"Real friends are those who care without hesitation, who remembers your true intentions without limitation, who trustful without suspicion and who loves even without communication." ~ Justice Cabral Watch out for "false friends" — words that appear to be true but not true. "A good friend knows all your true stories, a bestfriend has lived them with you." ~ Unknown A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. ~ Walter Winchell
by Randy Gage
Most people have friends and others close to them who tell them why they can’t accomplish certain things. You probably have people like this in your life right now.
Here’s the key…
There are two categories: First are people who love you and want the best for you. These are people you can check things out with: They may give you good advice, which may sometimes mean they advise you against doing something. That may be because you’re not ready yet, and they want to guide you what you need to work on to get where you want to go.
Then there’s the other kind…
These people may love you and want the best for you as well. But they are so infected with negative beliefs and mind viruses that it has clouded their view of the world. They instantly know the reasons why EVERYTHING won’t work.
The most important thing you will ever do for success is taking an inventory of the people who are close to you – and know which people are in which group — and factor their input appropriately!
Great insights, RG! We have to protect ourselves from negativity.
I was told that our bosses are uaually the ones who are successful BUT do not want us to be successful as they want to keep us in the job. In Network Marketing, on the other hand, our successful leaders would LOVE to help us to be successful too!
What a different dynamic!! I LOVE Network Marketing!
This is one of the most important lessons in life. It can be difficult to distinguish between the two. Fortunately, your videos and blog posts help me with this a lot! Thanks, Randy!
This was a powerful lesson for me, RG. I come from an environment that's totally infected with negativity. If people haven't seen what you're doing, ever being done - they automatically assume that you aren't able to do it either. I had to become mindful of what I share, and with whom I share it. Sadly, after losing my mother back in 2010, somethings were said and done by close members of my family (as well as with myself) that took me a minute to forgive them and me - for doing. After forgiving them - as well as myself for being angry with them - I realized that they were only doing what they knew and had been taught to do. We have to give people room to develop, just as we desire for them to make room for our development; and unfortunately, sometimes the best "room" we can offer to loved ones is distance. Right after high school, I joined the Navy and was away from any family members for about 10 years; even though I only served 3 years in the military. About 6 years ago, I wanted to be closer to them, and decided to move to Atlanta where a majority of them reside. What I've learned in the last 6 years is that sometimes, and with some people, the last thing I need to do is to reside in close proximity of them. Distance, indeed, makes the heart grow fonder... a lot fonder. I am now currently looking for that distance. Thanks for the sharpening, my friend.
I have the challenge that old(er) people who lived a totally different ife than I did (none of them know details of what I HAVE BEEN through ...) and they give advice which doesn´t work at all.
It´s a pity to reject their advices periodly and it isn´t thrilling for me neither to do so but fact is: none can lead me to a place where they themselves haven´t been before. They don´t understand this little detail.
I wish some of them had hobbies instead - than thinking and worrying about other peoples lives.... while I am on my way :)
I read a great quote a while ago: "keep one's own counsel". This is very difficult when we are young and have a limited experience of the world. That is when I piled up a lot of people in my life and this was very distracting for a long time. I am thankful that I found guides along the way (Joseph Campbell, Rilke, Hesse, Chopra, Dyer, etc...and recently Randy Gage) and I was able to recognize the very negative and self destructive messages many of those around me were sending out. I also had to recognize the negativity in myself that was attracting all this. I started meditating about 15 years ago and that is what made the connection to the higher self stronger. So I was able to finally start to rely on my own instincts. Now when I hear something, I have a much keener innate sense as to whether or not the statement has productive qualities or is just another's self-defeating story. It gets easier to do the more I connect with my higher self. Many of my "friends" and most family members are way on the periphery of my life now. I seem to hear a lot less negativity these days. It is still out there, but I don't give it the same energy as I did in the past.
I heard Les Brown say : No one nose where you can go, no one nose what your capable of or what's possible for you. You don't even know that !
So take risks, grow, remove the negative people in your life, change your thoughts, work hard ...
How can I know whether they are infected? For example, my mom and I. I think she is infected but she thinks I just don't understand certain things because of my age blah-blah-blah. To be abslolutely objective, we need someone third... It may be a book (for example yours) or a video... I've just answered my question haha :)