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Is Desire Good or Bad?

Buddha
By Randy Gage in Critical Thinking, Prosperity, Success.

a/k/a Zen and the Art of Manifestation Maintenance

I just watched a moving holiday video from a charity I support (which will remain nameless).   It was gripping, emotional, and absolutely filled with negative memes.  While I love that charity and what they are trying to accomplish, I can’t promote that video because it’s so riddled with subliminal programming about lack and limitation.

Asceticism tells us the secret to happiness is reducing our desires.  And I’ve written often about the hypocritical and damaging programming of many organized religions on the subjects of money and material things.  I have a Buddhist text I’m reading right now, and one of the aphorisms in it reads, “How bitter life is when we have desires!  Our demands on others will bring us endless misery.”

Seriously?

Just take a minute and really process that statement.  The Marxist-Leninist connotations of this are simply mind-blowing.  (And if you believe Communism is actually prosperous for the masses, you’re reading the wrong blog.)  A little later in the text (written by a highly-esteemed Buddhist nun) it says, “If we can reduce our desires, there is nothing really worth getting upset about.”

Well that’s true.  Of course it would also mean there is nothing really worth getting passionate about either.  My take on all this:  Sometimes it’s good to get upset and some things are worth getting upset about – just as some things deserve getting passionate about them.

My self-imposed sabbatical has been liberating and illuminating for me is so many ways.  And a perfect environment to study the role of money and material things in happiness and meaning.

It is frequently said that the first step on the path to Buddhism is to lesson our desires and be content with what we have.  And I believe any philosophy of gratitude for what you possess will certainly take you closer to prosperity.  Unless you carry it to extreme and believe that happiness comes from a linear path of downgrading your desires.  The journey down that path usually leads only to mediocrity.

You will see a similar arc in service to others: To willingly undergo hardship or sacrifice for the sake of helping others is love and compassion in action.  To do it all the time is dysfunctional – and likely the symptom of larger, unaddressed worthiness issues.

Please.  Have compassion and be generous.  And make sure you include yourself in that.  Because if I have learned anything after studying prosperity for 25 years, it is this:

The single biggest threat to your success you will ever face, is thinking small. 

As I reflect on my life (thus far), I’ve experienced many things that have brought me great happiness.  Simple sunsets, walks on the beach or gazing at the stars can bring you peace, harmony and joy.  So can the joy of firing up a sports car engine, being front row at an amazing concert, or watching one of those sunsets from the balcony of an ocean front suite in Tahiti or Fiji.  Think big and don’t just limit yourself to the free things, or forsake all the material things.

There is much to be said for discontent and dissatisfaction…

When properly channeled those emotions drive us to have more, do more and especially, become more.

The sabbatical is right for me because I reached a place in my life where I was beginning to feel my things owned me, instead of the other way around.  That’s why I felt the need to uproot, start with a blank canvas and begin writing a new chapter in my life.

But make no mistake:  I’m certainly not living as an ascetic.  I’m building a new home, surrounding myself with beautiful works of art, and collecting many new and exquisite things.  But those things don’t define me or own me; they simply bring more joy, harmony and prosperity into my life.

The holiday season is not about Black Friday sales, buying HD televisions, and going into debt.  I hope you celebrate it in a style and custom that brings yet more abundance into your life.  Spend some time with family and friends who bring joy into your life.  Support Toys for Tots or similar charities that provide help to the less fortunate.  Make a call, send an email, or pay a personal visit to someone who needs it.  Think who you know who might be “orphaned” this time of year and invite them to a gathering.

In addition, please give yourself permission to celebrate the material things that enhance the lives of you and yours… 

As you look towards the New Year, kick start your ambition, set some big goals, and develop more desires.  If those desires are congruent with your purpose in life, they will take you closer to prosperity, not further away from it.

A person with a generous heart lives a blessed life and celebrates every day as a holiday.  And a person with a dream in their heart is striving for something more, and thus truly living each day as a holiday as well.

And that is my holiday wish for you!

-RG

Randy Gage is the author of nine international bestsellers, including, Why You’re DUMB, SICK & BROKE, and How to Get SMART, HEALTHY and RICH!  When he’s not fighting the forces of evil, or locked in his lonely writer’s garret, you’ll probably find him playing third base on a softball field somewhere.

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Sanzhar
Sanzhar

Hello Dear Randy!

All this time i was thinking particularly about this topic. And i would like to share some of my ideas with every interested person. First, Desire - is an engine of your dream or highest form of it. That something which drives you and at the time, something which strengthens you; Second - ca be desire bad? Yes, if your dreams (i`m sorry) will be unrealistic comparing to your current possiblities. And if you will keep "dreaming"  like this, you may hurt your soul and that my friends may lead you to long depression or self-delusion. Third - how to put yourself in a flow? I think it`s simple, there`s always a starting point in your life, no need to spend long hours on how to find it. Just radically change the way you used to think about prosperity and your place in this life, quote from this topic: THINK BIG AND ONLY BIG!!!!! For GOD sake, precious life is given to us, to take and try so much ways, methods of how to become RICH, financially independent and etc. IMHO, to think Small - is a Sin no better than poverty. I mean, to think low is a resign from GOD gave opportunities. So be more active and probably most biggest challenge is to find will and courage within yourself to implement positive innovations in your life! 

And i truly wish to all of you - INFINITE PROSPERITY BOTH MENTAL AND MATERIALISTIC!!! 

:))

Talking about abundance, i highly recommend to read or listen Jacque Fresco`s books and interviews. I`m pretty sure, you`ll gonna like it! For me most interesting was - resource based economy and future views on that issue. For example, when you pick a fruit from a tree, it doesn`t demand any payment from you. And as a major hope - one day when science will create an apparatus like "Replicator" from Star Trek, that day will be an End of the scarcity!

Just think of it!!!!! :))

p.s. your friend Sanzhar

and ughh .... sorry for my english )))     


souravghosh
souravghosh

Yes! This question confused me for a long time. Being born and brought up in a religious middle class Indian family, wanting more has always been discouraged. Most of the religious texts suggested to let go of all desires. But I found it strange that the God portrayed in these texts didn't seem to let go all kinds of desires. I'm glad then I got right guidance from different people, who taught me the real Indian spiritual philosophy - to be a 'Rajarshi' which means being Raja (King) in your outer world and Rishi ( saint) in your inner world. I could relate to this philosophy observing most successful people on earth. 
I kept learning more about prosperity when I started following people like Randy sir. Now I can feel in my heart that true success is being abundant in every areas of our lives. Letting go of all desires to get peace seems like taking the easier path or staying in the comfort zone. What's the point in living that life without any aim or goal or passion? Is that living or just existing? 

leslieespaillat
leslieespaillat

An example that comes to mind about desire is Mother Teresa. She was a Superstar Marketing whiz who made her dreams come true. She knew it took lots of greens (and I'm not talking about vegetables) to accomplish her desire to help others. She left a legacy because of desire.

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

Really intrigueing, healthy conversation happening here!  Totally appreciative of this platform RG..


we need more conversations like this throughout the world.  It reminds me of an affirmation: (which begins) Jesus Christ is now here, raising me up to HIS consciousness of the omnipresent God substance, and my prosperity is assured.. (etc) ref: Prosperity by Charles Fillmore

Matt Shorty Wells
Matt Shorty Wells

I understand the word desire translates as "of the father" 

#JustSaying 

dennijordanrealtor
dennijordanrealtor

Excellent blog Randy. There are a lot of mind viruses out there and we have to really discern who we allow to give us information. I am becoming more and more of a critical thinker as I get older.

Annieb
Annieb

Randy, I like how you answered the question you posed.  This is what I got from the post, that desire is good it helps us to grow, and live a better life.  Desire is only bad if it enslaves us.  I think Buddhist principle is about living in the present, and when we do that we are better able to understand our desires, and work towards the ones that will bring us the most good.

I don't hate what I believe communist theory to be, because I view communist theory as a way to also save ourselves.  It is also selfish to be communist, in my opinion (selfish in the Ayn Rand manner) because by raising up the masses to a higher form of living benefits us all.  I don't think it behooves any of us though to try to be the same or for everyone to have the same. I believe in benefitting from effort and talent.

Having said that, no communist county before now and those currently existing actually practice true communism, just as we here in America don't practice true democracy.  Anyway, I have learned so much from you and your blog, not that I am a communist, but I still definitely have socialist leanings.  :)

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

The one who isa "slave" of his desires,

,which he can't control and manage them

is like an addicted to drugs

Pooja Basu
Pooja Basu

Desire is beautiful, the root of all energy, the root of all ultimate manifestation. Like electricity it can be used in any direction - to cook a meal that sustains life or to end a human life in an electric chair!

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

Prosperity consciousness relates we should become the "master" of our divine desires rather than the "slave" of desires, nest-ce pas?

maryellen514
maryellen514

You know, I've been reflecting on my life, reading this blog on " Is desire good or bad". The only way I think this question can truly be answered is by asking ourselves what desire means to us. Desire for me, used to mean, having all the things I thought would bring me happiness. Then, once you get all those things that you jump through a million different hoops to get, you ask yourself, "is this all there is?". You wake up one day, surrounded by people who text you to go to Maryland for Crabcakes in their private jets, after you so excitedly agree, and fumble through your closet of Armani, thinking that if you don't look just right, they might kick you out of the club. Then you reflect on how crappy the crab cakes were, how ungentlemanly the company was, and how lonely you still felt after it all. Then if you are one of the blessed ones, you start questioning everything. You start to understand that you are exactly where you are because it was exactly what you wanted.

Not looking to depress anyone, it's been a great ride but ultimately you learn from all your life experiences. The relationships that were all wrong, the time that was wasted, and you at some point, come to the end of yourself. That's where the miracles happen. When you get out of the way and realize that desires are God given emotions. It's what the desire is, that steers the ship. If our hearts are not true, the passion will only lead to destruction. It will just be one more lesson to learn. One more tragedy to overcome. But...... If our hearts are sincere, and our love is genuine, then the passion that evolves from that will only be good....because it ultimately will lead to a place where we can say..... Thank you God,

maryellen514
maryellen514

Thanks Mr. Home Biz. I would agree with your quote and if you will allow me to add to it, " It's in the ability to humble ourselves, that we find gratitude and gratitude in it's purest form is about love, and love in it's truest form is knowing God. When you understand how much God loves you, it's the beginning of the transformation. If you get quiet and look around, you can see God in everything. From that perspective, nothing is threatening, nothing is lacking, and abundance is there. It all starts with the seeds we choose to sow.

HomebizTrainer
HomebizTrainer

Great to hear from you as always.  Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes. "Gratitude is the only assurance for abundance."

Bashir Mahmud
Bashir Mahmud

It is good to have desire who are those that said it's not good, comments are coming later am about to sleep.

maryellen514
maryellen514

I hit the send button before I could finish my grocery story, so if anyone is interested, here's the end.

So I give this mom the money and told her that I could see that she was in a place where I had been. I told her that I believed God put me in that place at that time to bless her. I wished her a blessed holiday season. She could not even speak as I continued down the isle. You don't get to do things like that unless you have more than enough. You can't be a blessing to others if your barns are not full. So I guess the moral of my story is, Embrace money, use your God given talent and put it to work. Don't wait until you are senile before you use your mind and talents to passionately become the person God so uniquely made you to be. Don't buy the crap about settling. Don't listen to anyone who tells you that you can't do it. And don't point fingers, especially the middle one, at the guy driving the Bentley. We all have a choice to make each and every day and I believe that we all make up our minds to be as happy or as miserable as we choose to be.

Bitrus Diffa
Bitrus Diffa

It's good but don't be selfish, prideful or malicious.

SELO
SELO

Buddhism is not about eschewing desires. 

It is a lot about compassion. It is therefore wrong to compare it with something as mundane as 'owning' stuff esp. money. As you have highlighted in many places.. happiness is not about owning stuff, the title may be with you... for a limited period of time, but then you keep moving on without getting stuck with that 'Title'. 


Having Compassion-- for all including oneself,  would be a better way of interpreting Buddhism rather than eschewing desire completely.

Anonymrockstar
Anonymrockstar

It`s simple. Money is result of giving value to other people. More given value = more money (for pleasure or giving away). If someone does not want to benefit to society he is A-hole. Period.

Marian Buštík
Marian Buštík

Prosperita je pozitivní a plná hojnosti. Ano mnohé charity a nadace jsou opravdu prošpikovené nedostatkem, zlobou, a negativními slovy.

Cindy O'Connell
Cindy O'Connell

I do understand what those spiritual teachings are trying to do, but I agree, they unfortunately keep us thinking that being less, being small, means we are better people and more spiritual. However, is it not God who designed us and also designed us to have desire? Without desire, the human race would have died a long time ago. Desire was placed inside of us by God, and to deny that is just crazy. To harness greed, worship of money and things, is a wise thing, and should be practiced by both rich AND poor, but I want to be one who lives with desire and passion. Otherwise, I would never have found Kurt :)

million dollar
million dollar

Great to hear from you again Randy !


I also start with a blank canvas in my life. 2014 is going to be my year.

Think big !

Jonathan1
Jonathan1

I'm sure we've all read "Think and Grow Rich" and Hill emphasizes that desire is one of the KEY elements we MUST incorporate in order to 'grow rich'. And then there's over doing things. As you came to realize yourself, collecting more and more and more doesn't make you happy; in fact as you've so astutely stated, you become a slave to 'more'. Gratitude is our connection to power (Wallace Wattles) and being grateful for EVERY blade of grass, a sunny day, the roof over our heads, family, friends, love, Joy and possibility is where our focus must be. And the highest and best good we can achieve begins with US individually. I agree completely that being in service, when our own needs may not have been met yet is unproductive. Having recently read "Anthem" again, it became crystal clear we MUST put our own happiness FIRST. And for the record, my dream grows all the time..I AM THE DREAM. Thanks Randy.. as always very profound even if I don't agree with verse and phrase :)

Rainer Proksch
Rainer Proksch

Hello Randy,

The single biggest threat to your success you will ever face, is thinking small. 

I think the wish inside everybody is big - but only for seconds or a part of it. Through the thinking we make it small. Try to prolongate the seconds into minutes and look what happens.

I wish Merry Christmas 


Turiya
Turiya

Dear Randy, I am not an expert on Buddhism, but to my understanding, their aim is to prepare for life after this one, for Nirvana. The Nirvana is understood to be the top bliss ever achieved and greatest material joy, happiness, achievement (you name it) cannot even compare to it.
If you desire something material, you are unhappy, because you do not have. When you get the thing, you fear you might lose it. And when you actually lose it, there is a misery again. Thus Buddha says: “The only effort of any intelligent person in this world ought to be to know something, which cannot be destroyed by death.“
Now, if Nirvana exists (who knows) and if being free from desires brings you there, then giving up material things/desires is the most noble goal of all, isn´t it? And most selfish one as well.
After all, you yourself state: "Sometimes you must say 'no' to the good stuff, so that later you can say 'yes' to the best stuff!"

Turiya
Turiya

Dear Randy, I am not an expert on Buddhism, but to my understanding, their aim is to prepare for life after this one, for Nirvana. The Nirvana is understood to be the top bliss ever achieved and greatest material joy, happiness, achievement (you name it) cannot even compare to it.
If you desire something material, you are unhappy, because you do not have. When you get the thing, you fear you might lose it. And when you actually lose it, there is a misery again. Thus Buddha says: “The only effort of any intelligent person in this world ought to be to know something, which cannot be destroyed by death.“
Now, if Nirvana exists (who knows) and if being free from desires brings you there, then giving up material things/desires is the most noble goal of all, isn´t it? And most selfish one as well.
After all, you yourself state: "Sometimes you must say 'no' to the good stuff, so that later you can say 'yes' to the best stuff!"

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

Money doesn't buy happiness, neither does poverty! :)"

Generally one who has a dollar wants two even if he has scads of money

it isn't enough to some persons

I prefer to live life of creative desire, which gives the meaning to

the life. Creative desire gives the motivation to act toward a

meaningful goal ,and makes the life  valuable 

Leeloo
Leeloo

It was great to hear from you, ....wishing you happy Holidays, Randy!


P.S.

if the lines of the Buddhism would have stated to not have too many wishes at once but rather put them in a row and work on all of them one after the other, their message would be clearer (to me) and maybe even more adjustable to life in the 21st century -

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

@souravghosh

You are a 'Rajarshi' which means being Raja (King) in your outer world and Rishi ( saint) in your inner world

Michael Oliver's wrote a book about natural selling, which was a best seller book.In this book there is a good saying like this,God wants youbeing rich and prosperous,it means that you all of you are allowed to desire to be prosperous persons


souravghosh
souravghosh

@leslieespaillat You reminded me one of her amazing lines "If you want to help the poor, first make sure you are not one of them." :-) 

souravghosh
souravghosh

@dennijordanrealtor Right you are! As Richard Bach said in his book "Hypnotizing Maria" - everyone is trying to hypnotize us every single moment in our lives. And whom we allow to hypnotize us, program our mind determines the quality of our lives. 

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

@Lea SedanIf you are NOT currently a slave to your desires, you would have manifested Unlimited prosperity such as Randy Gage has done..

and you could manifest whatever you want
"at will"  and writing a blog like RG's Prosperity blog ~ I'm talking about a much deeper knowledge & understanding of "original being & divine mind", and the Dynamic Laws of Prosperity

souravghosh
souravghosh

You are right Poojadi. Your example reminded me of what Bob Proctor said in the movie 'The Secret'. Btw what do you think of common perception of 'desire' in our country? Don't you think our religions have brainwashed people into believing there is something spiritual in being poor? 

[ P.S. I was checking your Facebook profile. Found that you are a writer! That's great. Can I get connected & have some tips on writing and book publishing? Only if it's okay with you. Btw beautiful Christmas pic :-) ] 

HomebizTrainer
HomebizTrainer

@maryellen514 I believe in a loving god that is omni present and all knowing.  Due to my programming of a judgemental god from a very young age it took many years to get to the understanding of an all loving god.  Thanks for sharing.

Randy_Gage
Randy_Gage moderator

@TuriyaYes there are many who interpret Buddhism this way, sacrificing happiness in this life on the bet that there is a better deal in the afterlife.  And I consider that is even more crazy and dysfunctional. 

-RG

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

@PeterGHorrill@Lea Sedan

'Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve- Napoleon Hill . i like everyone else, could  manifest whatever i want "at will,it's depended on what   and how much,time mony and so on, which i am willing to invest and dedict for getting  my dreams to become in reality.When someone has a motivation to act toward a goal,anything is posible.The sky is the limit. 


maryellen514
maryellen514

@HomebizTrainer@maryellen514 Me too. I had so much religious babble and tradition and sin consciousness shoved down my throat, it's a wonder I was able to study the bible and educate myself on the truth. I too believe in an Omni present and all knowing God. And yes I believe by faith in the unseen but I have also experienced so many beautiful manifestations along the way that have made me fully aware of God. I may be alone, but I'm never alone. I feel the presence of God always with me.

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

@Lea Sedan I'm very happy I could provide info that's conduscive to you attracting "prosperity consciousness".. 

kudos to you for having the interest and energy to self evolve and "self direct" on the right path!

Congrats!

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

@PeterGHorrill@Lea Sedan

Thank you very much. i read the book "As A Man Thinketh", (by James Allen).becaus Randy Gage recomwnded on it in his blog,It's excellent book.

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

@Lea Sedan@PeterGHorrillYour very welcome Lea!   There a recent link to the twelve powers book, on my twitter  posts. you're welcome to follow me on twitter peterghorrill


I bought both books for under 5$ a ebooks through amazon for example.. such an amazing wealth of knowledge!  ` A GOLD MINE!


I consider these both (any books by Charles Fillmore) as equall to "As A Man Thinketh", (by James Allen) which you got to get for your library!

What you don't know about the law of Prosperity, you can really gain much in lack of understanding from all these books, as well of course from Randy Gage's Prosperity cd's & books. :)

Lea Sedan
Lea Sedan

@PeterGHorrill@Lea Sedan

Thank you for your advice.Tt's always good to learn something new and interesting 

I am looking for these books in the internent and Amazon. 

PeterGHorrill
PeterGHorrill

@Lea Sedan@PeterGHorrill Study these two books by Charles Filmore: Prosperity & The Twelve Powers of Man

These books are crucial to your understanding of your "prosperity powers" and manifesting your dreams.

The only lack is the "lack of appropriation".. understand "appropriation", that is the key.


if manifesting is dependant on , (quoting you)  and how much,time mony and so on..

it's not manifesting "at will"

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