In yesterday’s post, we looked at when it’s good to lie to yourself. You can actually empower yourself with positive belief. But this sometimes comes with a dark side…
And that’s when our ego defense mechanisms go too far. They distort our ability to self-assess ourselves, and we cross over into self-delusion. Now we’ve moved from simply having an optimistic worldview, to drinking our own bathwater.
You can see examples of this with people with narcissistic disorders like Donald Trump. Their insecurities won’t allow them to accept any facts that don’t portray themselves in a favorable light. Or monsters like Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby, who convince themselves that the pain and abuse they inflict on others isn’t really harmful.
Usually these circumstances don’t happen overnight. It’s a progressive slide into the abyss, making one small validation or excuse at a time—until you wake up one day and suddenly you’re past the point of no return.
So how can you avoid this?
The best defense is surrounding yourself with the right people. This is a huge part of the environment you create around yourself to keep things in perspective.
Which is where we will pick up on tomorrow’s post. Until then, please share your thoughts on all this below.