Comments on: So What Are You Choosing?

By: marvin

marvin — Fri, 15 May 2009 11:13:23 +0000

Hit a lot more times to others. I cme to realize patience is a virtue and any uncontrollble emotion took us into the path of nothing. Patience in developing my self is hard and had a lot of emotion. I bounced up with other people who is ridiculous, think money is evil, and lack respect to the poor, and the poor who hate the skillful and businessman, etc. But it is worth? does it serve me to contact with this people…Ahh yes, I learned a lot, change myself into better.
I improved my focus to be much more productive.
I read the BU last last years. and tnx to the persons that give me what to read for my development, as a man thinketh

By: Lucinda "The Operadiva"

Lucinda "The Operadiva" — Fri, 15 May 2009 05:14:13 +0000

I choose- “Not”! I decided a few years ago that I should not make myself miserable over small insignificant things. The so called “offender” does not care, so why ruin one’s day over it?

Besides, by not letting everyday aggravations get to me, I stay in a better mood which helps me to concentrate on more important things like my opera company and friends like you.

All the best to you Randy,

Lucinda

By: SAACHI I'Mamura

SAACHI I'Mamura — Fri, 15 May 2009 03:41:46 +0000

Randy, I like the way you write your messages – short and yet you hit the point. I’m pretty a transparent person and when I see something that is out of line, or something that I wouldn’t do myself…well, I used to question to myself…wondering why we’re so different..!. But, hey, I’m not perfect either and have learned not to let anything bother me after a certain point. We all have right to live the way we choose, and there is no point of going further and make a fuss about anything…. Am I contradicting myself..? No, I don’t think so… I think I just simply got wiser and making the best out of everything as much as possible – being positive and switch my thinking right away. Life is short. Just to say that I enjoyed today’s visit again. Thanks, Randy.
- SAACHI

By: Randy Gage

Randy Gage — Fri, 15 May 2009 03:06:54 +0000

And Allen’s books are a good chance to help you keep a happy disposition!

-RG

By: Certify U.

Certify U. — Fri, 15 May 2009 02:33:00 +0000

I choose to let it go. Why tangle up my insides, get upset and angry over things that I have no control over. Bleeding ulcers and other health conditions related to anger, frustration, and stress just aren’t worth it.

Live and let live.

Anger and intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding. — Mahatma Gandhi

By: Michael Eisbrener

Michael Eisbrener — Thu, 14 May 2009 23:07:07 +0000

What am I choosing? Early I discovered that every upset of mine was a function of my expectations about how ‘it’ was supposed to occur. I was being the judge, jury and executioner of every event. I was a ‘I am right machine’ and everyone/eveything else is wrong because I said so. The second I ‘notice’ I am doing that I have the power to choose another view. I could alter the expectation after the fact [and have] and perhaps ‘wear’ the event differently next time. I have found if [HUGE if] I can ask “how can I make this an win/win opportunity” something shifts in me and the experience can become fun. If I can look for the opportunity to make a difference while I am in the ‘upset’ I have a chance to be patient, gentle, open, courageous and sometimes caring. I can even smile at the Universe’s little joke being played out for my benefit. Thank you Randy for asking the question!

By: Rob

Rob — Thu, 14 May 2009 21:17:59 +0000

I like the way you think, short message but you hit it on the head! I use to get somewhat mad, but now I just find something else to do while waiting, like have fun with my son or wife while waiting. Stay positive everyone!

By: Allen Klein

Allen Klein — Thu, 14 May 2009 19:16:56 +0000

I learned a long time ago that I have a choice. Nobody, nobody, has the power to take away my happiness.

I recently got a speeding ticket, my first in over forty years of driving. It was a bummer but it didn’t ruin my day. In fact, I got a chuckle out of it as I thought “Well, now I am a grown-up.”

Allen Klein,
author of The Courage to Laugh
and
The Healing Power of Humor

By: Christian

Christian — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:54:07 +0000

Training yourself to act deliberately…fully conscious of how our reaction is affecting the situation, is essential. It’s easy to get pissed at the guy behind you following you way too closely in traffic. But are you actually improving the situation? Does your anger hurt anyone buy yourself? Being conscious of this is the hardest part.

By: Craig Davis, RN

Craig Davis, RN — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:40:55 +0000

I have to admit that at times I choose confrontation. We had a waitress in a very nice restaurant disappear for 30 minutes after
bringing us our dessert. We missed a show because of this and we had informed this waitress at the start that we were on a schedule. TIPS originally were introduced “To Insure Prompt Service.” And we understand that the wait staff is essentially working for tips but when this waitress returned to our table and I asked where she had been her reply was “was I gone that long?” So I figured out her tip and with her standing there deducted the price of our nonrefundable show tickets and in essence she owed us money. Unfortunately, I have no idea whether this helped prevent future abuses by this waitress or whether it was an act of futility. We all like to say we have patience and a forgiving attitude but there are also appropriate times to call people on their stuff otherwise how will they ever understand that for every action there is a complete and opposite reaction.

As for the road rage I can gratefully say that I no longer actively participate in this endeavor which took a considerable amount of work on my part as a former paramedic and firefighter in the Philadelphia metro area as our streets and citizens as well as the local media all play an integral part in this life threatening spectacle.

Live Long & Prosper