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Childhood Prosperity Issues

By Randy Gage in Critical Thinking, Success, Prosperity.

The last few posts we’ve explored how entities like governments and organized religion can program you to sabotage yourself.  This is done with insidious programming to believe you are not worthy.  But they aren’t alone.  There are lots of other situations that can foster worthiness issues.  Let’s look at some prevalent ones that begin in childhood…

If you find you were raised in any of these scenarios, there’s a high probability that you’re riddled with self-defeating mind viruses and/or negative beliefs about success and money.

One or both your parents were an alcoholic/addict.  This often creates a smothering legacy of worthiness issues.  (And probably a 75 percent likelihood you’re an alcoholic/addict as well.)

If you were adopted, or raised in foster care.  This can feed off of our primal fear of abandonment.  Even if you lost your parents through no intention of their own (They were killed in a traffic accident for example.), at a young age, this is extremely difficult to process emotionally – and sometimes leads to guilt, somehow believing you were responsible.

If you were abused mentally or physically (including incest), by a parent or other relative.  When this happens at a young age, it can formulate your whole view of the world, and not in a good way.

If you grew up as a minority in an area.  Being the only Jewish kid in a school, or the only black family in a neighborhood can be a very lonely proposition. This also holds true for kids who are different in other ways:  If you were very tall, obese, or even really smart, that could single you out for separation.  Difference scares people and often leads to ridicule, isolation or bullying.  Kids take cues from their parents and can be very cruel to anyone different than them.

If you are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgender.  At least if you’re a minority, you have a family support structure around you.  If you are LGBT, you may be told you’re flawed, broken or going to Hell even by your closest family members.

Not all of these situations are logical or seem to make sense.  Emotions and mind viruses play off confusion.  In fact, the more emotion is involved, the faster memes replicate and spread.

If you were raised in one of these situations or another similar, know that it is highly likely that you developed both low self-esteem and worthiness issues.  Most of your core, foundational beliefs about all the important prosperity things – relationships, health, money, God, etc. – are set before you are even ten years old.  As with all negative memes and limiting beliefs, the first and biggest step is realizing they are there.  Once you do that, you can go about the process of replacing them with beliefs that serve you.

-RG

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  1. LeneJytteHansen says:

    Well I was abandoned by both my parents! Adopted and abused mentally and the only family I have today is a big brother I have almost no connection to (did not grow up together) and My son that I LOVE more than anything in the world – he lives in UK and I in Denmark. Feels pretty  “alone” and totally dependant on only ME. No other SURE connection. I’ve been working myself out of all these losses in my life – but I’ve managed without loosing my mind and got out on the other side much stronger and determinded to change my situation and life – knowing I’m the only one that can change MY LIFE – It’s been very tough and still is at times!!!! BUT I know I can DO it – and I’LL NEVER GIVE UP!

  2. LeneJytteHansen says:

    Well I was abandoned by both my parents! Adopted and abused mentally and the only family I have today is a big brother I have almost no connection to (did not grow up together) and My son that I LOVE more than anything in the world – he lives in UK and I in Denmark. Feels pretty  “alone” and totally dependant on only ME. No other SURE connection. I’ve been working myself out of all these losses in my life – but I’ve managed without loosing my mind and got out on the other side much stronger and determinded to change my situation and life – knowing I’m the only one that can change MY LIFE – It’s been very tough and still is at times!!!! BUT I know I can DO it – and I’LL NEVER GIVE UP!

  3. Success Coach Denise says:

    PHENOMENAL POST 🙂 our BELIEFS are our SUCCESS BLUEPRINTS

  4. Success Coach Denise says:

    PHENOMENAL POST 🙂 our BELIEFS are our SUCCESS BLUEPRINTS

  5. Success Coach Denise says:

    Our BELIEFS are our SUCCESS BLEUPRINTS…AWESOME POST 🙂

  6. Hedi Khezrzadeh says:

    Now I’m a father so I should read this carefully!

  7. Jonathan1 says:

    These are very interesting and am sure there are others.. When it comes to physical abuse, I’m willing to bet there are many here who’s parents without knowing, physically abused a child when they disobeyed, due to their OWN dysfunctional child rearing.. This is a widespread problem especially with the Boomer generation and inflicts serious self esteem problems which of course, impacts prosperity consciousness. And I don’t think the excuse a parent might make, “well you were beaten because I was beaten as a child” holds water. However, we MUST forgive them and ourselves and continue our critical thinking.. Thanks for posting Randy.. As always a great reminder and motivator..

    1. ThomasMrak says:

      @Jonathan1 Just because someone learned bad behavior from someone else does not excuse the fact they chose to do it.I was raised by highly dysfunctional Boomer parents. One was a drunk and a control freak, and the other didn’t value herself enough to stand up for her children or herself.She also never got a divorce, even though women who are in bad marriages have the courage to leave. I am also gay and creative, both of which are no-nos in a Pro-Union, Catholic household, where people have to “work for a living” and like it.Both are very self-centered “if I can’t be happy, no one should either” types of people. We rarely speak any more because I have tried to meet them half way, but they were rarely supportive of me or my brother and they both lack empathy.They both act like they’re destitute when for most of their adult lives they had good middle class blue collar jobs.I have never struggled with alcohol or drug addiction, but I do not have a lot of self-control when it comes to either. Very easy for me to drink too much, so when I do drink, it’s never alone.  I also have a tendency to overeat.My life has been quite a battle as an adult against their lack of interest in caring about themselves or their kids. 
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  8. Jonathan1 says:

    These are very interesting and am sure there are others.. When it comes to physical abuse, I’m willing to bet there are many here who’s parents without knowing, physically abused a child when they disobeyed, due to their OWN dysfunctional child rearing.. This is a widespread problem especially with the Boomer generation and inflicts serious self esteem problems which of course, impacts prosperity consciousness. And I don’t think the excuse a parent might make, “well you were beaten because I was beaten as a child” holds water. However, we MUST forgive them and ourselves and continue our critical thinking.. Thanks for posting Randy.. As always a great reminder and motivator..

  9. ThomasMrak says:

    @Jonathan1 Just because someone learned bad behavior from someone else does not excuse the fact they chose to do it.I was raised by highly dysfunctional Boomer parents. One was a drunk and a control freak, and the other didn’t value herself enough to stand up for her children or herself.She also never got a divorce, even though women who are in bad marriages have the courage to leave. I am also gay and creative, both of which are no-nos in a Pro-Union, Catholic household, where people have to “work for a living” and like it.Both are very self-centered “if I can’t be happy, no one should either” types of people. We rarely speak any more because I have tried to meet them half way, but they were rarely supportive of me or my brother and they both lack empathy.They both act like they’re destitute when for most of their adult lives they had good middle class blue collar jobs.I have never struggled with alcohol or drug addiction, but I do not have a lot of self-control when it comes to either. Very easy for me to drink too much, so when I do drink, it’s never alone.  I also have a tendency to overeat.My life has been quite a battle as an adult against their lack of interest in caring about themselves or their kids. 
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  10. LindseyRamsdell1 says:

    Great article Randy! I was raised in the Pentecostal Church and oh my goodness did it ever affect my life in such a way that I wound up with severe anxiety issues. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I started to discover your books and Catherine Ponder’s books that I started to come out of the fog. I still have my moments where my mind wants to go back and obsess about the past, but I have been able to pull myself back to where I need to be. My husband was raised in foster care and was heavily abused, but somehow he has taught himself how to be forward moving and despite everything he went through he made the decisions to turn into a quality person with amazing values and strengths. It is so amazing the gift that God has given us to recover our minds and to change the way that we think. Although I am still learning how to meditate deeply; just meditation and what I know how to do is amazing for clearing out all those meme’s and getting myself back on track.
     
    We are taking on two foster children in the next couple of weeks and will face many challenges with them, but whatever we can do to help them pull through their issues we will do. Starting from the moment they walk through our door they will receive unconditional support and love from us.
     
    Randy do you know of any good books for kids that would help us to teach them? My husband is a dad, but I have no children of my own. So this will be me jumping in both feet into the deep end 🙂

  11. LindseyRamsdell1 says:

    Great article Randy! I was raised in the Pentecostal Church and oh my goodness did it ever affect my life in such a way that I wound up with severe anxiety issues. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I started to discover your books and Catherine Ponder’s books that I started to come out of the fog. I still have my moments where my mind wants to go back and obsess about the past, but I have been able to pull myself back to where I need to be. My husband was raised in foster care and was heavily abused, but somehow he has taught himself how to be forward moving and despite everything he went through he made the decisions to turn into a quality person with amazing values and strengths. It is so amazing the gift that God has given us to recover our minds and to change the way that we think. Although I am still learning how to meditate deeply; just meditation and what I know how to do is amazing for clearing out all those meme’s and getting myself back on track.
     
    We are taking on two foster children in the next couple of weeks and will face many challenges with them, but whatever we can do to help them pull through their issues we will do. Starting from the moment they walk through our door they will receive unconditional support and love from us.
     
    Randy do you know of any good books for kids that would help us to teach them? My husband is a dad, but I have no children of my own. So this will be me jumping in both feet into the deep end 🙂

  12. million dollar says:

    I think this is one of the most common reasons why people don’t succeed in life. If you grow up in a family where you get “mentally abused” so to speak, chances are like 99% you are going to have some worthiness issues and get a very low self-esteem. And to start from there it’s really difficult to make things happen.

    1. ThomasMrak says:

      @million dollar Agreed. It’s been a huge struggle for most of my adult life. I didn’t start really dealing with it until 25, which is coincidentally when I read “Why You’re Dumb, Sick, and Broke”.Like Randy, I’ve always been interested in learning, but I was never encouraged and always told “so and so is better than you. You need to be more like them. ” Not to mention they always took anyone with authority seriously, no matter if they were worth listening to or not.I was in a very toxic relationship, and became consciously aware it was very similar to the dynamics of my parents’ marriage.It’s been a fight worth fighting. Although sometimes I get really scared, especially since I’m 31, and going to school with a lot of affluent kids who did get the boosts, while I didn’t due to having abusive, Union parents. Always been interested in music, mostly stuff with synths, which appears to be less age restrictive than pop music is.I’ve failed at a lot of things- more than many have tried because I know that I’m not guaranteed anything- and I sure as heck don’t plan on spending years of my life pleasing others to make up for the opportunities and encouragement I didn’t get. 
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  13. million dollar says:

    I think this is one of the most common reasons why people don’t succeed in life. If you grow up in a family where you get “mentally abused” so to speak, chances are like 99% you are going to have some worthiness issues and get a very low self-esteem. And to start from there it’s really difficult to make things happen.

  14. Leeloo says:

    You definitely picked a circle of group in your post I can identify with as well:
    being a minority.
    I lived on two sides the first 14 years of my life, as a misfit at home and in school (being too tall, looking way older than others, being smarter hidden by shyness…) plus being a “special” minority syndrome – at some point – in the hospital with no cure, no clue, no role-model to follow, Doctors with no idea what to do with me and how I will ever end up in life.
    Luckily we had great success which lifted me higher than anybody else around me in school/home, so again: the outstanding, an adult-like misfit at age of 14y.
    I unfortunately I made the big mistake trying to live a regular life which was forbidden somehow but my disease career or success must have given me the idea that “I can do it”. I could have done it but not with a regular grown up guy/man like they all were and still are.
    Anyway, I  wrote a book about it, in a novel-style: “Arriving in Chicago” – where I met the others of my minority group, very late in life, in 2008.
    Telling the way how I found out WHAT I am and WHO I am and how I approached to get a solution for the fact that our little group STILL ISN´T WORTH IT to go for research.
    I personally never had worthyness issue for myself but I did belong to a group which isn´t really not worth it. And people told me this right into my face, more than once. Plus, as a so called disabled woman (well disguised, invisible) I lacked a quality issue for men.
    Outch – that was the toughest to take.
    In the end I took all the valuable lessons learned and stepped out as an authoress:
    ARRIVING IN CHICAGO
    by rita jaskolla

  15. Leeloo says:

    You definitely picked a circle of group in your post I can identify with as well:
    being a minority.
    I lived on two sides the first 14 years of my life, as a misfit at home and in school (being too tall, looking way older than others, being smarter hidden by shyness…) plus being a “special” minority syndrome – at some point – in the hospital with no cure, no clue, no role-model to follow, Doctors with no idea what to do with me and how I will ever end up in life.
    Luckily we had great success which lifted me higher than anybody else around me in school/home, so again: the outstanding, an adult-like misfit at age of 14y.
    I unfortunately I made the big mistake trying to live a regular life which was forbidden somehow but my disease career or success must have given me the idea that “I can do it”. I could have done it but not with a regular grown up guy/man like they all were and still are.
    Anyway, I  wrote a book about it, in a novel-style: “Arriving in Chicago” – where I met the others of my minority group, very late in life, in 2008.
    Telling the way how I found out WHAT I am and WHO I am and how I approached to get a solution for the fact that our little group STILL ISN´T WORTH IT to go for research.
    I personally never had worthyness issue for myself but I did belong to a group which isn´t really not worth it. And people told me this right into my face, more than once. Plus, as a so called disabled woman (well disguised, invisible) I lacked a quality issue for men.
    Outch – that was the toughest to take.
    In the end I took all the valuable lessons learned and stepped out as an authoress:
    ARRIVING IN CHICAGO
    by rita jaskolla

  16. ThomasMrak says:

    @million dollar Agreed. It’s been a huge struggle for most of my adult life. I didn’t start really dealing with it until 25, which is coincidentally when I read “Why You’re Dumb, Sick, and Broke”.Like Randy, I’ve always been interested in learning, but I was never encouraged and always told “so and so is better than you. You need to be more like them. ” Not to mention they always took anyone with authority seriously, no matter if they were worth listening to or not.I was in a very toxic relationship, and became consciously aware it was very similar to the dynamics of my parents’ marriage.It’s been a fight worth fighting. Although sometimes I get really scared, especially since I’m 31, and going to school with a lot of affluent kids who did get the boosts, while I didn’t due to having abusive, Union parents. Always been interested in music, mostly stuff with synths, which appears to be less age restrictive than pop music is.I’ve failed at a lot of things- more than many have tried because I know that I’m not guaranteed anything- and I sure as heck don’t plan on spending years of my life pleasing others to make up for the opportunities and encouragement I didn’t get. 
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  17. Mikhael says:

    Mark Dzirasa is a Czech motivational speaker – yet he was the only black kid in a white village. He says he thanks to his mom for loving everyone trully so he didn’t expected anybody to be cruel to him.

  18. Mikhael says:

    Mark Dzirasa is a Czech motivational speaker – yet he was the only black kid in a white village. He says he thanks to his mom for loving everyone trully so he didn’t expected anybody to be cruel to him.

  19. thinking you want people who support you in getting healthy & being your best self…
    not sabotaging you…
    even if it isn’t sabotage for them…
    their way may not be best for you
    and your way may not be best for them
     
    So who you may think would be your ideal partner might not be if they don’t have the same goals….
    they may enjoy their lifestyle but it may not be healthy for you
    and your lifestyle may not be the best for them
     
    so find people with similar goals and dreams….
    to walk together on the same path….
    instead of trying to pull each other to what each wants
    you may both be happy on different paths
     
    we are all worthy
    we are all valuable
    we are all loved by God
    and we are all different… God created us that way…
    we all have gifts and passions that God gave us
     
    find out what your joys and passions are… be happy being you…
    instead of being unhappy being who others want you to be.
    be you…be happy….
    it is a good life

  20. LeneJytteHansen says:

    million dollar It does not serve you to affirm it’s difficult! Just get started :)))))

  21. million dollar says:

    @LeneJytteHansen
     I mean this in general. It is difficult but certainly not impossible, just overcome it.

  22. Fa Baol says:

    so i am not concerned Gage!

  23. Alejandra Benites Castro says:

    Es hermoso leer palabras constructivas

  24. Maulanah says:

    Each and every scenarios you’ve mentioned has two sides. You can be dragged down by it, or you can use it to move up. You choose.

  25. Dave C. Prosser says:

    Great post!

  26. MarioPedroGould says:

    As per your recommendation daily self development and daily affirmations as well as afformations are helping me overcome major childhood issues. In Africa where I am from physical abuse is the norm. We actually used to go to school and compete on who got the biggest ass whooping from daddy. Little did we know that these were fertile grounds for worthiness issues to crop up in adulthood. This message can have a profound impact in Africa where there are no laws against physical child abuse in the form of beating the kids when they underperform in school or make mistakes.

  27. napadavid says:

    I came through some pretty brutal physical and verbal abuse.. and I had my eyes opened one time with a lady I had a summer fling with.. we were watching the news and there was a weeper on and I made some cynical comment like I don’t have time for these people who blame everything on their past,  and she said, “Just because you came through it, doesn’t mean other people can.”
    Told that story to a good friend who served in Vietnam,  who no doubt could make my boo hoo stories look like a walk in the park and he said , “That’s true, not everyone can.”  he had a bunch of buddies commit suicide.. had the greatest respect for him on how he could put stuff behind him… a lot of people can’t… I guess the best thing is to remember everyone has got some brutal stuff in their past and some have probably a lot worse than your stuff,  and have compassion for everyone…

  28. Okay so I’m working with 2 of these 5 childhood challenges. Still pretty confident that worthiness issues aren’t the hurdle I face but certainly willing to continue exploring the possibility. 
    So let’s say I’ve done step one, realizing they are there.
    Please go further on the process of replacing them with beliefs that serve you.

  29. Randy_Gage says:

    Matt Shorty Wells That’s a topic I’ve talked about before and will certainly talk more about in future posts.  
    -RG

 

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