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Asking the Right Question

Posted By: Randy GageJanuary 26, 2012

One of the ways government is so good at programming and controlling people is by getting them to ask the wrong question.  And when you ask the wrong question – the answer doesn’t matter!

Even more important are the questions you ask yourself…

Because you are capable of a tremendous amount of self-programming yourself, whether you are aware of it or not.  A big component of this is your expectations, mindset, and how you frame things.

For example, you could ask, “Can I do this?’  Or you could ask, “How can I do this?”

You could ask, “Can this even be done?”  Or you could ask, “If it could be done, how would it be done?

If that sound simplistic or trivial to you, I promise you it is not.  So what kind of questions do you ask yourself?

-RG

79 comments on “Asking the Right Question”

  1. This is so so so important. It truly is the difference between actually accomplishing something or just quitting before you even start.

    My naturally programmed question usually starts with "why should I do this." & once I've gotten my why, it's "how" all the way! How questions are the best questions to overcoming obstacles. If you can ask a "how" question, it's just a matter of finding the right solution - I love it. 🙂

  2. This is so so so important. It truly is the difference between actually accomplishing something or just quitting before you even start.

    My naturally programmed question usually starts with "why should I do this." & once I've gotten my why, it's "how" all the way! How questions are the best questions to overcoming obstacles. If you can ask a "how" question, it's just a matter of finding the right solution - I love it. 🙂

  3. Open questions...What? HOW? And always came answer... There are other questions... I play with them until it speak directly to my heart. Everybody can feel, if ask the right question. When I want to solve something, it helps me, when I am focusing on a goal and I am asking myself over and over again. It look like crazy, walking around my home and asking myself loud these question again and again. I am playing with words and feel, when I ask right. After a while the answer come and I say Wooooow! It is great! What a kick! Thank you 🙂

  4. Open questions...What? HOW? And always came answer... There are other questions... I play with them until it speak directly to my heart. Everybody can feel, if ask the right question. When I want to solve something, it helps me, when I am focusing on a goal and I am asking myself over and over again. It look like crazy, walking around my home and asking myself loud these question again and again. I am playing with words and feel, when I ask right. After a while the answer come and I say Wooooow! It is great! What a kick! Thank you 🙂

  5. Allowing ourselves to find a new answer and a new way is the key then. It seems that so many people close themselves down before they even begin. Ok so how can I make it a great day? Off to make it happen now 🙂

  6. Allowing ourselves to find a new answer and a new way is the key then. It seems that so many people close themselves down before they even begin. Ok so how can I make it a great day? Off to make it happen now 🙂

  7. And when you ask the wrong question – the answer doesn’t matter!

    ...gosh, how obvious, Randy.

    True. I never viewed our communication-style from this other side. Thanks for those "glasses" 🙂

    What kind of question I do ask myself? Let me see......

    1) does this subliminal programming which jumps around my sreen in milliseconds truly "work"? And if so, what I do believe since I bought an up-load, WHEN will I get to know? Curiosity comes over to stop by....

    2) if science struggles with certain "break through"-doors which aren´t able to open from their point of view, i wonder, once I get to know how those doors are constructed and implemented, from which side I can approach to open them anyway....to get into the room behind, a new room with new knowledge. Again, curiosity stops by...

    3)how do I have to adjust my thinking, my self-communication, so that I do communicate (automatically) more positively with others? Will I just copy my thought pattern when speaking to others? I should simply try....

  8. And when you ask the wrong question – the answer doesn’t matter!

    ...gosh, how obvious, Randy.

    True. I never viewed our communication-style from this other side. Thanks for those "glasses" 🙂

    What kind of question I do ask myself? Let me see......

    1) does this subliminal programming which jumps around my sreen in milliseconds truly "work"? And if so, what I do believe since I bought an up-load, WHEN will I get to know? Curiosity comes over to stop by....

    2) if science struggles with certain "break through"-doors which aren´t able to open from their point of view, i wonder, once I get to know how those doors are constructed and implemented, from which side I can approach to open them anyway....to get into the room behind, a new room with new knowledge. Again, curiosity stops by...

    3)how do I have to adjust my thinking, my self-communication, so that I do communicate (automatically) more positively with others? Will I just copy my thought pattern when speaking to others? I should simply try....

  9. I learned to make me empowering questions like...what can I learn from this situation? OR how can I do it different next time? instead of asking why me?

    1. @Rosa Muziotti That's a great one! Even better: "Why does this sort of situation happen to me?" "What did I do to create it?" "What have I been doing or not doing?"

  10. I learned to make me empowering questions like...what can I learn from this situation? OR how can I do it different next time? instead of asking why me?

  11. One I ask myself all the time: Is it possible to find someone who has done it before? If not, why has no one done this before?Personally, I think people just don't learn to observe and seek things out. A year ago, I had very little support and believed it was likely I was going to struggle for the rest of my life even to achieve the middle class status of my parents.. Now, I am connected with some entertainment industry veterans, entrepreneurs, marketers, and other great people. Some of whom I talk to infrequently, but have been a great influence, and some I talk with almost every week,I attempt to tell the negative "you'd better focus on getting a good job or go back to college" folks some of this, but they roll their eyes at me funny. At least where I live, the days of the "good job" are over, and it's next to impossible to get one unless you are well-connected or attend a good school, Both of which require a great deal of planning and support. The way I see it, I am on the right track to being a musician with entrepreneurial tendencies.

    1. @ThomasMrak your future ideas & opportunities sound good! and hey, in europe it´s the same: once you drop off the assembly line after all your energy was being taken - you better have a strong circle of people or you´re out. in the country I live, you need to present the exact "paper" from school/university to get "this" job, means: no way to build a bridge to get over on some other side without "the" education. but even with education it is hard nowadays. Never thought it is that strict already, but a through & through processed organisation, which might be a whole country, sinks into an absolute process....

      1. @Leeloo Unfortunately, that is the way it is becoming in America: ultra-specialized to the point of stupidity, it's almost like Communism or Feudalism: Where you are born, you stay, unless you are intelligent, creative, and push yourself. Obviously if I was willing to blindly accept that, I wouldn't be here connecting with everyone.It will only get worse as more and more people view education as a gateway (and the ONLY way to achieve) opportunity, and the original purpose of enriching one's self is lost.I was not raised by people who valued creativity or entrepreneurship, or even the formal education now required to attain the middle class status (they enjoyed for much of their adult life.As they both worked Union jobs (nursing and heavy equipment mechanic), they were constantly brainwashed with the idea that it was someone else's responsibility to provide for them, and any problem in life is the fault of "the company" and "the company" and the government are supposed to take care of the little guy or people have to do it all themselves if they don't like it.It has taken me many years to even feel worthy that I deserve happiness, success, and doing fulfilling work.If I try to "work my way up" or "work hard" I will go nowhere, as I will never possess the "right" background no matter how much I wish it or work for it.If I have to take on that much risk, and that much pain, it isn't going to be so I can "maybe" work for $50k a year or less and be downsized at the drop of a hat.

        1. @Leeloo Luckily, more and more people under the age of 40 (no offense meant to anyone) understand this reality.There's a movement called http://www.uncollege.org which is teaching people to consider alternatives.After all, the founder of Paypal gave away money to a bunch of college students to drop out and do something innovative. The Thiel Fellowship.We need to get to people when they are teenagers and in their early 20s. I encountered Randy's work at 25 (now 30), and I consider it unacceptable for the older generation to be so self-centered as to not value those who come after it.I'm not being a victim about it, but my youth is gone now, and in 5-10 years depending on your perspective, I will be middle aged, and being middle aged and having a crappy life is not acceptable.

        2. @ThomasMrak You got it! Germany - 100 points! 🙂 well, our parents were raised and programmed by their parents (my parents ended up as my mom not working & my dad a blue collar while their parents made it further before WWII struck it down) and by now they live and think with a 100 years old thinking of how things run in the world. My dad woke up and blamed the rest while my mom still is blinded, she won´t make it in this life to see the light ;]

        3. @Leeloo I know because the name Leeloo is common in Germany and the NL. I know some German, and German and Dutch are quite similar.The American school system is based on the old Prussian school system, which is designed to sort people based on academic performance. It's a product of the 19th century factory system. Instead of moving past it, businesses and educational institutions are continuing to do more of the same old, same old.This clearly is not working.Wealthy people send their children to schools where they are taught to think freely and be leaders. Some of these schools cost as much if not more per year than the average to subpar colleges most middle class children get into.Some middle class people send their children to private schools, but these are usually oriented towards preparing people to succeed as people with "good" jobs, and while they cost money, the tuition is affordable to most middle class families.I attended a school like this, but because my family is very dysfunctional and negative, I did extremely poorly.The people with the lowest grades get the worst jobs (or no job at all) and the people with the highest grades become management. People who for whatever reason who do not succeed in the school system or were average were steered towards careers which required little logical or creative thinking.I was told I was not college material, where as many of my friends were encouraged and ended attending private colleges either paid for by their parents or on scholarship.I do not say these things because I want anyone to feel for me. I want people to learn from what I have been through, that you'd better start your kids early and be involved or they'll struggle as adults.

        4. @Leeloo I will say most of the people I attended said school with had middle class backgrounds. There were a few children of business owners and highly paid professionals, but it was mostly people who were average.

        5. @ThomasMrak that all sounds like our German style! A pity. Or say, we live in a mans world (even men!!) so the money factor, the numbers which count, are most relevant. I am an ex disabled child with not much hope when starting out but after my disease career, as a teenager, everyone told me to study but hey, my parents didn´t support that idea at all.....I believed in my doc. and thought I wont´make it in the long-run, so I went on the middle class path. But years after, instead, well, I made it - and - quite "better" than others who started out on a better stage than I did, many years ago. But i dropped out of the job 2 yrs. ago (at age 47) and got back in after: 14 months. So: believe in yourself!!! have dreams and DO EVERYTHING to reach them. As i did 🙂 enjoy the weekend!!!

        6. @Leeloo I experienced something similar. Was diagnosed with OCD/Tourette Syndrome by a very shady doctor who was blindly trusted by my parents because he was an "expert". Put on meds I didn't need.After all, the author William Gibson once said: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes."I now take what experts and authority say at face value for this very reason. Some authority figures DO care about other people and want to make the world a better place and be wealthy from it. Some are shady, and are merely in it for money/prestige and do exploit people, especially those who choose to remain ignorant of reality.An ethical psychiatrist would listen to the child more than the parents or teachers. Parents and teachers can be wrong about someone's capabilities, and people sadly are judged growing up for the choices (good or bad) their parents' make.I was fighting back against mistreatment, and a lack of quality attention, and it was labelled as a "disorder" rather a bad family dynamic.I too was taught that I was "disabled" and that I should settle for a life of government assistance or a "trade".I sometimes wonder if some of this sabotage was intentional.

        7. @Leeloo At least in Germany people who don't get into a Gymnasium have the opportunity of apprenticeships. In the US, even mediocre career/community colleges cost money, so it's depend on the State for assistance or go into debt.In the US, if someone cannot afford a college education, there are many generous organizations which provide scholarships. However, if someone isn't supported, they will not do well enough to obtain the test scores and grades to qualify.Many of the elite private schools have amazing financial aid packages for families who can't afford to send their children to Harvard or Princeton, but again, without prep, people aren't even walking through the front gate.In the past, someone could get by with just a high school education, or even a trade focused education/2 year Associate's degree.

          Since the number of University grads is so concentrated, most "good jobs" require more and more education, and since the college grads aren't getting "good jobs", there are a lot of college graduates working at Wal-mart and McDonald's, which in turn further impoverishes those who didn't get the opportunity.Poverty and mediocrity are unacceptable.

        8. @Leeloo The silver lining in this is, when you are able to provide value as an entrepreneur/creative type, the value of your work is far more important, as is the ability to transcend a system which discourages social mobility.

        9. @ThomasMrak hope your health status is stable and "good to live with"! I, at some point, was kind-a lucky to not have had any medicine at all (still) but it carried the back-side of being severely disappointed on it. just wrote my book about this "life" - a novel.

        10. @Leeloo @ThomasMrak Working on my health. I had to move back to my hometown, and it's like so many cities that were once prosperous. Stuck in a "the glory days" mindset as people do what worked 50+ years ago and then complain about the lack of growth. Obviously, this is a problem even in NYC or Berlin, but at least in larger cities, the affluence attracts talented, smart people with the means to achieve things.I have to seek people out so I can get the energy and faith to push through. I want to live in a big city again, but this will require a level of success I have never achieved before to do so. I didn't live very well when I did the first couple times, and attracted bad people and situations.I feel more at home in one. People aren't as close-minded and appreciate the finer things in life. There isn't as much of "my job should take care of me" as there is here. I am not willing to put my life in the hands of others because they are willing to. My life is mine, and it belongs to no one else. I will not go out of my way to harm others.85,000+ people (not sure how large the regional population is in total) remaining in blissful ignorance, wanting to run away from progress, and a globally, interconnected world. A lot of the business owners and government officials do too! They can't seem to understand WHY growth isn't happening!!! It doesn't take a genius to figure it out.As Ayn Rand said: "Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears." I've left twice because the attitude of the general population is very negative, and because I know that the people in the area aren't going to do enough and it's going to continue to decline.For an example of this attitude on a larger scale, read about Detroit, Michigan.There are some happy people, but very few. Most of the happy people are business owners and creatives that do care about quality and they are thriving. The "me too" and "if I build it, they will come" business people are stagnant or failing. Don't even get me start the "poor, exploited" middle class and poor people.

        11. @Leeloo It does!I was thinking recently about the storms we weather in life. No amount of money will end the torrent.How about something about leaping through bad waters??

        12. @ThomasMrak if you want to sing or write songs just think of the great songs by Eminem, Dido or Phil Collins..... your life offers lots of potential text which people want to hear AND CAN IDENTIFY WITH -

  12. One I ask myself all the time: Is it possible to find someone who has done it before? If not, why has no one done this before?Personally, I think people just don't learn to observe and seek things out. A year ago, I had very little support and believed it was likely I was going to struggle for the rest of my life even to achieve the middle class status of my parents.. Now, I am connected with some entertainment industry veterans, entrepreneurs, marketers, and other great people. Some of whom I talk to infrequently, but have been a great influence, and some I talk with almost every week,I attempt to tell the negative "you'd better focus on getting a good job or go back to college" folks some of this, but they roll their eyes at me funny. At least where I live, the days of the "good job" are over, and it's next to impossible to get one unless you are well-connected or attend a good school, Both of which require a great deal of planning and support. The way I see it, I am on the right track to being a musician with entrepreneurial tendencies.

  13. @ThomasMrak your future ideas & opportunities sound good! and hey, in europe it´s the same: once you drop off the assembly line after all your energy was being taken - you better have a strong circle of people or you´re out. in the country I live, you need to present the exact "paper" from school/university to get "this" job, means: no way to build a bridge to get over on some other side without "the" education. but even with education it is hard nowadays. Never thought it is that strict already, but a through & through processed organisation, which might be a whole country, sinks into an absolute process....

  14. @Leeloo Unfortunately, that is the way it is becoming in America: ultra-specialized to the point of stupidity, it's almost like Communism or Feudalism: Where you are born, you stay, unless you are intelligent, creative, and push yourself. Obviously if I was willing to blindly accept that, I wouldn't be here connecting with everyone.It will only get worse as more and more people view education as a gateway (and the ONLY way to achieve) opportunity, and the original purpose of enriching one's self is lost.I was not raised by people who valued creativity or entrepreneurship, or even the formal education now required to attain the middle class status (they enjoyed for much of their adult life.As they both worked Union jobs (nursing and heavy equipment mechanic), they were constantly brainwashed with the idea that it was someone else's responsibility to provide for them, and any problem in life is the fault of "the company" and "the company" and the government are supposed to take care of the little guy or people have to do it all themselves if they don't like it.It has taken me many years to even feel worthy that I deserve happiness, success, and doing fulfilling work.If I try to "work my way up" or "work hard" I will go nowhere, as I will never possess the "right" background no matter how much I wish it or work for it.If I have to take on that much risk, and that much pain, it isn't going to be so I can "maybe" work for $50k a year or less and be downsized at the drop of a hat.

  15. @Leeloo Luckily, more and more people under the age of 40 (no offense meant to anyone) understand this reality.There's a movement called http://www.uncollege.org which is teaching people to consider alternatives.After all, the founder of Paypal gave away money to a bunch of college students to drop out and do something innovative. The Thiel Fellowship.We need to get to people when they are teenagers and in their early 20s. I encountered Randy's work at 25 (now 30), and I consider it unacceptable for the older generation to be so self-centered as to not value those who come after it.I'm not being a victim about it, but my youth is gone now, and in 5-10 years depending on your perspective, I will be middle aged, and being middle aged and having a crappy life is not acceptable.

  16. @ThomasMrak You got it! Germany - 100 points! 🙂 well, our parents were raised and programmed by their parents (my parents ended up as my mom not working & my dad a blue collar while their parents made it further before WWII struck it down) and by now they live and think with a 100 years old thinking of how things run in the world. My dad woke up and blamed the rest while my mom still is blinded, she won´t make it in this life to see the light ;]

  17. @Leeloo I know because the name Leeloo is common in Germany and the NL. I know some German, and German and Dutch are quite similar.The American school system is based on the old Prussian school system, which is designed to sort people based on academic performance. It's a product of the 19th century factory system. Instead of moving past it, businesses and educational institutions are continuing to do more of the same old, same old.This clearly is not working.Wealthy people send their children to schools where they are taught to think freely and be leaders. Some of these schools cost as much if not more per year than the average to subpar colleges most middle class children get into.Some middle class people send their children to private schools, but these are usually oriented towards preparing people to succeed as people with "good" jobs, and while they cost money, the tuition is affordable to most middle class families.I attended a school like this, but because my family is very dysfunctional and negative, I did extremely poorly.The people with the lowest grades get the worst jobs (or no job at all) and the people with the highest grades become management. People who for whatever reason who do not succeed in the school system or were average were steered towards careers which required little logical or creative thinking.I was told I was not college material, where as many of my friends were encouraged and ended attending private colleges either paid for by their parents or on scholarship.I do not say these things because I want anyone to feel for me. I want people to learn from what I have been through, that you'd better start your kids early and be involved or they'll struggle as adults.

  18. @Leeloo I will say most of the people I attended said school with had middle class backgrounds. There were a few children of business owners and highly paid professionals, but it was mostly people who were average.

  19. @ThomasMrak that all sounds like our German style! A pity. Or say, we live in a mans world (even men!!) so the money factor, the numbers which count, are most relevant. I am an ex disabled child with not much hope when starting out but after my disease career, as a teenager, everyone told me to study but hey, my parents didn´t support that idea at all.....I believed in my doc. and thought I wont´make it in the long-run, so I went on the middle class path. But years after, instead, well, I made it - and - quite "better" than others who started out on a better stage than I did, many years ago. But i dropped out of the job 2 yrs. ago (at age 47) and got back in after: 14 months. So: believe in yourself!!! have dreams and DO EVERYTHING to reach them. As i did 🙂 enjoy the weekend!!!

  20. framing your questions is such an essential (although extremely simple) means of accessing power from your limitless mind.

    changing a couple of words, it's like changing the code in your programming.

    the code speaks to your brain, which in turn affects your actions.

    "how can i do this?" creates a situation where your brain is looking for a solution, as opposed to giving up.

    I ask myself affirmative questions all the time. "How long might this take me?" (not being able to isn't an option), "Will I be able to do this WELL the first time, or will it take practice?"

    Its all about belief.

  21. framing your questions is such an essential (although extremely simple) means of accessing power from your limitless mind.

    changing a couple of words, it's like changing the code in your programming.

    the code speaks to your brain, which in turn affects your actions.

    "how can i do this?" creates a situation where your brain is looking for a solution, as opposed to giving up.

    I ask myself affirmative questions all the time. "How long might this take me?" (not being able to isn't an option), "Will I be able to do this WELL the first time, or will it take practice?"

    Its all about belief.

  22. @Leeloo I experienced something similar. Was diagnosed with OCD/Tourette Syndrome by a very shady doctor who was blindly trusted by my parents because he was an "expert". Put on meds I didn't need.After all, the author William Gibson once said: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes."I now take what experts and authority say at face value for this very reason. Some authority figures DO care about other people and want to make the world a better place and be wealthy from it. Some are shady, and are merely in it for money/prestige and do exploit people, especially those who choose to remain ignorant of reality.An ethical psychiatrist would listen to the child more than the parents or teachers. Parents and teachers can be wrong about someone's capabilities, and people sadly are judged growing up for the choices (good or bad) their parents' make.I was fighting back against mistreatment, and a lack of quality attention, and it was labelled as a "disorder" rather a bad family dynamic.I too was taught that I was "disabled" and that I should settle for a life of government assistance or a "trade".I sometimes wonder if some of this sabotage was intentional.

  23. @Leeloo At least in Germany people who don't get into a Gymnasium have the opportunity of apprenticeships. In the US, even mediocre career/community colleges cost money, so it's depend on the State for assistance or go into debt.In the US, if someone cannot afford a college education, there are many generous organizations which provide scholarships. However, if someone isn't supported, they will not do well enough to obtain the test scores and grades to qualify.Many of the elite private schools have amazing financial aid packages for families who can't afford to send their children to Harvard or Princeton, but again, without prep, people aren't even walking through the front gate.In the past, someone could get by with just a high school education, or even a trade focused education/2 year Associate's degree.

    Since the number of University grads is so concentrated, most "good jobs" require more and more education, and since the college grads aren't getting "good jobs", there are a lot of college graduates working at Wal-mart and McDonald's, which in turn further impoverishes those who didn't get the opportunity.Poverty and mediocrity are unacceptable.

  24. @Leeloo The silver lining in this is, when you are able to provide value as an entrepreneur/creative type, the value of your work is far more important, as is the ability to transcend a system which discourages social mobility.

  25. @ThomasMrak hope your health status is stable and "good to live with"! I, at some point, was kind-a lucky to not have had any medicine at all (still) but it carried the back-side of being severely disappointed on it. just wrote my book about this "life" - a novel.

  26. @Leeloo @ThomasMrak Working on my health. I had to move back to my hometown, and it's like so many cities that were once prosperous. Stuck in a "the glory days" mindset as people do what worked 50+ years ago and then complain about the lack of growth. Obviously, this is a problem even in NYC or Berlin, but at least in larger cities, the affluence attracts talented, smart people with the means to achieve things.I have to seek people out so I can get the energy and faith to push through. I want to live in a big city again, but this will require a level of success I have never achieved before to do so. I didn't live very well when I did the first couple times, and attracted bad people and situations.I feel more at home in one. People aren't as close-minded and appreciate the finer things in life. There isn't as much of "my job should take care of me" as there is here. I am not willing to put my life in the hands of others because they are willing to. My life is mine, and it belongs to no one else. I will not go out of my way to harm others.85,000+ people (not sure how large the regional population is in total) remaining in blissful ignorance, wanting to run away from progress, and a globally, interconnected world. A lot of the business owners and government officials do too! They can't seem to understand WHY growth isn't happening!!! It doesn't take a genius to figure it out.As Ayn Rand said: "Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears." I've left twice because the attitude of the general population is very negative, and because I know that the people in the area aren't going to do enough and it's going to continue to decline.For an example of this attitude on a larger scale, read about Detroit, Michigan.There are some happy people, but very few. Most of the happy people are business owners and creatives that do care about quality and they are thriving. The "me too" and "if I build it, they will come" business people are stagnant or failing. Don't even get me start the "poor, exploited" middle class and poor people.

  27. @Leeloo It does!I was thinking recently about the storms we weather in life. No amount of money will end the torrent.How about something about leaping through bad waters??

  28. @Rosa Muziotti That's a great one! Even better: "Why does this sort of situation happen to me?" "What did I do to create it?" "What have I been doing or not doing?"

  29. @ThomasMrak if you want to sing or write songs just think of the great songs by Eminem, Dido or Phil Collins..... your life offers lots of potential text which people want to hear AND CAN IDENTIFY WITH -

  30. The size of your questions determine the size of your results. Unfortunately some don't ask questions, they turn down any idea or opportunity that come their way.

    Most of the time, I will take on an opportunity, then ask "How can I do this well?"

  31. The size of your questions determine the size of your results. Unfortunately some don't ask questions, they turn down any idea or opportunity that come their way.

    Most of the time, I will take on an opportunity, then ask "How can I do this well?"

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    1. This is so so so important. It truly is the difference between actually accomplishing something or just quitting before you even start.

      My naturally programmed question usually starts with "why should I do this." & once I've gotten my why, it's "how" all the way! How questions are the best questions to overcoming obstacles. If you can ask a "how" question, it's just a matter of finding the right solution - I love it. 🙂

    2. This is so so so important. It truly is the difference between actually accomplishing something or just quitting before you even start.

      My naturally programmed question usually starts with "why should I do this." & once I've gotten my why, it's "how" all the way! How questions are the best questions to overcoming obstacles. If you can ask a "how" question, it's just a matter of finding the right solution - I love it. 🙂

    3. Open questions...What? HOW? And always came answer... There are other questions... I play with them until it speak directly to my heart. Everybody can feel, if ask the right question. When I want to solve something, it helps me, when I am focusing on a goal and I am asking myself over and over again. It look like crazy, walking around my home and asking myself loud these question again and again. I am playing with words and feel, when I ask right. After a while the answer come and I say Wooooow! It is great! What a kick! Thank you 🙂

    4. Open questions...What? HOW? And always came answer... There are other questions... I play with them until it speak directly to my heart. Everybody can feel, if ask the right question. When I want to solve something, it helps me, when I am focusing on a goal and I am asking myself over and over again. It look like crazy, walking around my home and asking myself loud these question again and again. I am playing with words and feel, when I ask right. After a while the answer come and I say Wooooow! It is great! What a kick! Thank you 🙂

    5. Allowing ourselves to find a new answer and a new way is the key then. It seems that so many people close themselves down before they even begin. Ok so how can I make it a great day? Off to make it happen now 🙂

    6. Allowing ourselves to find a new answer and a new way is the key then. It seems that so many people close themselves down before they even begin. Ok so how can I make it a great day? Off to make it happen now 🙂

    7. And when you ask the wrong question – the answer doesn’t matter!

      ...gosh, how obvious, Randy.

      True. I never viewed our communication-style from this other side. Thanks for those "glasses" 🙂

      What kind of question I do ask myself? Let me see......

      1) does this subliminal programming which jumps around my sreen in milliseconds truly "work"? And if so, what I do believe since I bought an up-load, WHEN will I get to know? Curiosity comes over to stop by....

      2) if science struggles with certain "break through"-doors which aren´t able to open from their point of view, i wonder, once I get to know how those doors are constructed and implemented, from which side I can approach to open them anyway....to get into the room behind, a new room with new knowledge. Again, curiosity stops by...

      3)how do I have to adjust my thinking, my self-communication, so that I do communicate (automatically) more positively with others? Will I just copy my thought pattern when speaking to others? I should simply try....

    8. And when you ask the wrong question – the answer doesn’t matter!

      ...gosh, how obvious, Randy.

      True. I never viewed our communication-style from this other side. Thanks for those "glasses" 🙂

      What kind of question I do ask myself? Let me see......

      1) does this subliminal programming which jumps around my sreen in milliseconds truly "work"? And if so, what I do believe since I bought an up-load, WHEN will I get to know? Curiosity comes over to stop by....

      2) if science struggles with certain "break through"-doors which aren´t able to open from their point of view, i wonder, once I get to know how those doors are constructed and implemented, from which side I can approach to open them anyway....to get into the room behind, a new room with new knowledge. Again, curiosity stops by...

      3)how do I have to adjust my thinking, my self-communication, so that I do communicate (automatically) more positively with others? Will I just copy my thought pattern when speaking to others? I should simply try....

    9. I learned to make me empowering questions like...what can I learn from this situation? OR how can I do it different next time? instead of asking why me?

      1. @Rosa Muziotti That's a great one! Even better: "Why does this sort of situation happen to me?" "What did I do to create it?" "What have I been doing or not doing?"

    10. I learned to make me empowering questions like...what can I learn from this situation? OR how can I do it different next time? instead of asking why me?

    11. One I ask myself all the time: Is it possible to find someone who has done it before? If not, why has no one done this before?Personally, I think people just don't learn to observe and seek things out. A year ago, I had very little support and believed it was likely I was going to struggle for the rest of my life even to achieve the middle class status of my parents.. Now, I am connected with some entertainment industry veterans, entrepreneurs, marketers, and other great people. Some of whom I talk to infrequently, but have been a great influence, and some I talk with almost every week,I attempt to tell the negative "you'd better focus on getting a good job or go back to college" folks some of this, but they roll their eyes at me funny. At least where I live, the days of the "good job" are over, and it's next to impossible to get one unless you are well-connected or attend a good school, Both of which require a great deal of planning and support. The way I see it, I am on the right track to being a musician with entrepreneurial tendencies.

      1. @ThomasMrak your future ideas & opportunities sound good! and hey, in europe it´s the same: once you drop off the assembly line after all your energy was being taken - you better have a strong circle of people or you´re out. in the country I live, you need to present the exact "paper" from school/university to get "this" job, means: no way to build a bridge to get over on some other side without "the" education. but even with education it is hard nowadays. Never thought it is that strict already, but a through & through processed organisation, which might be a whole country, sinks into an absolute process....

        1. @Leeloo Unfortunately, that is the way it is becoming in America: ultra-specialized to the point of stupidity, it's almost like Communism or Feudalism: Where you are born, you stay, unless you are intelligent, creative, and push yourself. Obviously if I was willing to blindly accept that, I wouldn't be here connecting with everyone.It will only get worse as more and more people view education as a gateway (and the ONLY way to achieve) opportunity, and the original purpose of enriching one's self is lost.I was not raised by people who valued creativity or entrepreneurship, or even the formal education now required to attain the middle class status (they enjoyed for much of their adult life.As they both worked Union jobs (nursing and heavy equipment mechanic), they were constantly brainwashed with the idea that it was someone else's responsibility to provide for them, and any problem in life is the fault of "the company" and "the company" and the government are supposed to take care of the little guy or people have to do it all themselves if they don't like it.It has taken me many years to even feel worthy that I deserve happiness, success, and doing fulfilling work.If I try to "work my way up" or "work hard" I will go nowhere, as I will never possess the "right" background no matter how much I wish it or work for it.If I have to take on that much risk, and that much pain, it isn't going to be so I can "maybe" work for $50k a year or less and be downsized at the drop of a hat.

          1. @Leeloo Luckily, more and more people under the age of 40 (no offense meant to anyone) understand this reality.There's a movement called http://www.uncollege.org which is teaching people to consider alternatives.After all, the founder of Paypal gave away money to a bunch of college students to drop out and do something innovative. The Thiel Fellowship.We need to get to people when they are teenagers and in their early 20s. I encountered Randy's work at 25 (now 30), and I consider it unacceptable for the older generation to be so self-centered as to not value those who come after it.I'm not being a victim about it, but my youth is gone now, and in 5-10 years depending on your perspective, I will be middle aged, and being middle aged and having a crappy life is not acceptable.

          2. @ThomasMrak You got it! Germany - 100 points! 🙂 well, our parents were raised and programmed by their parents (my parents ended up as my mom not working & my dad a blue collar while their parents made it further before WWII struck it down) and by now they live and think with a 100 years old thinking of how things run in the world. My dad woke up and blamed the rest while my mom still is blinded, she won´t make it in this life to see the light ;]

          3. @Leeloo I know because the name Leeloo is common in Germany and the NL. I know some German, and German and Dutch are quite similar.The American school system is based on the old Prussian school system, which is designed to sort people based on academic performance. It's a product of the 19th century factory system. Instead of moving past it, businesses and educational institutions are continuing to do more of the same old, same old.This clearly is not working.Wealthy people send their children to schools where they are taught to think freely and be leaders. Some of these schools cost as much if not more per year than the average to subpar colleges most middle class children get into.Some middle class people send their children to private schools, but these are usually oriented towards preparing people to succeed as people with "good" jobs, and while they cost money, the tuition is affordable to most middle class families.I attended a school like this, but because my family is very dysfunctional and negative, I did extremely poorly.The people with the lowest grades get the worst jobs (or no job at all) and the people with the highest grades become management. People who for whatever reason who do not succeed in the school system or were average were steered towards careers which required little logical or creative thinking.I was told I was not college material, where as many of my friends were encouraged and ended attending private colleges either paid for by their parents or on scholarship.I do not say these things because I want anyone to feel for me. I want people to learn from what I have been through, that you'd better start your kids early and be involved or they'll struggle as adults.

          4. @Leeloo I will say most of the people I attended said school with had middle class backgrounds. There were a few children of business owners and highly paid professionals, but it was mostly people who were average.

          5. @ThomasMrak that all sounds like our German style! A pity. Or say, we live in a mans world (even men!!) so the money factor, the numbers which count, are most relevant. I am an ex disabled child with not much hope when starting out but after my disease career, as a teenager, everyone told me to study but hey, my parents didn´t support that idea at all.....I believed in my doc. and thought I wont´make it in the long-run, so I went on the middle class path. But years after, instead, well, I made it - and - quite "better" than others who started out on a better stage than I did, many years ago. But i dropped out of the job 2 yrs. ago (at age 47) and got back in after: 14 months. So: believe in yourself!!! have dreams and DO EVERYTHING to reach them. As i did 🙂 enjoy the weekend!!!

          6. @Leeloo I experienced something similar. Was diagnosed with OCD/Tourette Syndrome by a very shady doctor who was blindly trusted by my parents because he was an "expert". Put on meds I didn't need.After all, the author William Gibson once said: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes."I now take what experts and authority say at face value for this very reason. Some authority figures DO care about other people and want to make the world a better place and be wealthy from it. Some are shady, and are merely in it for money/prestige and do exploit people, especially those who choose to remain ignorant of reality.An ethical psychiatrist would listen to the child more than the parents or teachers. Parents and teachers can be wrong about someone's capabilities, and people sadly are judged growing up for the choices (good or bad) their parents' make.I was fighting back against mistreatment, and a lack of quality attention, and it was labelled as a "disorder" rather a bad family dynamic.I too was taught that I was "disabled" and that I should settle for a life of government assistance or a "trade".I sometimes wonder if some of this sabotage was intentional.

          7. @Leeloo At least in Germany people who don't get into a Gymnasium have the opportunity of apprenticeships. In the US, even mediocre career/community colleges cost money, so it's depend on the State for assistance or go into debt.In the US, if someone cannot afford a college education, there are many generous organizations which provide scholarships. However, if someone isn't supported, they will not do well enough to obtain the test scores and grades to qualify.Many of the elite private schools have amazing financial aid packages for families who can't afford to send their children to Harvard or Princeton, but again, without prep, people aren't even walking through the front gate.In the past, someone could get by with just a high school education, or even a trade focused education/2 year Associate's degree.

            Since the number of University grads is so concentrated, most "good jobs" require more and more education, and since the college grads aren't getting "good jobs", there are a lot of college graduates working at Wal-mart and McDonald's, which in turn further impoverishes those who didn't get the opportunity.Poverty and mediocrity are unacceptable.

          8. @Leeloo The silver lining in this is, when you are able to provide value as an entrepreneur/creative type, the value of your work is far more important, as is the ability to transcend a system which discourages social mobility.

          9. @ThomasMrak hope your health status is stable and "good to live with"! I, at some point, was kind-a lucky to not have had any medicine at all (still) but it carried the back-side of being severely disappointed on it. just wrote my book about this "life" - a novel.

          10. @Leeloo @ThomasMrak Working on my health. I had to move back to my hometown, and it's like so many cities that were once prosperous. Stuck in a "the glory days" mindset as people do what worked 50+ years ago and then complain about the lack of growth. Obviously, this is a problem even in NYC or Berlin, but at least in larger cities, the affluence attracts talented, smart people with the means to achieve things.I have to seek people out so I can get the energy and faith to push through. I want to live in a big city again, but this will require a level of success I have never achieved before to do so. I didn't live very well when I did the first couple times, and attracted bad people and situations.I feel more at home in one. People aren't as close-minded and appreciate the finer things in life. There isn't as much of "my job should take care of me" as there is here. I am not willing to put my life in the hands of others because they are willing to. My life is mine, and it belongs to no one else. I will not go out of my way to harm others.85,000+ people (not sure how large the regional population is in total) remaining in blissful ignorance, wanting to run away from progress, and a globally, interconnected world. A lot of the business owners and government officials do too! They can't seem to understand WHY growth isn't happening!!! It doesn't take a genius to figure it out.As Ayn Rand said: "Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears." I've left twice because the attitude of the general population is very negative, and because I know that the people in the area aren't going to do enough and it's going to continue to decline.For an example of this attitude on a larger scale, read about Detroit, Michigan.There are some happy people, but very few. Most of the happy people are business owners and creatives that do care about quality and they are thriving. The "me too" and "if I build it, they will come" business people are stagnant or failing. Don't even get me start the "poor, exploited" middle class and poor people.

          11. @Leeloo It does!I was thinking recently about the storms we weather in life. No amount of money will end the torrent.How about something about leaping through bad waters??

          12. @ThomasMrak if you want to sing or write songs just think of the great songs by Eminem, Dido or Phil Collins..... your life offers lots of potential text which people want to hear AND CAN IDENTIFY WITH -

    12. One I ask myself all the time: Is it possible to find someone who has done it before? If not, why has no one done this before?Personally, I think people just don't learn to observe and seek things out. A year ago, I had very little support and believed it was likely I was going to struggle for the rest of my life even to achieve the middle class status of my parents.. Now, I am connected with some entertainment industry veterans, entrepreneurs, marketers, and other great people. Some of whom I talk to infrequently, but have been a great influence, and some I talk with almost every week,I attempt to tell the negative "you'd better focus on getting a good job or go back to college" folks some of this, but they roll their eyes at me funny. At least where I live, the days of the "good job" are over, and it's next to impossible to get one unless you are well-connected or attend a good school, Both of which require a great deal of planning and support. The way I see it, I am on the right track to being a musician with entrepreneurial tendencies.

    13. @ThomasMrak your future ideas & opportunities sound good! and hey, in europe it´s the same: once you drop off the assembly line after all your energy was being taken - you better have a strong circle of people or you´re out. in the country I live, you need to present the exact "paper" from school/university to get "this" job, means: no way to build a bridge to get over on some other side without "the" education. but even with education it is hard nowadays. Never thought it is that strict already, but a through & through processed organisation, which might be a whole country, sinks into an absolute process....

    14. @Leeloo Unfortunately, that is the way it is becoming in America: ultra-specialized to the point of stupidity, it's almost like Communism or Feudalism: Where you are born, you stay, unless you are intelligent, creative, and push yourself. Obviously if I was willing to blindly accept that, I wouldn't be here connecting with everyone.It will only get worse as more and more people view education as a gateway (and the ONLY way to achieve) opportunity, and the original purpose of enriching one's self is lost.I was not raised by people who valued creativity or entrepreneurship, or even the formal education now required to attain the middle class status (they enjoyed for much of their adult life.As they both worked Union jobs (nursing and heavy equipment mechanic), they were constantly brainwashed with the idea that it was someone else's responsibility to provide for them, and any problem in life is the fault of "the company" and "the company" and the government are supposed to take care of the little guy or people have to do it all themselves if they don't like it.It has taken me many years to even feel worthy that I deserve happiness, success, and doing fulfilling work.If I try to "work my way up" or "work hard" I will go nowhere, as I will never possess the "right" background no matter how much I wish it or work for it.If I have to take on that much risk, and that much pain, it isn't going to be so I can "maybe" work for $50k a year or less and be downsized at the drop of a hat.

    15. @Leeloo Luckily, more and more people under the age of 40 (no offense meant to anyone) understand this reality.There's a movement called http://www.uncollege.org which is teaching people to consider alternatives.After all, the founder of Paypal gave away money to a bunch of college students to drop out and do something innovative. The Thiel Fellowship.We need to get to people when they are teenagers and in their early 20s. I encountered Randy's work at 25 (now 30), and I consider it unacceptable for the older generation to be so self-centered as to not value those who come after it.I'm not being a victim about it, but my youth is gone now, and in 5-10 years depending on your perspective, I will be middle aged, and being middle aged and having a crappy life is not acceptable.

    16. @ThomasMrak You got it! Germany - 100 points! 🙂 well, our parents were raised and programmed by their parents (my parents ended up as my mom not working & my dad a blue collar while their parents made it further before WWII struck it down) and by now they live and think with a 100 years old thinking of how things run in the world. My dad woke up and blamed the rest while my mom still is blinded, she won´t make it in this life to see the light ;]

    17. @Leeloo I know because the name Leeloo is common in Germany and the NL. I know some German, and German and Dutch are quite similar.The American school system is based on the old Prussian school system, which is designed to sort people based on academic performance. It's a product of the 19th century factory system. Instead of moving past it, businesses and educational institutions are continuing to do more of the same old, same old.This clearly is not working.Wealthy people send their children to schools where they are taught to think freely and be leaders. Some of these schools cost as much if not more per year than the average to subpar colleges most middle class children get into.Some middle class people send their children to private schools, but these are usually oriented towards preparing people to succeed as people with "good" jobs, and while they cost money, the tuition is affordable to most middle class families.I attended a school like this, but because my family is very dysfunctional and negative, I did extremely poorly.The people with the lowest grades get the worst jobs (or no job at all) and the people with the highest grades become management. People who for whatever reason who do not succeed in the school system or were average were steered towards careers which required little logical or creative thinking.I was told I was not college material, where as many of my friends were encouraged and ended attending private colleges either paid for by their parents or on scholarship.I do not say these things because I want anyone to feel for me. I want people to learn from what I have been through, that you'd better start your kids early and be involved or they'll struggle as adults.

    18. @Leeloo I will say most of the people I attended said school with had middle class backgrounds. There were a few children of business owners and highly paid professionals, but it was mostly people who were average.

    19. @ThomasMrak that all sounds like our German style! A pity. Or say, we live in a mans world (even men!!) so the money factor, the numbers which count, are most relevant. I am an ex disabled child with not much hope when starting out but after my disease career, as a teenager, everyone told me to study but hey, my parents didn´t support that idea at all.....I believed in my doc. and thought I wont´make it in the long-run, so I went on the middle class path. But years after, instead, well, I made it - and - quite "better" than others who started out on a better stage than I did, many years ago. But i dropped out of the job 2 yrs. ago (at age 47) and got back in after: 14 months. So: believe in yourself!!! have dreams and DO EVERYTHING to reach them. As i did 🙂 enjoy the weekend!!!

    20. framing your questions is such an essential (although extremely simple) means of accessing power from your limitless mind.

      changing a couple of words, it's like changing the code in your programming.

      the code speaks to your brain, which in turn affects your actions.

      "how can i do this?" creates a situation where your brain is looking for a solution, as opposed to giving up.

      I ask myself affirmative questions all the time. "How long might this take me?" (not being able to isn't an option), "Will I be able to do this WELL the first time, or will it take practice?"

      Its all about belief.

    21. framing your questions is such an essential (although extremely simple) means of accessing power from your limitless mind.

      changing a couple of words, it's like changing the code in your programming.

      the code speaks to your brain, which in turn affects your actions.

      "how can i do this?" creates a situation where your brain is looking for a solution, as opposed to giving up.

      I ask myself affirmative questions all the time. "How long might this take me?" (not being able to isn't an option), "Will I be able to do this WELL the first time, or will it take practice?"

      Its all about belief.

    22. @Leeloo I experienced something similar. Was diagnosed with OCD/Tourette Syndrome by a very shady doctor who was blindly trusted by my parents because he was an "expert". Put on meds I didn't need.After all, the author William Gibson once said: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes."I now take what experts and authority say at face value for this very reason. Some authority figures DO care about other people and want to make the world a better place and be wealthy from it. Some are shady, and are merely in it for money/prestige and do exploit people, especially those who choose to remain ignorant of reality.An ethical psychiatrist would listen to the child more than the parents or teachers. Parents and teachers can be wrong about someone's capabilities, and people sadly are judged growing up for the choices (good or bad) their parents' make.I was fighting back against mistreatment, and a lack of quality attention, and it was labelled as a "disorder" rather a bad family dynamic.I too was taught that I was "disabled" and that I should settle for a life of government assistance or a "trade".I sometimes wonder if some of this sabotage was intentional.

    23. @Leeloo At least in Germany people who don't get into a Gymnasium have the opportunity of apprenticeships. In the US, even mediocre career/community colleges cost money, so it's depend on the State for assistance or go into debt.In the US, if someone cannot afford a college education, there are many generous organizations which provide scholarships. However, if someone isn't supported, they will not do well enough to obtain the test scores and grades to qualify.Many of the elite private schools have amazing financial aid packages for families who can't afford to send their children to Harvard or Princeton, but again, without prep, people aren't even walking through the front gate.In the past, someone could get by with just a high school education, or even a trade focused education/2 year Associate's degree.

      Since the number of University grads is so concentrated, most "good jobs" require more and more education, and since the college grads aren't getting "good jobs", there are a lot of college graduates working at Wal-mart and McDonald's, which in turn further impoverishes those who didn't get the opportunity.Poverty and mediocrity are unacceptable.

    24. @Leeloo The silver lining in this is, when you are able to provide value as an entrepreneur/creative type, the value of your work is far more important, as is the ability to transcend a system which discourages social mobility.

    25. @ThomasMrak hope your health status is stable and "good to live with"! I, at some point, was kind-a lucky to not have had any medicine at all (still) but it carried the back-side of being severely disappointed on it. just wrote my book about this "life" - a novel.

    26. @Leeloo @ThomasMrak Working on my health. I had to move back to my hometown, and it's like so many cities that were once prosperous. Stuck in a "the glory days" mindset as people do what worked 50+ years ago and then complain about the lack of growth. Obviously, this is a problem even in NYC or Berlin, but at least in larger cities, the affluence attracts talented, smart people with the means to achieve things.I have to seek people out so I can get the energy and faith to push through. I want to live in a big city again, but this will require a level of success I have never achieved before to do so. I didn't live very well when I did the first couple times, and attracted bad people and situations.I feel more at home in one. People aren't as close-minded and appreciate the finer things in life. There isn't as much of "my job should take care of me" as there is here. I am not willing to put my life in the hands of others because they are willing to. My life is mine, and it belongs to no one else. I will not go out of my way to harm others.85,000+ people (not sure how large the regional population is in total) remaining in blissful ignorance, wanting to run away from progress, and a globally, interconnected world. A lot of the business owners and government officials do too! They can't seem to understand WHY growth isn't happening!!! It doesn't take a genius to figure it out.As Ayn Rand said: "Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears." I've left twice because the attitude of the general population is very negative, and because I know that the people in the area aren't going to do enough and it's going to continue to decline.For an example of this attitude on a larger scale, read about Detroit, Michigan.There are some happy people, but very few. Most of the happy people are business owners and creatives that do care about quality and they are thriving. The "me too" and "if I build it, they will come" business people are stagnant or failing. Don't even get me start the "poor, exploited" middle class and poor people.

    27. @Leeloo It does!I was thinking recently about the storms we weather in life. No amount of money will end the torrent.How about something about leaping through bad waters??

    28. @Rosa Muziotti That's a great one! Even better: "Why does this sort of situation happen to me?" "What did I do to create it?" "What have I been doing or not doing?"

    29. @ThomasMrak if you want to sing or write songs just think of the great songs by Eminem, Dido or Phil Collins..... your life offers lots of potential text which people want to hear AND CAN IDENTIFY WITH -

    30. The size of your questions determine the size of your results. Unfortunately some don't ask questions, they turn down any idea or opportunity that come their way.

      Most of the time, I will take on an opportunity, then ask "How can I do this well?"

    31. The size of your questions determine the size of your results. Unfortunately some don't ask questions, they turn down any idea or opportunity that come their way.

      Most of the time, I will take on an opportunity, then ask "How can I do this well?"

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