Last week we talked about the unconditional acceptance of animals and children. It raises an interesting question about when things happen to you. When is it “fate” and when should you try to overcome them?
When I don’t wash my cars, I don’t think it’s fate that made them dirty. When I have five pounds of extra weight I’m carrying around, I don’t blame that on fate either. And when I fail at something, I don’t justify or validate it by suggesting it is my destiny...
I know that the ultimate responsibility is always mine. I never use fate as an excuse not to do something. But when I attempt something and the results are out of my hands – then I look for another avenue.
The perfect example was when I was shopping for my apartment. I viewed a two-story penthouse in a building under construction and decided I wanted to own it. But when I went back the next day to put down the deposit, I learned someone had put a contract on it the evening before.
I had no control over this person who bought that penthouse. Worrying about it, doing affirmations, or getting a voodoo doll were not going to serve me. So I let it go, without attachment. I knew that if that place was in my highest good I would have it, and if not, there was something better for me.
And that was exactly the case…
The developer ended up two years behind schedule and all the promised stores and restaurants in the retail mall on the ground floor are still empty. I’m so glad I ended up with the place I did.
So what about you?
When do you decide that the universe is sending you a message to change course, or how do you know when it’s a test you’re supposed to overcome? Please share your thoughts on this, and next post I’ll tell you how I decide.