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The Rules.

By Randy Gage in Critical Thinking, Success, Prosperity.

Been getting lots of people asking if I’m going to weigh in on the debate raging in the comments section, over my use of a curse word in the Do the Work! post.  Ah…no. 

Not because I’m against dissent or people not agreeing with me.  Love that and always love a good debate.  But I’m looking for debates on the ideas.

Last time I checked, there were about 30 comments below the post:  Ten on Do the Work!, the brilliant book, and about 20 discussing my use of a curse word when writing about the book.  Something seems wrong with that picture.

I’m a wordsmith.  It’s what I do.  At my essence, I’m really a copywriter.  I write in the hope of causing people to act.  So the words I employ are chosen on purpose, never by languor, chance, or coincidence.  So you might think I’d delight in the debate to defend my choice of this or any other word.  No.  Because to do so would be to break the rules I have for my art.

So for those of you interested, here are the rules I follow for my work.  Feel free to adopt them or adapt them for your own work:

The Rules.

Don’t defend the work.  The work is the work.

Don’t debate the work.  The work is the work.

Don’t feed the trolls.  Some people come from different agendas and want to attack the motives for the work or the artist who did the work.  (Which, to be clear, I didn’t think anyone was doing in this situation.)  Never get drawn into that, because there is the road to endless distractions.

Do defend and debate the ideas in the work.  That’s when things get really interesting.

Do allow people to challenge your beliefs.  That’s where the best breakthroughs live.

Don’t allow people to challenge your confidence.  You have enough self-doubt already, you don’t need to collect any more.  Tell your truth as you know it and let it stand.

Don’t try to please everybody.  In fact, do the opposite:  try to piss some people off, because if you did, then you’re probably doing something challenging, something fresh and something relevant.

These then are my rules.  For me.  You set your rules.  But they’re for you.

-RG

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97 thoughts on “The Rules.

  1. LeneJytteHansen says:

    LOVE!!!!

  2. LeneJytteHansen says:

    LOVE!!!!

  3. haroldgardner says:

    I do think that sometimes word choices are off putting enough to make it tough to hear the work.

  4. haroldgardner says:

    I do think that sometimes word choices are off putting enough to make it tough to hear the work.

  5. Love them rules, Defend or Debate, perhaps a bit of both. The challenges are all still there at the end of the day, so just Do,

  6. Love them rules, Defend or Debate, perhaps a bit of both. The challenges are all still there at the end of the day, so just Do,

  7. RCToyPalace says:

    Excellent post, Randy!  Don’t despair, though, much of the Bible is debated over single words, rather than entire concepts.

  8. RCToyPalace says:

    Excellent post, Randy!  Don’t despair, though, much of the Bible is debated over single words, rather than entire concepts.

  9. Agreed Randy! The beauty of entrepreneurship is the ability to be our own boss and create our own rules. In my rule book, I follow The Golden Rule. That’s one of my two core values and the rule I choose to guide my thoughts, words and actions.
     
    Ultimately, when we are true to who we are and tap in to our authentic power, we will attract those who are seeking the message we share — and the ones who are clamoring to make noise will always be there to just make noise. Hey, someone has to be the noisemaker, while the serious ones are getting the job done!
     
    ;-)~ CLB

  10. Agreed Randy! The beauty of entrepreneurship is the ability to be our own boss and create our own rules. In my rule book, I follow The Golden Rule. That’s one of my two core values and the rule I choose to guide my thoughts, words and actions.
     
    Ultimately, when we are true to who we are and tap in to our authentic power, we will attract those who are seeking the message we share — and the ones who are clamoring to make noise will always be there to just make noise. Hey, someone has to be the noisemaker, while the serious ones are getting the job done!
     
    ;-)~ CLB

  11. million dollar says:

    Try to piss some people off 🙂 love it

  12. million dollar says:

    Try to piss some people off 🙂 love it

  13. Bob Choat says:

    Well stated Randy!  I’ve had the same thing regarding some of my words, especially on social media. Ignore and move forward!  It matters not if some don’t get me.  Their perception is their perception.  So what.

  14. Bob Choat says:

    Well stated Randy!  I’ve had the same thing regarding some of my words, especially on social media. Ignore and move forward!  It matters not if some don’t get me.  Their perception is their perception.  So what.

  15. ibedz says:

    interesting read thanks

  16. ibedz says:

    interesting read thanks

  17. Randy, great insight.  All true.  Be true to yourself and dont bother with those trying to tear you down.  It will be a waste of effort as you say.  Focus on building up your positive following and doing what you know is right!

  18. Randy, great insight.  All true.  Be true to yourself and dont bother with those trying to tear you down.  It will be a waste of effort as you say.  Focus on building up your positive following and doing what you know is right!

  19. Allen Bauer says:

    This one is my favorite – “Don’t try to please everybody. In fact, do the opposite: try to piss some people off, because if you did, then you’re probably doing something challenging, something fresh and something relevant.” – Randy Gage

  20. Allen Bauer says:

    This one is my favorite – “Don’t try to please everybody. In fact, do the opposite: try to piss some people off, because if you did, then you’re probably doing something challenging, something fresh and something relevant.” – Randy Gage

  21. I can totally appreciate that. It seems good to have rules, or guidelines going in. That way you’ve already decided how to handle a situation and can be less likely to make “in the moment” decisions. Good stuff.

  22. I can totally appreciate that. It seems good to have rules, or guidelines going in. That way you’ve already decided how to handle a situation and can be less likely to make “in the moment” decisions. Good stuff.

  23. iceburner says:

    The principles all the rules are based on is what I am always looking for. I like this set.  Real close to what happens if you ignore gravity.  Thank you Randy.

  24. iceburner says:

    The principles all the rules are based on is what I am always looking for. I like this set.  Real close to what happens if you ignore gravity.  Thank you Randy.

  25. Right you are Randy. It really is that easy. So to summarzie “just work” 😉
     
    Kind regards from Germany
     
    Hansjörg
     
    http://www.der-bank-blog.de

  26. Right you are Randy. It really is that easy. So to summarzie “just work” 😉
     
    Kind regards from Germany
     
    Hansjörg
     
    http://www.der-bank-blog.de

  27. cjtoshea says:

    If you get offended, you’ll get over it…

  28. cjtoshea says:

    If you get offended, you’ll get over it…

  29. Diane Gonzalez says:

    WOW, I feel really silly – I had to go back and read the post – I didn’t even notice the curse word the first time – it just wasn’t the focus of the posting!!! People – really? That’s the only thing you saw in that post??

  30. Diane Gonzalez says:

    WOW, I feel really silly – I had to go back and read the post – I didn’t even notice the curse word the first time – it just wasn’t the focus of the posting!!! People – really? That’s the only thing you saw in that post??

  31. rhemaflowers says:

    Boom! Goes the dynamite!  Great comeback!

  32. rhemaflowers says:

    Boom! Goes the dynamite!  Great comeback!

  33. left_the_stars says:

    people spending time discussing a curse word in your book? Take it as a compliment, those folks taking time out of their day to visit your page, better than being ignored 🙂 Just let the trolls feed themselves, eventually they gonna feast on each other

  34. left_the_stars says:

    people spending time discussing a curse word in your book? Take it as a compliment, those folks taking time out of their day to visit your page, better than being ignored 🙂 Just let the trolls feed themselves, eventually they gonna feast on each other

  35. SunshineBaba says:

    Setting our own rules are good when the playground is own by us. I feel that it is the freedom of the owner to do so. Discussions, suggestions, criticisms are welcome but does not mean that I am going to change.

  36. SunshineBaba says:

    Setting our own rules are good when the playground is own by us. I feel that it is the freedom of the owner to do so. Discussions, suggestions, criticisms are welcome but does not mean that I am going to change.

  37. Schmoopie1 says:

    Great way to think of it. I do videos for YouTube (well ON YouTube), and I defend my work all the time, but I have learned better than to feed trolls. Thanks for the article, as it gave me a lot to think about in other areas og my life too 🙂

  38. Schmoopie1 says:

    Great way to think of it. I do videos for YouTube (well ON YouTube), and I defend my work all the time, but I have learned better than to feed trolls. Thanks for the article, as it gave me a lot to think about in other areas og my life too 🙂

  39. IanB says:

    Ha ha – well said. And I may well adopt some (more) of your rules, especially the last three.
     
    Meanwhile, I guess it’s just as well you weren’t reviewing either of John C Parkin’s excellent books (Google him if you don’t know) – not that I”d be trying to put ideas in your head or anything 😉

  40. IanB says:

    Ha ha – well said. And I may well adopt some (more) of your rules, especially the last three.
     
    Meanwhile, I guess it’s just as well you weren’t reviewing either of John C Parkin’s excellent books (Google him if you don’t know) – not that I”d be trying to put ideas in your head or anything 😉

  41. Annieb says:

    I’m pretty sure this post just broke your own rule.  Defensive much?

  42. Annieb says:

    I’m pretty sure this post just broke your own rule.  Defensive much?

  43. Jonathan1 says:

    I LOVE IT!! As long as I can remember, I’ve pissed people off with my words and actions, including my parents.. My mantra has always been “Buck Authority” (or something close to it, LOL).. It’s like you say, when everyone else is zigging its time to zag! Thanks Randy.. such a GREAT post.. And by the way, since I’m writing a screenplay right now, the use of ‘off color’ words actually adds texture.. And if people don’t like it.. Well you already know what I think!

  44. Jonathan1 says:

    I LOVE IT!! As long as I can remember, I’ve pissed people off with my words and actions, including my parents.. My mantra has always been “Buck Authority” (or something close to it, LOL).. It’s like you say, when everyone else is zigging its time to zag! Thanks Randy.. such a GREAT post.. And by the way, since I’m writing a screenplay right now, the use of ‘off color’ words actually adds texture.. And if people don’t like it.. Well you already know what I think!

  45. Annieb says:

    Okay, I guess I owe you a fucking apology for being a troll.  I never thought of it that way.  I don’t want to be a troll anymore than I want to be MOST people.  That is me feeling defensive.  Which to be honest is a lot worse than being criticized for using the word fucking.  Can’t we all just be friends for fuck sake. 
     
    Anyway, I love that show “Ancient Aliens” and that guy that created the series Giorgio Tsoukalos.  He has a really foul mouth on his fan page.  But, I just think that makes him more of a character.  And, do you know what?  He doesn’t give a flip what people say about it, he just ignores it.

  46. Annieb says:

    Okay, I guess I owe you a fucking apology for being a troll.  I never thought of it that way.  I don’t want to be a troll anymore than I want to be MOST people.  That is me feeling defensive.  Which to be honest is a lot worse than being criticized for using the word fucking.  Can’t we all just be friends for fuck sake. 
     
    Anyway, I love that show “Ancient Aliens” and that guy that created the series Giorgio Tsoukalos.  He has a really foul mouth on his fan page.  But, I just think that makes him more of a character.  And, do you know what?  He doesn’t give a flip what people say about it, he just ignores it.

  47. JeanneKidd says:

    I haven’t had a chance to read the controversial post or comments, but I love your rules!

  48. JeanneKidd says:

    I haven’t had a chance to read the controversial post or comments, but I love your rules!

  49. Gutenmaher says:

    This is the UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE OF BUSINESS! Here in Eastern Europe we already learned it!

  50. Gutenmaher says:

    This is the UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE OF BUSINESS! Here in Eastern Europe we already learned it!

  51. At the end of the day all that matters is that WE are happy with what we have said, wrote, taught, inspired, Engaged… And we are NEVER going to Please everybody anyways…

  52. At the end of the day all that matters is that WE are happy with what we have said, wrote, taught, inspired, Engaged… And we are NEVER going to Please everybody anyways…

  53. msmir says:

    Yep what makes you happy and what you are passionate about is going to turn some people off. And of course we cannot please everyone. The world would be pretty boring if EVERYONE agreed with you.

  54. msmir says:

    Yep what makes you happy and what you are passionate about is going to turn some people off. And of course we cannot please everyone. The world would be pretty boring if EVERYONE agreed with you.

  55. Stick to “Know Thy Self” – This will ensure you piss people off..
     
    Jack
    http://www.howtoovercomedepressionnow.net

  56. Stick to “Know Thy Self” – This will ensure you piss people off..
     
    Jack
    http://www.howtoovercomedepressionnow.net

  57. Tarogh Neisi says:

    are you in qnet mr gage???

  58. Tarogh Neisi says:

    are you in qnet mr gage???

  59. dang… love your brilliance…

  60. dang… love your brilliance…

  61. Beautifulsongs says:

    Don’t try to please everybody! Thats got to be the most difficult one for me!

  62. Beautifulsongs says:

    Don’t try to please everybody! Thats got to be the most difficult one for me!

  63. Midaspro says:

    Yet again some more great ideas from Randy to add to my ‘phucket list’
     
    Not allowing people to challenge my beliefs. Phucket!
    Allowing people to challenge my confidence. Phucket!
    Trying to please everybody. Phucket!

  64. Midaspro says:

    Yet again some more great ideas from Randy to add to my ‘phucket list’
     
    Not allowing people to challenge my beliefs. Phucket!
    Allowing people to challenge my confidence. Phucket!
    Trying to please everybody. Phucket!

  65. BridieChristopher says:

    Why not dicsuss one rule at a time?  after all they are not rules but rather personal standards one may adopt in life

  66. BridieChristopher says:

    Why not dicsuss one rule at a time?  after all they are not rules but rather personal standards one may adopt in life

  67. GummBarry says:

    I am with bridie here Randy,   thanks for letting us know your rules, or standards in your life, afterall if you don;t stand for something you will fall for everything

  68. GummBarry says:

    I am with bridie here Randy,   thanks for letting us know your rules, or standards in your life, afterall if you don;t stand for something you will fall for everything

  69. lusundraeverett says:

    My favorite is ‘Don’t feed the trolls’…

  70. lusundraeverett says:

    My favorite is ‘Don’t feed the trolls’…

  71. RevampYourMind1 says:

    like it

  72. RevampYourMind1 says:

    like it

  73. Ian Wright says:

    Diverse perspectives are healthy!

  74. Ian Wright says:

    Diverse perspectives are healthy!

  75. AngusWhitton says:

    There’s some healthy perspective there!

  76. AngusWhitton says:

    There’s some healthy perspective there!

  77. MarkReynolds says:

    All sounds good.  The only quandary is that in this post you are responding to the other post (had a quick look just now, thought it was great), and therefore in effect you are defending your work and engaging in discussion about it.  Actually I think that’s good – it’s just that it’s what you started out in this post saying that you won’t do.

    1. Annieb says:

      @MarkReynolds I agree with you.  The post itself is a contradiction.  But, I think that it’s okay to defend your work also. 🙂

  78. MarkReynolds says:

    All sounds good.  The only quandary is that in this post you are responding to the other post (had a quick look just now, thought it was great), and therefore in effect you are defending your work and engaging in discussion about it.  Actually I think that’s good – it’s just that it’s what you started out in this post saying that you won’t do.

  79. Annieb says:

    @MarkReynolds I agree with you.  The post itself is a contradiction.  But, I think that it’s okay to defend your work also. 🙂

  80. Annieb says:

    “Don’t allow people to challenge your confidence. You have enough self-doubt already you don’t need to collect more.”   Hmmm………..  Randy, why does a NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR, have self doubt?  Here’s what I think, (since I am self admitted troll anyway) you should scrap all these rules, and follow one.  “KNOW THYSELF”    When you have faith and belief in your work and yourself, you will automatically know what to do when challenges arise.

  81. Annieb says:

    “Don’t allow people to challenge your confidence. You have enough self-doubt already you don’t need to collect more.”   Hmmm………..  Randy, why does a NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR, have self doubt?  Here’s what I think, (since I am self admitted troll anyway) you should scrap all these rules, and follow one.  “KNOW THYSELF”    When you have faith and belief in your work and yourself, you will automatically know what to do when challenges arise.

  82. candacemountain says:

    I think those are very good rules to live by.

  83. candacemountain says:

    I think those are very good rules to live by.

  84. mendy7 says:

    Good Idea!
    10

  85. mendy7 says:

    Good Idea!
    10

  86. anthonydevine2010 says:

    You can’t please all the people all the time, some just love to people just need to focus on the negative! What a great life!!

  87. anthonydevine2010 says:

    You can’t please all the people all the time, some just love to people just need to focus on the negative! What a great life!!

  88. ViolaTam says:

    Hi Randy,
     
    I was fortunate to learn early on in life that I can not please everyone. I live my life according to my highest values. This has helped me to keep my focus. Whenever I am faced with challenges, I tell myself that I cannot please everyone. It is about living an authentic life. We all have different values. not everyone would agree with mine. That is okay.
     
    Thanks, Randy!
     
    Viola The Business Mum

  89. ViolaTam says:

    Hi Randy,
     
    I was fortunate to learn early on in life that I can not please everyone. I live my life according to my highest values. This has helped me to keep my focus. Whenever I am faced with challenges, I tell myself that I cannot please everyone. It is about living an authentic life. We all have different values. not everyone would agree with mine. That is okay.
     
    Thanks, Randy!
     
    Viola The Business Mum

  90. DrJulissa says:

    Well said. ‘Do what needs to be done so to be challenging.’ Love it.

  91. DrJulissa says:

    Well said. ‘Do what needs to be done so to be challenging.’ Love it.

  92. Randy – I love the simplicity, clarity and truth of these rules!

  93. Randy – I love the simplicity, clarity and truth of these rules!

 

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