By Randy Gage in Critical Thinking, Success, Prosperity.
It’s fall here in the Northern Hemisphere, but I’m thinking about spring cleaning. Though not in the customary way. I’m talking about people…
Because here is something you will discover on your path to self-development: You work on yourself every day. You grow. You develop a higher consciousness. Then one day you wake up and notice something…
Some of the people around you were brought in when you were operating at a much lower consciousness. And they haven’t been on the same path of self-development you have.
It could be a massage therapist who has negative energy you never noticed before. It could be a vendor you’re doing business with that you would never select today. Or it could be a close personal relationship.
People aren’t required to meet your standards. But you have every right to decide the kind of people you want to interact with, do business with and be in relationship with. And if you value yourself and have proper self-esteem – you’ll exercise that right.
I LOVE this post. Every post I read from you feels like it was written directly to my soul. Much love, Shawne
Awesome post! Difficult when it's someone close but we have to take care of ourselves & stop perpetuating the cycle when relationships are broken. Thx for a great post X
Yet another amazing post Randy! So true as Jonathan1 and mdsuburbs have already pointed out quite well. Another point that I have experienced is people that are not operating on your wavelength as you grow will try to knock down your ideas with negativity? What I mean is that instead of embracing your dream, goal, aspiration, or vision (whatever word you want to use) and trying to look at all the ways to make it a reality, they live in the confinement zone where they only see the obstacles. Your thoughts Randy? Joy!
Goodness, I love it when I get an answer within hours of sending out the question. I was mulling, earlier today, on a long-term friendship with a business-partner, wondering how to (or if I should) reduce the amount of "friendship" time I spend on her. She's not "a negative person" (she's perfectly happy being who & how she is) but for some reason she triggers uncomfortable emotions in me; "personality clash" might be the best description.
Randy says that I " have every right to decide the kind of people you want to interact with, do business with and be in relationship with. And if you value yourself and have proper self-esteem – you’ll exercise that right." Alright! I can exercise that right! I'll call it, the right to feel great, as much as possible. This gal doesn't feed my feeling great, so....I'll focus my energies on the newer friends.
Re-reading what I've written, I wonder: What is the definition of "a negative person"? One who is habitually looking at the dark side/worrying/pessimistic or one who, for whatever reason, lowers my vibration? Or something else.
This post makes my stomach hurt. Does this mean I have to go away again? I don't like the idea of spring cleaning people like a speck of dust to be mopped away. But, I understand what your saying, sometimes you have to move on. But, the way you put it causes me to feel a chill. Just think how all your friends out there with abandonment issues must feel. :(
Amen, Brother. Sometimes it's tough to get the negative people out of your life because they love to hang around. I also have a misplaced sense of loyalty. Kinda like the massage therapist example. If I've been going for awhile, I feel like I should stick it out with her/him. Know what I mean?
Same way with people. I have a friend who is pretty negative. He's also a past client (I'm a real estate guy) and he has also referred someone to me. I don't necessarily want to dump him but I don't want to hang out either.
This is SO true Randy. I also think many will fall back on society's rules meaning that friendships are to last forever, even when they aren't mutual. As we grow it's important to ONLY have the sort of friends that grow along with us. Letting go can be difficult but its crucial for our own development. And thanks for your generosity to the Jedi council too! Hope the book sales are better than you dreamed!
Spot on! I've had to do this with personal relationships throughout the years. I still am very friendly with these people and love them to death, but found it necessary for my own growth to place a little distance between us. I was delicate but firm. People grow apart.