So what does it take for you to make a change? Do you change because it’s the best thing to do? Or do you procrastinate, and only change when you’re forced to?
Making a change is often like having to fire someone, end a relationship, or pulling a tooth: Better to get it over with.
This is a very relevant topic for me because I’ve recently come to grips with a situation in my own life…
I like to think I embrace change. I never procrastinate; I just get things done. When I see how changing something will improve my life, I do it. I seek challenges and tackle them readily. But I recently noticed something very disturbing..,
Because I’m introverted, I have a tendency to stay in limiting business situations too long. This was a pattern I had in romantic relationships for many years. I would realize a relationship was dysfunctional and end it. And then, rather than face the risk of a new relationship, I’d find myself going back to the ex and try again. I repeated that pattern in four or five relationships before I finally got over it.
But just when I’m ready to pat myself on the back, something else became apparent…
I’m surrounded by a lot of people that play small.
Oh, maybe not by most people’s standards. But if I’m honest, I have to admit I have surrounded myself with people who give me permission to stay the way I am. And that is the sure path to mediocrity.
I got in many business partnerships 10, 15, or even 20 years ago that I’m still in. Some are suppliers, some are partners, and others are simply colleagues that I may brainstorm with. I attracted these people when I was vibrating at a much lower consciousness, and had a much smaller vision of myself and my work. And how do I say this delicately…
While I’ve been growing my vision, not all of these people have been. So when I announce a new project, or come up with a new idea, I have to sell them on it. They doubt the feasibility or think I’m aiming too big. And kind of like “the devil you know” cliché, I’ve settled for people I know and am comfortable with, instead of going out and attracting new people who would challenge me more.
This is not an indictment of the people in my world. They all have their own lives and get to make their own choices. This is an indictment on my own issues. Settling for the familiar and comfortable, instead of going for awesome. That is now officially over.
But enough about my drama. I share it only in that it may contain a lesson for you.
Are you open to change? Are you constantly seeking it? And have you surrounded yourself with people that challenge you to grow – or give you permission to stay in your comfort zone? Are you ready to be AWESOME! Please share your thoughts below.