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Vitality Health Hub » What I’ve been upto in my blogging absence — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 09:43:30 +0000

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By: Manny Sarmiento

Manny Sarmiento — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 02:28:27 +0000

The best I’ve ever discovered is that when we fail its because we continue to do the same thing over and over. Manny Sarmiento
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By: Trudi

Trudi — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:53:31 +0000

So are you breaking the divorce/never marry pattern – or are you suffering superhero man syndrome?

By: Turiya

Turiya — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:54:02 +0000

Listen to Dennis Kimbro http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3eSgd0GsdKE (begins at 4 minute) about two sons, who had alcoholic father. One became drunk, the other well respected lawyer. …. Same home, same circumstance, same father, but different outcome. One child looked for someone to blame, and the other for someone to bless.

By: Randy Gage

Randy Gage — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:01:20 +0000

A book I found very helpful was “The Alcohol and Addiction Cure” by Chris Prentiss. The first course of treatment I’ve seen that is in alignment with the principles of prosperity I believe. Not to demean 12 Step groups, but I felt they have an inherent victim-hood orientation. This book doesn’t.

-RG

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:58:51 +0000

Interesting

The older I get I too come to realize how I have many of the same patterns as that of my parents, not all bad – many good. It takes constant awareness to avoid these pitfalls.

Each day I try to do the best for my children. It is a daily battle – I win most and fail on some. The most important part is the realization/awareness of the patterns/behaviors and making the changes to not pass on the bad but to make the next generation of my family better and more emotionally healthy than the last.

God Bless.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 11:02:05 +0000

My family has several. Some I’ve noticed, some the people involved have noticed.

When others have noticed a pattern i.e. getting married young, then divorcing a few years later. They ‘force’ other not to do the same. Certainly that is how it felt to myself growing up in the family.

If they don’t notice a pattern, it seems impossible for them to break it or consider an alternative. They then force or tell others again, about it. This one I’m breaking. Or the pattern that I see, I’m beginning to break.

As I’ve written this, I’ve noticed that in itself is a pattern. As I think about it, to completely break the pattern a change in environment is required. oh…

By: Jane

Jane — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 08:58:13 +0000

The Superwomen you are talking about are challenging the boundaries of accepted social and cultural paradigms. Are women to be saddled with even more guilt if they try to break the idealogy of patriarchal consciousness which shows that they are no longer conferring power on the old order and the repression it engendered. In reality we are all subjected to a psychological idealogy in which the will of the individual is subordinated to family and society, and it is this idealogical image which these women shatter and could be seen as threatening to a male dominated world.

Women have been taught to feel helpless, hopeless and also aimless and that they need a man to survive. I am not against men as I love them dearly, but to demonise women because they are strong enough to live without a man and the approval of society is a kind of moral insanity.

`What are we repeating` certainly opens up a whole can of worms if we are brave enough to look inside ourselves.

All the best.

By: Lucinda "The Operadiva"

Lucinda "The Operadiva" — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 06:26:36 +0000

Interesting question Randy. Especially since I have been pondering that for some time now.

My sister has been tracing our family’s genieology for the last few years and something interesting has been surfacing. A pattern among the generations much like what you describe. I had to stop to think, what can i do differently? To make my life better. My family members lives better etc.

I decided to be aware and concious of my thoughts and actions and reactions towards myself and family members.

My dad’s family likes to hold on to anger and resentments and I was doing the same thing. I am working hard on letting go and choosing not to participate in the inherited dysfunction.

Thanks for asking the question. Great timing!

By: Bones Rodriguez

Bones Rodriguez — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:38:52 +0000

I’ve been thinking about how much we really are a product of our parents, and how far that goes.

There are things I would love to inherit from my folks, and there are a lot that I want to stay away from.

But what REALLY scares me, is what I’m unaware of, and what I may pass on to any kids I have…