by Randy Gage
It’s fall here in the Northern Hemisphere, but I’m thinking about spring cleaning. Though not in the customary way. I’m talking about people…
Because here is something you will discover on your path to self-development: You work on yourself every day. You grow. You develop a higher consciousness. Then one day you wake up and notice something…
Some of the people around you were brought in when you were operating at a much lower consciousness. And they haven’t been on the same path of self-development you have.
It could be a massage therapist who has negative energy you never noticed before. It could be a vendor you’re doing business with that you would never select today. Or it could be a close personal relationship.
People aren’t required to meet your standards. But you have every right to decide the kind of people you want to interact with, do business with and be in relationship with. And if you value yourself and have proper self-esteem – you’ll exercise that right.
I LOVE this post. Every post I read from you feels like it was written directly to my soul. Much love, Shawne
Awesome post! Difficult when it's someone close but we have to take care of ourselves & stop perpetuating the cycle when relationships are broken. Thx for a great post X
Yet another amazing post Randy! So true as Jonathan1 and mdsuburbs have already pointed out quite well. Another point that I have experienced is people that are not operating on your wavelength as you grow will try to knock down your ideas with negativity? What I mean is that instead of embracing your dream, goal, aspiration, or vision (whatever word you want to use) and trying to look at all the ways to make it a reality, they live in the confinement zone where they only see the obstacles. Your thoughts Randy? Joy!
Hi Randy. So what happens when someone you work with, as in front line in your MLM business, turns out to be a tool? :)On one hand I'm thinking that limiting time with them could be potentially detrimental to the biz. Then on the other hand I'm if the biz was strong enough it wouldn't matter. Thoughts? Thanks.
Goodness, I love it when I get an answer within hours of sending out the question. I was mulling, earlier today, on a long-term friendship with a business-partner, wondering how to (or if I should) reduce the amount of "friendship" time I spend on her. She's not "a negative person" (she's perfectly happy being who & how she is) but for some reason she triggers uncomfortable emotions in me; "personality clash" might be the best description.
Randy says that I " have every right to decide the kind of people you want to interact with, do business with and be in relationship with. And if you value yourself and have proper self-esteem – you’ll exercise that right." Alright! I can exercise that right! I'll call it, the right to feel great, as much as possible. This gal doesn't feed my feeling great, so....I'll focus my energies on the newer friends.
Re-reading what I've written, I wonder: What is the definition of "a negative person"? One who is habitually looking at the dark side/worrying/pessimistic or one who, for whatever reason, lowers my vibration? Or something else.
This post makes my stomach hurt. Does this mean I have to go away again? I don't like the idea of spring cleaning people like a speck of dust to be mopped away. But, I understand what your saying, sometimes you have to move on. But, the way you put it causes me to feel a chill. Just think how all your friends out there with abandonment issues must feel. :(
Amen, Brother. Sometimes it's tough to get the negative people out of your life because they love to hang around. I also have a misplaced sense of loyalty. Kinda like the massage therapist example. If I've been going for awhile, I feel like I should stick it out with her/him. Know what I mean?
Same way with people. I have a friend who is pretty negative. He's also a past client (I'm a real estate guy) and he has also referred someone to me. I don't necessarily want to dump him but I don't want to hang out either.
This is SO true Randy. I also think many will fall back on society's rules meaning that friendships are to last forever, even when they aren't mutual. As we grow it's important to ONLY have the sort of friends that grow along with us. Letting go can be difficult but its crucial for our own development. And thanks for your generosity to the Jedi council too! Hope the book sales are better than you dreamed!
Spot on! I've had to do this with personal relationships throughout the years. I still am very friendly with these people and love them to death, but found it necessary for my own growth to place a little distance between us. I was delicate but firm. People grow apart.
@tonyscarcia Everything is a choice. And usually a tradeoff.
@Annieb I knew as soon as I hit "post" on this you would be screaming. (As would Bones if he still hung out here.) It's part of your automatic knee-jerk reaction what you usually perceive as the evil rich people are beating up the poor, disenfranchised ones. But I'm pleasantly surprised to see you acknowledge at least in part that there is sense in what I'm suggesting. It's about the difference between reaching down to pull others up, versus others reaching up to pull you down.
@Randy_Gage @Annieb If you don't take the time to know or understand me, you will never understand my arguments either. Ironically, I wasn't thinking about anyone but myself when I wrote this. You are not an evil rich guy, but sometimes you don't go out of yourself long enough to really understand an others view.
Okay, Randy. Take care of yourself on the book tour. Get your rest, drink plenty of water, and eat your vegetables. :) @Randy_Gage
@Randy_Gage You actually said it best in your video about removing negative people from your life. You don't have to shut them out -- and you'll offer help if they say they want it and want to move forward -- but you yourself will keep moving forward. My trainer uses the analogy of the crabs in the boiling pot: if a brother crab tries to escape, the other crabs will pull him back in. Don't be that crab.