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Are You Letting Emotion Keep You Broke?

Posted By: Randy GageFebruary 9, 2010

I think I really pissed the guy off.  But I was quite frustrated myself, and let it show.  I had just finished conducting a fund raising seminar for the speakers association.  I had given a day of my time, to show aspiring speakers how to be successful in the business.  The guy was talking to me afterward, arguing about everything I had said.  

“Well your way is not the only way to make it.  I’ve heard of people who did this. I know others that did that.  I read about a guy that tried this,” etc, etc.

Finally I couldn’t stand it anymore.  “Listen,” I said, “I drive a nicer car than you do.  I live in a nicer house than you do.  I have more money than you do.  I have nicer clothes than you do.  Much nicer, now that I think of it.  So if I was you – I would stop looking for reasons why what I just taught you won’t work.  If I was you, I would get my ass out of here and apply everything I just said IMMEDIATELY!”

Well he did get out of there immediately, but I don’t think it was to apply what I said.

He was so set on being right and protecting his ego, that he kept himself struggling to do it.  And you know what:  He’s still struggling, two years later.  But he still insists that there are better ways to do things than I propose.  I suppose there are.  But he’ll never find them.

Why?

Because he’s too stupid to learn from and model people who have successfully done the things he wants to do.  He has his preconceived lack notions, and he doesn’t let them get disturbed by reality, no matter how much misery he faces.  Then he attributes that misery to causes outside his control.  But he’s really choosing it all himself.

People have some very funny feelings about money.  They have all kinds of subconscious programming, charged with a lot of emotion.  They make most decisions about money with all these high-charged emotions, and are completely unaware that they do so.

On the next post I’ll give you a shocking example.  Until then, please check in with your thoughts.  Is money emotional for you?  Does it cloud your judgment and ability to manifest prosperity?  Let us know.

-RG

51 comments on “Are You Letting Emotion Keep You Broke?”

  1. Hi Randy,
    Great post. Ego is the all time killer. In my life it has made me uncoachable. Defense is the greatest agenda in the universe. When I have an agenda I am stuck attached to my mental outcome. This blocks my good.
    It is through fear of what is on the other side and am I really good enough to receive it.
    Love reading your blog.
    Thanks
    Jim Story

  2. It is a tough battle, no doubt. But to the victor, go the spoils!

    I think everyone either has or will have this struggle with their ego and the overwhelming feeling to justify themselves.

    It's amazing how liberating it can be to give up the need to have to be right, though. It puts an individual in the best spot to be receptive to all of the abundance that exists in the universe.

    I love the "in your face" style of your blog.

    All the best
    MS

  3. Pardon me for saying this, but I got the sense you had a lot of energy around being right too Randy. Making the statement, “I drive a nicer car than you do. I live in a nicer house than you do. I have more money than you do. I have nicer clothes than you do. Much nicer, now that I think of it. .. " sounds pretty condescending to me.

    Wattles says in 'the Science of Getting Rich" that thinking in a certain way is the key. And part of that way is to shift from the competitive to the creative mind. The way you come across making the statement above is more competitive than creative. It's like the 'my way or the highway', at least to me.

    Any thoughts there?

  4. I agree with Jonathan. Randy's ego was just as fierce as the person he was arguing with. But to Randy's defense, I would probably do the exact same thing. This was a seminar on being successful in business. Not on being spiritual. So if the guy wanted to argue, Randy said his "peace" and walked away. Will his approach help the guy? Maybe, maybe not? But Randy did exactly what I would have done as a typical successful businessman.

    On the other hand, if we were talking spirit/love/etc here... Randy knows he could have been empathetic with the dude, and understand the guy was "stuck" in his ways, and was frustrated about something. And from that perspective, he could have came up with another apporach to the guy's aggressiveness and negativity.

    But again, as a business person, you don't owe anyone anything. Especially a loud mouthed know-it-all who can't find anything good with your speech.

  5. I agree Jonathan, I don't need to drive a flashy car or wear designer clothes to define who I am. There are plenty of 'rich' people out there who are confident with themselves and happy within. I was able to reach out to someone today and it didn't cost me a penny, just time and love.

    Jonathan - have you ever read 'I Can Make You Rich' by Paul McKenna? He talks about rich thinking and poor thinking. I find Randy's attitude very interesting, even if you have £millions you can still be a poor thinker, live in fear and have low self esteem. John Paul Getty was a prime example!

  6. Randy, I certainly used to allow "emotions" or "past baggage" or "old road maps" as handed down to me control my money. Thanks to you and my journey to becoming NWM Pro no longer an issue..or better realized..focusing on not allowing ..

  7. It always amazes me how much energy people will use to rationalize being poor, when that same energy could be used instead to set them free. I wrote in my blog today about how your self-image determines your financial ceiling. His image is a struggling entrepreneur, so that's where he will remain until he changes his mindset.

  8. Money sure seems very emotional for a lot of people, whether they have it or not. 🙂

    Rather than focus on getting more money, focus on creating a better "YOU." As you develop a mind-pattern of high self-worth, release sabotage and develop discernment, you automatically change the recipe of your auric field and mind-pattern.

    As with all things, money is a result of your inner work. When YOU are in order, the money comes to you in the correct way for the correct reasons in the correct timing.

    The more you work on YOU, the greater your chances of easily improving finances, automatically attracting money to you, and KEEPING and MULTIPLYING the funds that come your way.

    Slow down, balance out yourself and your life. Pave the way for money to flow to you like water. Abundance of all things exists within God-Mind.

    It is up to you to decide in what area of your life you want abundance and then create the recipe to attract it. You have a lot of choices. Make the correct choice for the correct reason in the correct way, and watch your life automatically change for the better.

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  9. Jonathan, Jay and Helen,

    Was I tied up in being right and wrapped in my ego? Guilty as charged.

    I like to think that if this happened today I would be more empathetic and patient. But would I actually? Maybe, maybe not.

    I have patience for ignorance but not much for stupidity. (Ignorance is not being aware of a thing. Stupidity is being aware of it, but continuing your old belief anyway.) At that time I was earning $25,000 a speech and this guy sometimes got $500. I come from the Dizzy Dean school of philosophy of "It ain't bragging if you done done it."

    I had made millions of dollars practicing the strategies I had shared that day. And I was donating my time to do it. So I'll own up to being arrogant and egotistical. Which leads to the next question...

    Does anyone want to own up to my bragging about my money and cars triggering an emotional response in them?

    -RG

  10. Well said Randy.

    I have been learning to be a better listener.

    I really do not trust people who claim to be experts, who are either poor but "spiritual" or someone wealthy who has no life outside of consumption and acquisition.

    Randy, you were warranted in what you said. Sometimes people sadly must know their place.

    I admire people who are whole, and work daily to learn and experience life as much as I can.

    Good luck everyone.

  11. It is amazing how those that have not succeeded tell those that have what to do and how. Unless one changes what they have been doing and open their minds to new techniques and stategies, they will stay where they are - broke and angry. Keep going Randy! I love your style.

  12. Randy, my wife and I are dealing with this right now: she is upset with me because I just changed NM companies to one that I ACTUALLY MAKE MONEY WITH and she is upset because I am doing the NM side of it (she is in AVON and refuses to recruit) ... now I brought that up because I realize now that she must abhor wealth because if you would join a NM company and ONLY do the direct sales/hard work/job-similar side of this business, then lack programming about money MUST exist ... Trying to run a household with negative thoughts about money is very difficult ... I am like you, I am following the footsteps of people who live like I want my family to live ... no matter what she says - she will benefit anyway 🙂

  13. I think the condescending bit in this example was absolutely necessary. I doubt Randy would ever come from saying it just to spite the guy (tempting as it may be).

    The guy was being a taker & energy sucker, AND ungrateful to boot. And obviously he was extremely emotionally vested in proving someone else wrong, so he could be right and not give up his own stories that keeps him where ever he wants to remain. So even though Randy has proven that his way is a definite way that has delivered time & again; it doesn't matter.

    But while everyone has their prerogative to have their own opinion, being harassed by someone like this is extremely trying and no one should have to stand for it.

    So being head-on with him was probably more contributing than sugar coating it. God knows that I personally have been shaken out of my own egoistic, righteous stupor time & again by mentors who had the courage to tell me what I needed to hear straight up when I lacked the courage to face it myself. Sure it hurts when the truth lands, but facing it was the only way to set myself free.

    So, whether he accepts it now, later or never Randy; my opinion is that you did him a favor. Hopefully he has grown some balls & understands where you were coming from. >,<

  14. Through my 20 + years of being in business, I have witnessed ego many many times. Unfortunately several times have been in my own life. That is why I am finally working simply on me. I have set a side 90 days to focus with laser-like accurancy on my life; the relationships, physical health, spiritual health, and vocational health. I have listened to many people who claim that they know how to succeed only to find out that they are clueless. During this 90 day period, I am going back to the classics; the Bible, Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, etc to truly study people that have achieved success. I am tired of waffling through life. I don't need an ego, I need to succeed!!!! Oh yea Randy, I am reading your works as well.

  15. Ah yes - a few days ago in one of my moments of meditation on this - I came up with a saying (perhaps it's been said before, but this is how it came to me that morning)

    If you focus on getting more value from the world, the world will give you a job to do. If you focus on giving more value to the world, the world will give you wealth.

  16. Hello Everybody,

    Randy, thanks again for your posts. I like your style. Could you have handled that situation differently? Sure. Should you have? I don't think so.

    To hell with regret, there's only learning. Everything you've ever done has gotten you to where you are now. I don't know you personally, but I get the feeling you are a pretty happy and content man. Well done.

    So you've pissed off some people in your life. So has everybody else. And a lot of them are still broke and/or unhappy. I'm impressed with the number of people you've helped. In my opinion, that's an awesome accomplishment. Thanks, man. Respect.

    "Is money emotional for you? Does it cloud your judgment and ability to manifest prosperity?

    Oh yeah.
    Less now than in the past, though. I started looking at money as another form of energy. That helped me to become objective about it. Energy comes in, energy goes out. Money should do the same. If money doesn't come in, you're likely broke and miserable. If money doesn't go out, you're probably an unhappy miser. Still miserable.

    Oprah Winfrey is a shining example of a successful businesswoman. She's amazing generous and has a boatload of cash. Awesome. I don't watch her show but I admire her ability to manifest prosperity. Again, Respect.

    Keep up the good work, Randy. Thanks for helping us think about prosperity in a good way. Even when you piss some of us off in the process.

  17. Randy,
    I think that man who argued with you was my brother. LOL. We all know from "success/money 101" that if you want what someone else has, do what they did to get it. Your advise was right on. You were not out of line in saying what you did. The time for BS is over if we want to cut thru the crap and become the best we can be. In MLM we know that everything works, to some degree. The reason we take the time and effort to seek out the best in whatever field we are endeavoring to enter is to, hopefully, become a cookie cutter of that same persons' technique and results. As you've said, many times, who you follow/emulate will be what you become. We all need to choose wisely.
    For myself, I'm all ears. Lead on.

  18. Who gives a shit about ego ... ego gets a bad wrap anyway. Randy what you did was provide a healthy dose of "in your face" reality. SHOCK VALUE is sometimes the best strategy in getting through the armour of defensiveness.

    A healthy "dope slap" has always caught my attention. It makes me shut up, stand up, and pay attention. And if you can get me to do that...well then Randy, you have served me well and earned my respect.

    Keep unleashing it!!

  19. That guy didn't add value in being pissed of !

    Keep up the Great Work

    Pierre Leyssac, Wonderful Copenhagen

  20. Your response did trigger a defensive response in me...but it was meant to. In all fairness, sounds like the dude was asking for it. He never backed off, and became verbally confrontational...you were there to teach, and you have a right to control the situation as you deem necessary. Was your ego involved? Hell, yeah...but good for you, coming from someone who could stand to be less delicate.

    I'll forgive you. You've earned it.

  21. I think what was really at play here were two things:

    (1) That guy had a serious self-confidence problem. He probably was never "recognized" for anything in his life. By attacking you, he made himself feel better about his own sorry lot in life. In his mind, by attacking you, he felt superior in his own little brain.

    (2) I suspect jealousy was also at play: You're successful and he, apparently, was not. When people are jealous, they go into the "fight" mode as a protective mechanism. On some deep level, I'm sure he was envious of your success. But rather than admit that and say, "Hey, I envy you. How can I be like you?" he resorted to the less productive (yet internally conditioned response that we all have) to attack you -- someone whom he perceived as a threat. (Back to the fight or flight thing again.)

    Cooperation is not something that's conditioned at a primal level; competition for resources and protection of self are pre-programmed in our subconscious. That's why for most of us it's a daily struggle to override that continuous loop software programming with positive, productive thoughts and actions.

  22. Ha! I can understand why you said what you said, how much is enough? The guy is reacting out of fear and obviously lacks self awareness as he felt the need to bombard you with his stuff. In my opinion every interaction with another human is operating on other levels as well. He needed you and you were there.

  23. Personally I agree with what you said to the guy. If you are making all this money and have all those nice things and he does not, and wants to argue with you about how you do it then by all means give him examples of proof that your way works.

    Sometimes people need to be verbally bitch slapped.

    I don't think I would have the nerve to walk up to you and say things to you like that, and tell you your wrong, but if I did, and you pointed out all those things to me I think I would have left there with my head spinning and with a whole lot to rethink.

    Maybe I am just a bit different. But I respect what you said to the guy. I would have left there that day with more respect for you than when I got there (whether it was me or someone else you said something like that to).

    You stood up for your beliefs. Do you really think it was your ego? Maybe just the bit where you over commented on the clothes. But you stood up for yourself when someone was trying to tear you down. Honestly, who wouldn't.

    I would like it if you told me all the things you said to him, put it in my face, throw it out there. It would put a serious fire up under my ass to get something done.

    Some people need competition to get anything done. I know I love competition, without it there is no "ha ha I win" in the end.. I know it's all ego, but I think that part of the ego can really propell people.

    Perhaps he was just challenging you for his own purposes.

    Jamie 😉

  24. Personally I agree with what you said to the guy. If you are making all this money and have all those nice things and he does not, and wants to argue with you about how you do it then by all means give him examples of proof that your way works.

    Sometimes people need to be verbally bitch slapped.

    I don’t think I would have the nerve to walk up to you and say things to you like that, and tell you your wrong, but if I did, and you pointed out all those things to me I think I would have left there with my head spinning and with a whole lot to rethink.

    Maybe I am just a bit different. But I respect what you said to the guy. I would have left there that day with more respect for you than when I got there (whether it was me or someone else you said something like that to).

    You stood up for your beliefs. Do you really think it was your ego? Maybe just the bit where you over commented on the clothes. But you stood up for yourself when someone was trying to tear you down. Honestly, who wouldn’t.

    I would like it if you told me all the things you said to him, put it in my face, throw it out there. It would put a serious fire up under my ass to get something done.

    Some people need competition to get anything done. I know I love competition, without it there is no “ha ha I win” in the end.. I know it’s all ego, but I think that part of the ego can really propell people.

    Perhaps he was just challenging you for his own purposes.

    Jamie 😉

  25. Hi Randy:

    I am not worry about everyone else anymore. I just working on my limiting beliefs.
    "I will be all alone and lonely if I become a millionarie."

  26. Hi Randy,

    I agree, if we want to be successfull, learn from the man who has been successfull like you. I do that. Keep coaching us!

    Fathur - Jakarta

  27. Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the thought. May your heart be filled with laughter.

    Your quote, "The time for BS is over if we want to cut thru the crap and become the best we can be." is brilliant. I love straight talk.

  28. Jonathan

    You're argument about creativity vs competition is crap. Sorry to be blunt but it's true. I get tired of hearing about how horrible competition is and how wonderful any alternative is. Fact is competition is GOOD, and the reality is competition is what drives creativity to begin with. If it weren't for competition we wouldn't have Ferrari's, Porsche's, or Lamborghinis and would still be hoofing it bipedal. You can also remove the pyrimids of Egypt, the sculptures of Michaelanglo, and the Apollo landings on the moon. All of those accomplishments came from the desire to have the biggest, best, and be the first and it pushed mankind to the cutting edge of creativeness. Technologies from those tasks are still benefitting us today. Its what drives this world no matter if you live in a capitalist society or not. Its just the way life and what reality is. You can embrace it and use it to your advantage or you can deny it and pretend to live in some kind of never never land Utopia. The choice is yours.

  29. Is money emotional for you? Does it cloud your judgment and ability to manifest prosperity? Let us know....

    Abso-bloody-lutely it gets in my way AND I AM SICK OF IT!!!

    Had the same conversation today with my business partner.
    I pray to God to remove my self imposed blocks and to be a channel of abundance for all.
    Only, I think my God's clock and my watch have not been synchronized!

    Thank you Randy for your generous insights.

  30. The day I opened my eyes to the possibility that there is a better way (or even a different way) was the day everything changed. But there are still limiting beliefs in here.

    Great post Randy.

  31. PS: If he is still struggling 2 years later, and still going on with the 'you don't know it all' stuff, then do you try to help him? Or is he a dead loss.
    I would consider him a dead loss and move on.
    What would you do?

  32. If that was the complete statement. You chopped it in half and only commented on the half of it.

    The rest says "I would stop looking for reasons why what I just taught you won’t work. If I was you, I would get my ass out of here and apply everything I just said IMMEDIATELY!”

    Now put the two halves together and therein lies the creative!

  33. Randy can afford to be arrogant. sometimes u have to fight fire with fire. This attitude is still very spiritual. its more warriorish than saintly. Eye for an eye. arrogance be very effective talent used at the right time it destroys small mindedness instantly. Ah the guru who also takes no shit. Prosperity now and forever!

  34. not anymore, now i believe money is important. every body uses it, be it the poor or rich, hypocrites like that guy you smashed and people who really got it...so for me i am using your teachings regarding prosperity..

    thank you

    gene
    philippines

  35. Randy,
    It's funny everyone reacts to negative emotions in different ways, your intitial response to the post seminar hechler, those who commented on your bad behavior :)- Just reminds us that we are all human. Our ideas of success and prosperity should differ, but in the end fall in line with the idea that no one has all the answers for everyone-you have to find your own. I am looking to grow as a speaker so I expect to have a hechler of my own one day. Shucks I get hechlers when Im not getting paid to speak... Last comment-If we think prosperity is tied to our possessions then we all may be material girls living in a material world. By the way, "What does prosperity mean to you?

  36. I must say I was a bit surprised that you handled the situation the way you did. A nice smile and walk away, and then what could the other person do? We don't have to bring ourselves down to another's level, unless we allow that to happen.

    Take care!!
    Genesta

  37. Yes, the subject of money can trigger emotional responses in me.

    After working in a fast food restaurant in my youth and handling hundreds of dollars each shift, that charge has been significantly lessened. It's paper with green ink on it, and it does have value for what it can be exchanged for. The emotional charge on money has significantly reduced the longer I associate with people who are financially wealthy... I pick up on their calmness and confidence regarding money.

    I felt your fierce love toward that man. He is not required to be grateful for your volunteered time. It's not your business even if he spread wild rumors or talked badly of you to other attendees. However, I felt it is appropriate to use your approach when he whined directly at you. In that face to face instance you became his teacher/guru. In the least you were impressing upon him to Stop Whining and be responsible for one's own results. That is definitely an act of love.

    Randy, I feel you were using your own ego in service to help someone break through their stale thinking. Sometimes shock value, done from a place of love, is the only way to jar one out of one's protective ego.... sometimes when confronted with such a situation, it was easier for me to let go of my ego by saying "you know, you're right" because the evidence was overwhelmingly stronger for my teacher's point of view. The disparity was so great that it was like being accelerated forward by a mile to join the winner's circle instead of "losing" the race by a proverbial nose of accomplishment.

    The key here was that you already accomplished what he wanted and you gave him time to get his own method going. If you had criticized him when he was simply getting started (or working toward accomplishment in a different field) then I would have deemed your response inappropriate.

  38. “I had a vision of a way we could have no enemies ever again, if you’re interested in this. Anybody interested in hearing this?

    It’s kind of an interesting theory, and all we have to do is make one decisive act and we can rid the world of all our enemies at once.

    Here’s what we do.

    You know all that money we spend on nuclear weapons and defense every year? Trillions of dollars.

    Instead, if we spent that money feeding and clothing the poor of the world, which it would pay for many times over, not one human being excluded … not one … we could as one race explore inner and outer space together in peace, for ever.”

    billhicks.com

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  • 51 comments on “Are You Letting Emotion Keep You Broke?”

    1. Hi Randy,
      Great post. Ego is the all time killer. In my life it has made me uncoachable. Defense is the greatest agenda in the universe. When I have an agenda I am stuck attached to my mental outcome. This blocks my good.
      It is through fear of what is on the other side and am I really good enough to receive it.
      Love reading your blog.
      Thanks
      Jim Story

    2. It is a tough battle, no doubt. But to the victor, go the spoils!

      I think everyone either has or will have this struggle with their ego and the overwhelming feeling to justify themselves.

      It's amazing how liberating it can be to give up the need to have to be right, though. It puts an individual in the best spot to be receptive to all of the abundance that exists in the universe.

      I love the "in your face" style of your blog.

      All the best
      MS

    3. Pardon me for saying this, but I got the sense you had a lot of energy around being right too Randy. Making the statement, “I drive a nicer car than you do. I live in a nicer house than you do. I have more money than you do. I have nicer clothes than you do. Much nicer, now that I think of it. .. " sounds pretty condescending to me.

      Wattles says in 'the Science of Getting Rich" that thinking in a certain way is the key. And part of that way is to shift from the competitive to the creative mind. The way you come across making the statement above is more competitive than creative. It's like the 'my way or the highway', at least to me.

      Any thoughts there?

    4. I agree with Jonathan. Randy's ego was just as fierce as the person he was arguing with. But to Randy's defense, I would probably do the exact same thing. This was a seminar on being successful in business. Not on being spiritual. So if the guy wanted to argue, Randy said his "peace" and walked away. Will his approach help the guy? Maybe, maybe not? But Randy did exactly what I would have done as a typical successful businessman.

      On the other hand, if we were talking spirit/love/etc here... Randy knows he could have been empathetic with the dude, and understand the guy was "stuck" in his ways, and was frustrated about something. And from that perspective, he could have came up with another apporach to the guy's aggressiveness and negativity.

      But again, as a business person, you don't owe anyone anything. Especially a loud mouthed know-it-all who can't find anything good with your speech.

    5. I agree Jonathan, I don't need to drive a flashy car or wear designer clothes to define who I am. There are plenty of 'rich' people out there who are confident with themselves and happy within. I was able to reach out to someone today and it didn't cost me a penny, just time and love.

      Jonathan - have you ever read 'I Can Make You Rich' by Paul McKenna? He talks about rich thinking and poor thinking. I find Randy's attitude very interesting, even if you have £millions you can still be a poor thinker, live in fear and have low self esteem. John Paul Getty was a prime example!

    6. Randy, I certainly used to allow "emotions" or "past baggage" or "old road maps" as handed down to me control my money. Thanks to you and my journey to becoming NWM Pro no longer an issue..or better realized..focusing on not allowing ..

    7. It always amazes me how much energy people will use to rationalize being poor, when that same energy could be used instead to set them free. I wrote in my blog today about how your self-image determines your financial ceiling. His image is a struggling entrepreneur, so that's where he will remain until he changes his mindset.

    8. Money sure seems very emotional for a lot of people, whether they have it or not. 🙂

      Rather than focus on getting more money, focus on creating a better "YOU." As you develop a mind-pattern of high self-worth, release sabotage and develop discernment, you automatically change the recipe of your auric field and mind-pattern.

      As with all things, money is a result of your inner work. When YOU are in order, the money comes to you in the correct way for the correct reasons in the correct timing.

      The more you work on YOU, the greater your chances of easily improving finances, automatically attracting money to you, and KEEPING and MULTIPLYING the funds that come your way.

      Slow down, balance out yourself and your life. Pave the way for money to flow to you like water. Abundance of all things exists within God-Mind.

      It is up to you to decide in what area of your life you want abundance and then create the recipe to attract it. You have a lot of choices. Make the correct choice for the correct reason in the correct way, and watch your life automatically change for the better.

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    9. Jonathan, Jay and Helen,

      Was I tied up in being right and wrapped in my ego? Guilty as charged.

      I like to think that if this happened today I would be more empathetic and patient. But would I actually? Maybe, maybe not.

      I have patience for ignorance but not much for stupidity. (Ignorance is not being aware of a thing. Stupidity is being aware of it, but continuing your old belief anyway.) At that time I was earning $25,000 a speech and this guy sometimes got $500. I come from the Dizzy Dean school of philosophy of "It ain't bragging if you done done it."

      I had made millions of dollars practicing the strategies I had shared that day. And I was donating my time to do it. So I'll own up to being arrogant and egotistical. Which leads to the next question...

      Does anyone want to own up to my bragging about my money and cars triggering an emotional response in them?

      -RG

    10. Well said Randy.

      I have been learning to be a better listener.

      I really do not trust people who claim to be experts, who are either poor but "spiritual" or someone wealthy who has no life outside of consumption and acquisition.

      Randy, you were warranted in what you said. Sometimes people sadly must know their place.

      I admire people who are whole, and work daily to learn and experience life as much as I can.

      Good luck everyone.

    11. It is amazing how those that have not succeeded tell those that have what to do and how. Unless one changes what they have been doing and open their minds to new techniques and stategies, they will stay where they are - broke and angry. Keep going Randy! I love your style.

    12. Randy, my wife and I are dealing with this right now: she is upset with me because I just changed NM companies to one that I ACTUALLY MAKE MONEY WITH and she is upset because I am doing the NM side of it (she is in AVON and refuses to recruit) ... now I brought that up because I realize now that she must abhor wealth because if you would join a NM company and ONLY do the direct sales/hard work/job-similar side of this business, then lack programming about money MUST exist ... Trying to run a household with negative thoughts about money is very difficult ... I am like you, I am following the footsteps of people who live like I want my family to live ... no matter what she says - she will benefit anyway 🙂

    13. I think the condescending bit in this example was absolutely necessary. I doubt Randy would ever come from saying it just to spite the guy (tempting as it may be).

      The guy was being a taker & energy sucker, AND ungrateful to boot. And obviously he was extremely emotionally vested in proving someone else wrong, so he could be right and not give up his own stories that keeps him where ever he wants to remain. So even though Randy has proven that his way is a definite way that has delivered time & again; it doesn't matter.

      But while everyone has their prerogative to have their own opinion, being harassed by someone like this is extremely trying and no one should have to stand for it.

      So being head-on with him was probably more contributing than sugar coating it. God knows that I personally have been shaken out of my own egoistic, righteous stupor time & again by mentors who had the courage to tell me what I needed to hear straight up when I lacked the courage to face it myself. Sure it hurts when the truth lands, but facing it was the only way to set myself free.

      So, whether he accepts it now, later or never Randy; my opinion is that you did him a favor. Hopefully he has grown some balls & understands where you were coming from. >,<

    14. Through my 20 + years of being in business, I have witnessed ego many many times. Unfortunately several times have been in my own life. That is why I am finally working simply on me. I have set a side 90 days to focus with laser-like accurancy on my life; the relationships, physical health, spiritual health, and vocational health. I have listened to many people who claim that they know how to succeed only to find out that they are clueless. During this 90 day period, I am going back to the classics; the Bible, Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, etc to truly study people that have achieved success. I am tired of waffling through life. I don't need an ego, I need to succeed!!!! Oh yea Randy, I am reading your works as well.

    15. Ah yes - a few days ago in one of my moments of meditation on this - I came up with a saying (perhaps it's been said before, but this is how it came to me that morning)

      If you focus on getting more value from the world, the world will give you a job to do. If you focus on giving more value to the world, the world will give you wealth.

    16. Hello Everybody,

      Randy, thanks again for your posts. I like your style. Could you have handled that situation differently? Sure. Should you have? I don't think so.

      To hell with regret, there's only learning. Everything you've ever done has gotten you to where you are now. I don't know you personally, but I get the feeling you are a pretty happy and content man. Well done.

      So you've pissed off some people in your life. So has everybody else. And a lot of them are still broke and/or unhappy. I'm impressed with the number of people you've helped. In my opinion, that's an awesome accomplishment. Thanks, man. Respect.

      "Is money emotional for you? Does it cloud your judgment and ability to manifest prosperity?

      Oh yeah.
      Less now than in the past, though. I started looking at money as another form of energy. That helped me to become objective about it. Energy comes in, energy goes out. Money should do the same. If money doesn't come in, you're likely broke and miserable. If money doesn't go out, you're probably an unhappy miser. Still miserable.

      Oprah Winfrey is a shining example of a successful businesswoman. She's amazing generous and has a boatload of cash. Awesome. I don't watch her show but I admire her ability to manifest prosperity. Again, Respect.

      Keep up the good work, Randy. Thanks for helping us think about prosperity in a good way. Even when you piss some of us off in the process.

    17. Randy,
      I think that man who argued with you was my brother. LOL. We all know from "success/money 101" that if you want what someone else has, do what they did to get it. Your advise was right on. You were not out of line in saying what you did. The time for BS is over if we want to cut thru the crap and become the best we can be. In MLM we know that everything works, to some degree. The reason we take the time and effort to seek out the best in whatever field we are endeavoring to enter is to, hopefully, become a cookie cutter of that same persons' technique and results. As you've said, many times, who you follow/emulate will be what you become. We all need to choose wisely.
      For myself, I'm all ears. Lead on.

    18. Who gives a shit about ego ... ego gets a bad wrap anyway. Randy what you did was provide a healthy dose of "in your face" reality. SHOCK VALUE is sometimes the best strategy in getting through the armour of defensiveness.

      A healthy "dope slap" has always caught my attention. It makes me shut up, stand up, and pay attention. And if you can get me to do that...well then Randy, you have served me well and earned my respect.

      Keep unleashing it!!

    19. That guy didn't add value in being pissed of !

      Keep up the Great Work

      Pierre Leyssac, Wonderful Copenhagen

    20. Your response did trigger a defensive response in me...but it was meant to. In all fairness, sounds like the dude was asking for it. He never backed off, and became verbally confrontational...you were there to teach, and you have a right to control the situation as you deem necessary. Was your ego involved? Hell, yeah...but good for you, coming from someone who could stand to be less delicate.

      I'll forgive you. You've earned it.

    21. I think what was really at play here were two things:

      (1) That guy had a serious self-confidence problem. He probably was never "recognized" for anything in his life. By attacking you, he made himself feel better about his own sorry lot in life. In his mind, by attacking you, he felt superior in his own little brain.

      (2) I suspect jealousy was also at play: You're successful and he, apparently, was not. When people are jealous, they go into the "fight" mode as a protective mechanism. On some deep level, I'm sure he was envious of your success. But rather than admit that and say, "Hey, I envy you. How can I be like you?" he resorted to the less productive (yet internally conditioned response that we all have) to attack you -- someone whom he perceived as a threat. (Back to the fight or flight thing again.)

      Cooperation is not something that's conditioned at a primal level; competition for resources and protection of self are pre-programmed in our subconscious. That's why for most of us it's a daily struggle to override that continuous loop software programming with positive, productive thoughts and actions.

    22. Ha! I can understand why you said what you said, how much is enough? The guy is reacting out of fear and obviously lacks self awareness as he felt the need to bombard you with his stuff. In my opinion every interaction with another human is operating on other levels as well. He needed you and you were there.

    23. Personally I agree with what you said to the guy. If you are making all this money and have all those nice things and he does not, and wants to argue with you about how you do it then by all means give him examples of proof that your way works.

      Sometimes people need to be verbally bitch slapped.

      I don't think I would have the nerve to walk up to you and say things to you like that, and tell you your wrong, but if I did, and you pointed out all those things to me I think I would have left there with my head spinning and with a whole lot to rethink.

      Maybe I am just a bit different. But I respect what you said to the guy. I would have left there that day with more respect for you than when I got there (whether it was me or someone else you said something like that to).

      You stood up for your beliefs. Do you really think it was your ego? Maybe just the bit where you over commented on the clothes. But you stood up for yourself when someone was trying to tear you down. Honestly, who wouldn't.

      I would like it if you told me all the things you said to him, put it in my face, throw it out there. It would put a serious fire up under my ass to get something done.

      Some people need competition to get anything done. I know I love competition, without it there is no "ha ha I win" in the end.. I know it's all ego, but I think that part of the ego can really propell people.

      Perhaps he was just challenging you for his own purposes.

      Jamie 😉

    24. Personally I agree with what you said to the guy. If you are making all this money and have all those nice things and he does not, and wants to argue with you about how you do it then by all means give him examples of proof that your way works.

      Sometimes people need to be verbally bitch slapped.

      I don’t think I would have the nerve to walk up to you and say things to you like that, and tell you your wrong, but if I did, and you pointed out all those things to me I think I would have left there with my head spinning and with a whole lot to rethink.

      Maybe I am just a bit different. But I respect what you said to the guy. I would have left there that day with more respect for you than when I got there (whether it was me or someone else you said something like that to).

      You stood up for your beliefs. Do you really think it was your ego? Maybe just the bit where you over commented on the clothes. But you stood up for yourself when someone was trying to tear you down. Honestly, who wouldn’t.

      I would like it if you told me all the things you said to him, put it in my face, throw it out there. It would put a serious fire up under my ass to get something done.

      Some people need competition to get anything done. I know I love competition, without it there is no “ha ha I win” in the end.. I know it’s all ego, but I think that part of the ego can really propell people.

      Perhaps he was just challenging you for his own purposes.

      Jamie 😉

    25. Hi Randy:

      I am not worry about everyone else anymore. I just working on my limiting beliefs.
      "I will be all alone and lonely if I become a millionarie."

    26. Hi Randy,

      I agree, if we want to be successfull, learn from the man who has been successfull like you. I do that. Keep coaching us!

      Fathur - Jakarta

    27. Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the thought. May your heart be filled with laughter.

      Your quote, "The time for BS is over if we want to cut thru the crap and become the best we can be." is brilliant. I love straight talk.

    28. Jonathan

      You're argument about creativity vs competition is crap. Sorry to be blunt but it's true. I get tired of hearing about how horrible competition is and how wonderful any alternative is. Fact is competition is GOOD, and the reality is competition is what drives creativity to begin with. If it weren't for competition we wouldn't have Ferrari's, Porsche's, or Lamborghinis and would still be hoofing it bipedal. You can also remove the pyrimids of Egypt, the sculptures of Michaelanglo, and the Apollo landings on the moon. All of those accomplishments came from the desire to have the biggest, best, and be the first and it pushed mankind to the cutting edge of creativeness. Technologies from those tasks are still benefitting us today. Its what drives this world no matter if you live in a capitalist society or not. Its just the way life and what reality is. You can embrace it and use it to your advantage or you can deny it and pretend to live in some kind of never never land Utopia. The choice is yours.

    29. Is money emotional for you? Does it cloud your judgment and ability to manifest prosperity? Let us know....

      Abso-bloody-lutely it gets in my way AND I AM SICK OF IT!!!

      Had the same conversation today with my business partner.
      I pray to God to remove my self imposed blocks and to be a channel of abundance for all.
      Only, I think my God's clock and my watch have not been synchronized!

      Thank you Randy for your generous insights.

    30. The day I opened my eyes to the possibility that there is a better way (or even a different way) was the day everything changed. But there are still limiting beliefs in here.

      Great post Randy.

    31. PS: If he is still struggling 2 years later, and still going on with the 'you don't know it all' stuff, then do you try to help him? Or is he a dead loss.
      I would consider him a dead loss and move on.
      What would you do?

    32. If that was the complete statement. You chopped it in half and only commented on the half of it.

      The rest says "I would stop looking for reasons why what I just taught you won’t work. If I was you, I would get my ass out of here and apply everything I just said IMMEDIATELY!”

      Now put the two halves together and therein lies the creative!

    33. Randy can afford to be arrogant. sometimes u have to fight fire with fire. This attitude is still very spiritual. its more warriorish than saintly. Eye for an eye. arrogance be very effective talent used at the right time it destroys small mindedness instantly. Ah the guru who also takes no shit. Prosperity now and forever!

    34. not anymore, now i believe money is important. every body uses it, be it the poor or rich, hypocrites like that guy you smashed and people who really got it...so for me i am using your teachings regarding prosperity..

      thank you

      gene
      philippines

    35. Randy,
      It's funny everyone reacts to negative emotions in different ways, your intitial response to the post seminar hechler, those who commented on your bad behavior :)- Just reminds us that we are all human. Our ideas of success and prosperity should differ, but in the end fall in line with the idea that no one has all the answers for everyone-you have to find your own. I am looking to grow as a speaker so I expect to have a hechler of my own one day. Shucks I get hechlers when Im not getting paid to speak... Last comment-If we think prosperity is tied to our possessions then we all may be material girls living in a material world. By the way, "What does prosperity mean to you?

    36. I must say I was a bit surprised that you handled the situation the way you did. A nice smile and walk away, and then what could the other person do? We don't have to bring ourselves down to another's level, unless we allow that to happen.

      Take care!!
      Genesta

    37. Yes, the subject of money can trigger emotional responses in me.

      After working in a fast food restaurant in my youth and handling hundreds of dollars each shift, that charge has been significantly lessened. It's paper with green ink on it, and it does have value for what it can be exchanged for. The emotional charge on money has significantly reduced the longer I associate with people who are financially wealthy... I pick up on their calmness and confidence regarding money.

      I felt your fierce love toward that man. He is not required to be grateful for your volunteered time. It's not your business even if he spread wild rumors or talked badly of you to other attendees. However, I felt it is appropriate to use your approach when he whined directly at you. In that face to face instance you became his teacher/guru. In the least you were impressing upon him to Stop Whining and be responsible for one's own results. That is definitely an act of love.

      Randy, I feel you were using your own ego in service to help someone break through their stale thinking. Sometimes shock value, done from a place of love, is the only way to jar one out of one's protective ego.... sometimes when confronted with such a situation, it was easier for me to let go of my ego by saying "you know, you're right" because the evidence was overwhelmingly stronger for my teacher's point of view. The disparity was so great that it was like being accelerated forward by a mile to join the winner's circle instead of "losing" the race by a proverbial nose of accomplishment.

      The key here was that you already accomplished what he wanted and you gave him time to get his own method going. If you had criticized him when he was simply getting started (or working toward accomplishment in a different field) then I would have deemed your response inappropriate.

    38. “I had a vision of a way we could have no enemies ever again, if you’re interested in this. Anybody interested in hearing this?

      It’s kind of an interesting theory, and all we have to do is make one decisive act and we can rid the world of all our enemies at once.

      Here’s what we do.

      You know all that money we spend on nuclear weapons and defense every year? Trillions of dollars.

      Instead, if we spent that money feeding and clothing the poor of the world, which it would pay for many times over, not one human being excluded … not one … we could as one race explore inner and outer space together in peace, for ever.”

      billhicks.com

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