ourselves which ushers in abundance.. BOOM! 

    11. That's an incredibly important lesson, Randy. Since starting my own personal growth and development, and taking a stern hard look at myself; I noticed how hard I used to be on me and others, when it came to forgiving. One of the most important steps I've taken has been to forgive myself for allowing the victim role to be played in my life. I was the type of person who pushed all of what was going wrong in my life onto other people; and while they may have contributed to the situation, it was my responsibility to choose to let it go. I also noticed that it was the main reason I didn't care to see others happy and enjoying life. I felt happy people were annoying people. It really takes us being super honest with ourselves, and owning up to when and where we are being wrong. And as you said, apologize, forgive ourselves, resolve to do better, and move past it. Who would've known that once I faced this very Law of forgiveness, I would become one of those annoying happy people, I used to despise. 😀 Thanks for the sharpening mate. Great lesson!

    12. That's an incredibly important lesson, Randy. Since starting my own personal growth and development, and taking a stern hard look at myself; I noticed how hard I used to be on me and others, when it came to forgiving. One of the most important steps I've taken has been to forgive myself for allowing the victim role to be played in my life. I was the type of person who pushed all of what was going wrong in my life onto other people; and while they may have contributed to the situation, it was my responsibility to choose to let it go. I also noticed that it was the main reason I didn't care to see others happy and enjoying life. I felt happy people were annoying people. It really takes us being super honest with ourselves, and owning up to when and where we are being wrong. And as you said, apologize, forgive ourselves, resolve to do better, and move past it. Who would've known that once I faced this very Law of forgiveness, I would become one of those annoying happy people, I used to despise. 😀 Thanks for the sharpening mate. Great lesson!

    13. Forgivenss means that something was wrong. That is not so. Nothing is wrong. Don't forgive yourself but accept that you went thru a period in which you did not accept your true self which was needed to discover your trueself. I believe forgiveness is one of the worst things one can do, to oneself (as you don't accept your past and see it as wrong which it is not) or to someone else which means you feel yourself superior to the other person, which is silly as we are all one (= energy) and therefor means you feel yourself superior to....yourself.

    14. Forgivenss means that something was wrong. That is not so. Nothing is wrong. Don't forgive yourself but accept that you went thru a period in which you did not accept your true self which was needed to discover your trueself. I believe forgiveness is one of the worst things one can do, to oneself (as you don't accept your past and see it as wrong which it is not) or to someone else which means you feel yourself superior to the other person, which is silly as we are all one (= energy) and therefor means you feel yourself superior to....yourself.

    15. oh, baby. I've been working hard on forgiveness lately.
       
      I have a question for you as the answer alludes me. I have someone in my life, who will be in my life to a certain degree for many many years. I've detached as best possible. This person continues to harass me with court actions, harassing comments within emails, and general hateful energy.
       
      I refuse to be the victim, and I"m not. I truly want to forgive him for his actions. How do I do this when the actions continue? Do I continually forgive him and bless him?
       
      I'll forgive him, bless him for past actions and then wham-o! He does something and I can feel the anger and hate all over again.
       
      Any insights would be awesome, because I truly DO want to forgive him and bless him in all ways!
       
      Kindly,
       
      Me. 🙂

    16. oh, baby. I've been working hard on forgiveness lately.
       
      I have a question for you as the answer alludes me. I have someone in my life, who will be in my life to a certain degree for many many years. I've detached as best possible. This person continues to harass me with court actions, harassing comments within emails, and general hateful energy.
       
      I refuse to be the victim, and I"m not. I truly want to forgive him for his actions. How do I do this when the actions continue? Do I continually forgive him and bless him?
       
      I'll forgive him, bless him for past actions and then wham-o! He does something and I can feel the anger and hate all over again.
       
      Any insights would be awesome, because I truly DO want to forgive him and bless him in all ways!
       
      Kindly,
       
      Me. 🙂

    17. I have a very hard time forgiving my parents. I have had counseling, but I cannot get over how mean and cruel they are.They are both extremely abusive people who chose never to deal with their problems, and still believe that "authority" of any kind has their own best interest at heart and is supposed to take care of them. When you leave yourself open to that, it means never having to take responsibility for your actions/results.Even worse is their mentality of "you have to do it all by yourself" or "I won't help you unless you do it my way", or "it's the government's job". I was told to my face that "You deserve to end up in a gutter somewhere", and when I came out to them, that I deserved AIDS, and I am regularly told that I live a "lifestyle" and am even referred to in the 3rd person.My father especially almost always has treated me like second class citizen, and has  used food, money, blaming those "authority" figures who loves so much "they told me to do it", and lying about caring, when he is clearly sick and evil. I also have a hard time forgiving my mother because she was not willing to get a divorce from someone who is clearly a sick and evil human-being.It is extremely difficult as I grew up around people who either well-off financially or their family at least believed their children deserved more than "doing it all themselves" or working for a Union. Most of the "evil rich people" and "spoiled professionals" made sure their kids were confident, happy and stood a chance. Their were also far more generous than my parents, who gave my brother and I the bare minimum and acted like they were kind and loving.My mother's side of the family is very well-off and it's very awkward attending family gatherings being from the "broke" family. It's very hard for me to forgive people who willingly choose to be as cruel and apathetic as they are. 

    18. I have been able to forgive most of the people who have trespassed against me, as well as myself, but I have difficulty forgiving my parents.They both have a tendency to be on the abusive, controlling side, and neither of them really love themselves, and by default, their own children.The good news, is in spite of their cruelty, my younger brother and I put in the effort to be decent human beings. We do not use "no one taught me", "no one helped me", "it's someone else's job to take care of me"etc. as excuses. 

      1. ThomasMrak, I feel for you with your difficult parents, and want to applaud you & your bro. for rising above what they modelled.  Neurotic people make lousy parents, and yet a huge percentage of parents ARE neurotic - mine certainly were, poor souls.
        I found "forgiving" easier to do if I went through a preliminary stage.  I started by asking for help to WANT to forigive. 
        I don't know if you are a praying person. I am - pragmatically speaking, I recognized that people who chose to believe in a present & personal & loving God seemed to be happier than those who didn't.  If you aren't into God, then you might want to just "send your requests out into the Universe."
        I began the long Process of forgiving my father by praying, "Please help me to WANT to forgive my horrid beastly rotten etc. father."
        When I found sufficient reason to WANT to forgive him (primarily for my own peace of mind) I changed the prayer to "Please help me to forgive him." 
        In my experience, forgiving is not a one-time event; rather it is a process.  Just as I had to find reasons to WANT to forgive, I also had to find reasons that made him forgiveable.  I studied up on how he had been raised, the experiences that helped form him...and for a long time, that wasn't enough.  I kept on asking "help me to forgive him" (because by that time, I really really REALLY wanted to).  Eventually I completed the process. Took me a couple years.
        If you are looking for a reason to WANT to forgive, you might take a look at my previous post on this blog-topic.  Your reasons might be completely different, but I am confident you will find your good reasons why you want to forgive.  All Best Wishes, elaine

        1.  @MrsHealthandProsperity I've had a rough adult life because of it. We both have. For the longest time I settled for very little, especially since they were so dysfunctional, even though they made enough money, our future was just not a priority. Essentially, we were expected to do as well as people who did get the planning love, and support, but we were either held back, micromanaged, or ignored.It's hard to do well when you are young being raised in an environment like that, especially when you see what "normal" is everyday.When I was 25 I was in a relationship which mirrored their own. Around this time I discovered Randy's "Why You're Dumb, Sick and Broke" book.The past 5 years have been rough but at least I know i have worth, and even though these are highly uncertain times, I am pushing through. 

          1.  @ThomasMrak You have convinced me that your parents made mistakes, lots of them, and that you have suffered as a result.  Now you are in the process of recovery from your childhood, which is great.   
            Let's move on....let's talk about forgiveness:
            Do you want to forgive these people? 
            If NO, that's fine.  It's your choice.
             If YES, why would you want to forgive them?  Is there any benefit FOR YOU in forgiving them? Can you convince me that you want to forgive them?

    19. I have been able to forgive most of the people who have trespassed against me, as well as myself, but I have difficulty forgiving my parents.They both have a tendency to be on the abusive, controlling side, and neither of them really love themselves, and by default, their own children.The good news, is in spite of their cruelty, my younger brother and I put in the effort to be decent human beings. We do not use "no one taught me", "no one helped me", "it's someone else's job to take care of me"etc. as excuses. 

    20. ThomasMrak, I feel for you with your difficult parents, and want to applaud you & your bro. for rising above what they modelled.  Neurotic people make lousy parents, and yet a huge percentage of parents ARE neurotic - mine certainly were, poor souls.
      I found "forgiving" easier to do if I went through a preliminary stage.  I started by asking for help to WANT to forigive. 
      I don't know if you are a praying person. I am - pragmatically speaking, I recognized that people who chose to believe in a present & personal & loving God seemed to be happier than those who didn't.  If you aren't into God, then you might want to just "send your requests out into the Universe."
      I began the long Process of forgiving my father by praying, "Please help me to WANT to forgive my horrid beastly rotten etc. father."
      When I found sufficient reason to WANT to forgive him (primarily for my own peace of mind) I changed the prayer to "Please help me to forgive him." 
      In my experience, forgiving is not a one-time event; rather it is a process.  Just as I had to find reasons to WANT to forgive, I also had to find reasons that made him forgiveable.  I studied up on how he had been raised, the experiences that helped form him...and for a long time, that wasn't enough.  I kept on asking "help me to forgive him" (because by that time, I really really REALLY wanted to).  Eventually I completed the process. Took me a couple years.
      If you are looking for a reason to WANT to forgive, you might take a look at my previous post on this blog-topic.  Your reasons might be completely different, but I am confident you will find your good reasons why you want to forgive.  All Best Wishes, elaine

    21. Forgiving ourselves is the most challenging part of being human. It's true though, when we are able to easily forgive ourselves, forgiving others becomes effortless. 
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    22. Agel is a company that does not respect anyone, only your interests, arrived in Brazil, cheated and stole the Brazilians to buy a product already registered and sold as a new technology that is a crime and we will back our rights. Agel has no scientific study that proves this tecnoligia if this company is careful in your country because you are being deceived. We will close this company and its representatives to pay damages

    23. Agel is a company that does not respect anyone, only your interests, arrived in Brazil, cheated and stole the Brazilians to buy a product already registered and sold as a new technology that is a crime and we will back our rights. Agel has no scientific study that proves this tecnoligia if this company is careful in your country because you are being deceived. We will close this company and its representatives to pay damages

    24. I am a backer of FOGIVE almost from the beginning on - when I received your 1st Email about it!
      you know I am follower of yours, so relax!
      Get the others up from their sofa  🙂

    25. I am a backer of FOGIVE almost from the beginning on - when I received your 1st Email about it!
      you know I am follower of yours, so relax!
      Get the others up from their sofa  🙂

    26.  @MrsHealthandProsperity I've had a rough adult life because of it. We both have. For the longest time I settled for very little, especially since they were so dysfunctional, even though they made enough money, our future was just not a priority. Essentially, we were expected to do as well as people who did get the planning love, and support, but we were either held back, micromanaged, or ignored.It's hard to do well when you are young being raised in an environment like that, especially when you see what "normal" is everyday.When I was 25 I was in a relationship which mirrored their own. Around this time I discovered Randy's "Why You're Dumb, Sick and Broke" book.The past 5 years have been rough but at least I know i have worth, and even though these are highly uncertain times, I am pushing through. 

    27. Fabulous idea, fabulous mission and in perfect keeping with all you have done to teach people how to live better lives.  Thanks so very much.  ~Karen

    28. Fabulous idea, fabulous mission and in perfect keeping with all you have done to teach people how to live better lives.  Thanks so very much.  ~Karen

    29. Thanks for sharing this Great Blog, Randy! Your ideas and thoughts are great, and people who follow and have followed, would sure be living a happy and peaceful life, and that is what is life about-FORGIVENESS!
      Ramesh Shankerlal
      @ransae 

    30. Thanks for sharing this Great Blog, Randy! Your ideas and thoughts are great, and people who follow and have followed, would sure be living a happy and peaceful life, and that is what is life about-FORGIVENESS!
      Ramesh Shankerlal
      @ransae 

    31.  @ThomasMrak You have convinced me that your parents made mistakes, lots of them, and that you have suffered as a result.  Now you are in the process of recovery from your childhood, which is great.   
      Let's move on....let's talk about forgiveness:
      Do you want to forgive these people? 
      If NO, that's fine.  It's your choice.
       If YES, why would you want to forgive them?  Is there any benefit FOR YOU in forgiving them? Can you convince me that you want to forgive them?

    32. Randy - Thanks for this. I know how much good the project can do. I've supported it on Kickstarter too. If we only change one life, it's worth it.  But I am confident that many many lives will be changed. Thanks for your support and encouragement!

    33. Randy - Thanks for this. I know how much good the project can do. I've supported it on Kickstarter too. If we only change one life, it's worth it.  But I am confident that many many lives will be changed. Thanks for your support and encouragement!

    34. Know for certain have had to forgive me, not my SELF, not to mention a bunch of others who I thought were evil MF' ers, well am a very direct sort of guy,
       
      Anyway, the ONE IMMORTAL SELF is the only True leader,who never fails and always leads "me" to exactly where i am supposed to be, the one i call me,' in the equation is the one who sometimes doesn't listen, then has to 'forgive' himself for not listening.

    35. Know for certain have had to forgive me, not my SELF, not to mention a bunch of others who I thought were evil MF' ers, well am a very direct sort of guy,
       
      Anyway, the ONE IMMORTAL SELF is the only True leader,who never fails and always leads "me" to exactly where i am supposed to be, the one i call me,' in the equation is the one who sometimes doesn't listen, then has to 'forgive' himself for not listening.

    36. Was wondering if we would start forgiving and enjoying it, we would still end up manifesting opportunities to forgive ourselves and others. That would be sabotage. Another thing that was flashing through mind was, when we affirm prosperity aren't we really being not rich enough.

    37. Was wondering if we would start forgiving and enjoying it, we would still end up manifesting opportunities to forgive ourselves and others. That would be sabotage. Another thing that was flashing through mind was, when we affirm prosperity aren't we really being not rich enough.

    38. I am a backer of the movie and I hope that others will do the same! Forgiving is as easy or hard as one chooses it to be. There is something that can be said for the person that can forgive the bee sting but cannot the wrong of another when the you feel the pain of the bee sting right away!

    39. I am a backer of the movie and I hope that others will do the same! Forgiving is as easy or hard as one chooses it to be. There is something that can be said for the person that can forgive the bee sting but cannot the wrong of another when the you feel the pain of the bee sting right away!

    40. Forgiveness is changing your beliefs that make you a victim, less than others, better than others, not good enough, slaves, unequal, not worthy, valuable, etc. Change the source of your beliefs.

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