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]]> By: Marshall http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-1070 Marshall Sat, 27 Dec 2008 04:49:41 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-1070 Randy, we've been discussing this in our Sunday School class, quite a discussion - seems they all believe selfishness is a sin. I was the lone dissenter... I've enjoyed your posts. Randy, we’ve been discussing this in our Sunday School class, quite a discussion – seems they all believe selfishness is a sin. I was the lone dissenter… I’ve enjoyed your posts.

]]> By: Zhannur http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-1010 Zhannur Wed, 24 Dec 2008 06:15:30 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-1010 Getting hot :) Christians usually don't use lies. ??? Eddie is not the same Eddie described by Paula. Eddie had everything, all the potentials man can have in his hands. But he squandered it and drained it to a w.c. pan. There is one story in the Bible. It well describes the attitude that God wants us to have. One owner left treasures to his servants while going to a trip. Three parts to three servants. And asked them to keep it well. He was not coming back for long time. And servants thought what to do with treasures. One of them decided just to store it and bury it in the ground. And another two servants decided to multiply treasures and put it into an affair. When finally the owner came back and saw what they did. He chastised the one that kept it safe for his passivity and inactivity. And praised others calling them loyal and zealous servants. But imagine if there were another servant who simply stole treasures and spend it for his own. What would owner would do to this person? What will you do with people who frivol away everything they get in their hands? Even if those are your grown kids. I would send them to a poor country to see and learn what they should learn. Getting hot :)

Christians usually don’t use lies. ???
Eddie is not the same Eddie described by Paula.

Eddie had everything, all the potentials man can have in his hands. But he squandered it and drained it to a w.c. pan.

There is one story in the Bible. It well describes the attitude that God wants us to have. One owner left treasures to his servants while going to a trip. Three parts to three servants. And asked them to keep it well.
He was not coming back for long time. And servants thought what to do with treasures. One of them decided just to store it and bury it in the ground. And another two servants decided to multiply treasures and put it into an affair.
When finally the owner came back and saw what they did. He chastised the one that kept it safe for his passivity and inactivity. And praised others calling them loyal and zealous servants.

But imagine if there were another servant who simply stole treasures and spend it for his own. What would owner would do to this person?

What will you do with people who frivol away everything they get in their hands? Even if those are your grown kids. I would send them to a poor country to see and learn what they should learn.

]]> By: Paula Mary http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-1007 Paula Mary Wed, 24 Dec 2008 04:27:30 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-1007 Hi, I'm Eddie... no not really but yes I was Eddie. So here is Eddies side fo the story. Eddie was molested by his father and raped by three " neighbor hood boys growing up who were17-18-19 year old. The rapes and molestations left you with adhd. Hard time forcusing on detail or you are so emotioanall damaged you are just trying to survive and can't make good choice or see clearly through to a path to get a real direction going in your life.. You don't make right choices because you are always in survival mode trying to hide the eating disorder you have and how tried your body is. I'm not totally as ineffective as your eddie. I so totally harden my body with belligerent bulemia that I would manage to look like one of your " normal" safe guys who had it all together because you had something close to normal growing up. My parents were both alcholics in the day where you could work and get away with that. I was phyically abused by other sybilings. I divorced a " Normal Guy" who just couldn't get why Iwas going crazy after he demanded that I get and abortion because " he wasn't ready" When the hormone started to go crazy and because of the uterus that was holding on to so much rage because of my past and now a vaccum just came an suck something out of it. I lost my ability to keep my attention. Flunked out of college because I couldn't go after my life long dream of music. I was good. I taught myself to play piano in a basement where i would hid from my father or my family. They would leave me alone when I played piano. I moved in with a man after my divorce that I didn't love to be able to survive and not go home to an alcholic mother in her old age. I was becomeing really sick with the most severe eating disorder, Belligerant bulimia. I maintain with a guy who did really well in the Silicon Valley and looked like a great guy on the surface but was also an alcholic and verbal abuser. My family ostersized andpersecuted because I just kept talking about alcoholism or what my father did to me. They don't want to remember. I had to remember to stay alive and get well. They wouldn't invite me and my husband, who is a Vietnam Vet also and wouldn't even invite us to Christmas. Nothing happen. No upset, We just don't fit. So I tried my best to get well. Went to therapy, humanistic development, became a buddhist and was dieing. I finally came to Christ and recieved the blood of Jesus and my body is now healing. I worked for 20 years as a coach, when I could. when I was well enough. I empowered companies to succeed, sales teams to increase results and people to come to grips with their personal lives and all the while not really able to help myself. Do things consistantly to be really successful in the midst of being so ill I spent two years in bed, and 6 years not knowing if I would life or die. People still want to call me a victim because my life doesnt' look like how they think it should. Or tell me I made all wrong choices and that I'm totally responsible in a way that is like a whipping for not being like them. You didn't address the soul of your friend. Suggest maybe a church, 12 step program, or to get a personal coach. You didn't address his failures in and open and honest way. You just guilted yourself into being a martyr. You didn't do something to empower him, teach him, share skills that might lift him. Something to empower him. You were the victim by not setting any time limits to your generousity. You were the one who could not address the truth with him or your concerns over his situation. Trust me Eddie was very well aware of his situation. Trying to find a place to rest... just alittle and with people who don't understand you have to hid, make up stories, you can't tell them or yourself how badly you are failing because every one expects you to succeed but you are broken and you don't know how to fix that. In my experience there is only one place to got o fix that. Jesus Christ and there will be a day for you when you stand in front of God and it's your time to be evaluated for how you did.. He will ask you... what did you do for Eddie's soul. Did you judge him? Plaquate him, tolerate him or did you love him, show him the way to me because he was sooooo lost.. and now you are writting arrogant letter to judge him long after the event and justifying your behavior and givein other people persmission to behave as you by giving them and out for there own behavior around the poor, homeless, broken, suppress and oppress people who are victims of the darkness that has just not perchance darkness you door enough to have some sympathy and compassion for those beaten down. This is God giving you a wake up call. Paula Mary certified biblcial coach www.ewingsadvisor.blogspot.com I am a coach. I Got my certification for a biblical coach about a year ago. The school that I got it from now comes to me for coaching. I now coach a women who coaches the NFL, NBA, many corporation and most of the TV mega ministries. Here is my coaching for this arrogant thoughtless email. Get on your knees and plead with God to forgive you for not doing better by Eddie and what other self righteous points of view you have on the poor, the down trodden, the oppressed, suppressed, and abused. It's time to be come a bigger person, with a bigger box and a bigger God. But then I'm sure you will erase this rather distrubing email and gosh you couldn't let some truth out that might contradict your well crafted logical arguement. Paula Mary Paula Mary certified biblical coach Hi,
I’m Eddie… no not really but yes I was Eddie. So here is Eddies side fo the story. Eddie was molested by his father and raped by three ” neighbor hood boys growing up who were17-18-19 year old.
The rapes and molestations left you with adhd. Hard time forcusing on detail or you are so emotioanall damaged you are just trying to survive and can’t make good choice or see clearly through to a path to get a real direction going in your life.. You don’t make right choices because you are always in survival mode trying to hide the eating disorder you have and how tried your body is. I’m not totally as ineffective as your eddie. I so totally harden my body with belligerent bulemia that I would manage to look like one of your ” normal” safe guys who had it all together because you had something close to normal growing up. My parents were both alcholics in the day where you could work and get away with that. I was phyically abused by other sybilings. I divorced a ” Normal Guy” who just couldn’t get why Iwas going crazy after he demanded that I get and abortion because ” he wasn’t ready” When the hormone started to go crazy and because of the uterus that was holding on to so much rage because of my past and now a vaccum just came an suck something out of it. I lost my ability to keep my attention. Flunked out of college because I couldn’t go after my life long dream of music. I was good. I taught myself to play piano in a basement where i would hid from my father or my family. They would leave me alone when I played piano. I moved in with a man after my divorce that I didn’t love to be able to survive and not go home to an alcholic mother in her old age. I was becomeing really sick with the most severe eating disorder, Belligerant bulimia. I maintain with a guy who did really well in the Silicon Valley and looked like a great guy on the surface but was also an alcholic and verbal abuser. My family ostersized andpersecuted because I just kept talking about alcoholism or what my father did to me. They don’t want to remember. I had to remember to stay alive and get well. They wouldn’t invite me and my husband, who is a Vietnam Vet also and wouldn’t even invite us to Christmas. Nothing happen. No upset, We just don’t fit. So I tried my best to get well. Went to therapy, humanistic development, became a buddhist and was dieing. I finally came to Christ and recieved the blood of Jesus and my body is now healing. I worked for 20 years as a coach, when I could. when I was well enough. I empowered companies to succeed, sales teams to increase results and people to come to grips with their personal lives and all the while not really able to help myself. Do things consistantly to be really successful in the midst of being so ill I spent two years in bed, and 6 years not knowing if I would life or die. People still want to call me a victim because my life doesnt’ look like how they think it should. Or tell me I made all wrong choices and that I’m totally responsible in a way that is like a whipping for not being like them.

You didn’t address the soul of your friend. Suggest maybe a church, 12 step program, or to get a personal coach. You didn’t address his failures in and open and honest way. You just guilted yourself into being a martyr. You didn’t do something to empower him, teach him, share skills that might lift him. Something to empower him. You were the victim by not setting any time limits to your generousity. You were the one who could not address the truth with him or your concerns over his situation. Trust me Eddie was very well aware of his situation. Trying to find a place to rest… just alittle and with people who don’t understand you have to hid, make up stories, you can’t tell them or yourself how badly you are failing because every one expects you to succeed but you are broken and you don’t know how to fix that.

In my experience there is only one place to got o fix that. Jesus Christ and there will be a day for you when you stand in front of God and it’s your time to be evaluated for how you did.. He will ask you… what did you do for Eddie’s soul. Did you judge him? Plaquate him, tolerate him or did you love him, show him the way to me because he was sooooo lost.. and now you are writting arrogant letter to judge him long after the event and justifying your behavior and givein other people persmission to behave as you by giving them and out for there own behavior around the poor, homeless, broken, suppress and oppress people who are victims of the darkness that has just not perchance darkness you door enough to have some sympathy and compassion for those beaten down.

This is God giving you a wake up call.
Paula Mary
certified biblcial coach
http://www.ewingsadvisor.blogspot.com

I am a coach. I Got my certification for a biblical coach about a year ago. The school that I got it from now comes to me for coaching. I now coach a women who coaches the NFL, NBA, many corporation and most of the TV mega ministries.

Here is my coaching for this arrogant thoughtless email. Get on your knees and plead with God to forgive you for not doing better by Eddie and what other self righteous points of view you have on the poor, the down trodden, the oppressed, suppressed, and abused. It’s time to be come a bigger person, with a bigger box and a bigger God. But then I’m sure you will erase this rather distrubing email and gosh you couldn’t let some truth out that might contradict your well crafted logical arguement.

Paula Mary

Paula Mary
certified biblical coach

]]> By: Dave http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-995 Dave Tue, 23 Dec 2008 13:57:29 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-995 Poor Eddie, let's bail him out, throw him a billion, oops thats only for our bankers...we are being conned everyday...call me scrooge but I'm tired of pulling the wagon...what can the average Joe do about this mess? Poor Eddie, let’s bail him out, throw him a billion, oops thats only for our bankers…we are being conned everyday…call me scrooge but I’m tired of pulling the wagon…what can the average Joe do about this mess?

]]> By: Claudia http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-993 Claudia Tue, 23 Dec 2008 08:51:35 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-993 For me Eddie is the type of friend that is not really my friend any more because our head spaces are so different. I would send Eddie to the unemployment office and suggest he go ask for social welfare. There are places where you can sleep, get a meal and have a shower, here in Austria any way. I would not invite him to sleep over even if he thinks I'm a selfish bitch. I live in a sort of socialist country and I know he can get help. It may not be as fab is living in my place but I'm not a hotel and Eddie is not my best friend. No Guilt For me Eddie is the type of friend that is not really my friend any more because our head spaces are so different.

I would send Eddie to the unemployment office and suggest he go ask for social welfare. There are places where you can sleep, get a meal and have a shower, here in Austria any way.

I would not invite him to sleep over even if he thinks I’m a selfish bitch. I live in a sort of socialist country and I know he can get help. It may not be as fab is living in my place but I’m not a hotel and Eddie is not my best friend.

No Guilt

]]> By: tluke http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-992 tluke Tue, 23 Dec 2008 05:04:48 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-992 and the words burn. emotion thoroughly underscored with reality. as an entrepreneur the littany of egregious governmental innundation on my space, my spirit, my funds, my determination to be more is so difficult to avoid, like being tied to the railroad tracks, hands behind the back waiting for the next expected commuter train. the regular pelting of my being could be the end of me without words that burn and underscore an alternative direction. and the words burn. emotion thoroughly underscored with reality. as an entrepreneur the littany of egregious governmental innundation on my space, my spirit, my funds, my determination to be more is so difficult to avoid, like being tied to the railroad tracks, hands behind the back waiting for the next expected commuter train. the regular pelting of my being could be the end of me without words that burn and underscore an alternative direction.

]]> By: Bones Rodriguez http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-986 Bones Rodriguez Mon, 22 Dec 2008 22:53:24 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-986 I loved this section in your book. I also liked the "Island Story"; I wanted to make it into it's own movie. I think you're right- Eddie probably needs to be kicked in the a$$ to get going. Is it always that simple though? What happens when Eddie is your sick 65-year-old and no-longer employable father? No one wants those welfare measures to be permanent; that's why there are limits. YES, some people game the system, but how can we create a system that HELPS without crippling? I loved this section in your book. I also liked the “Island Story”; I wanted to make it into it’s own movie.

I think you’re right- Eddie probably needs to be kicked in the a$$ to get going. Is it always that simple though?

What happens when Eddie is your sick 65-year-old and no-longer employable father?

No one wants those welfare measures to be permanent; that’s why there are limits. YES, some people game the system, but how can we create a system that HELPS without crippling?

]]> By: Zhannur http://www.randygage.com/blog/more-on-selfishness%e2%80%a6/#comment-983 Zhannur Mon, 22 Dec 2008 20:35:22 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/?p=112#comment-983 It is true that if you want to help someone, you first have to be in a safe place yourself. But I am sure you can help other person even when you are not yet very rich, full and overflowing. Real help comes from the system of values of a great person. If you simply gave your friend food, place to stay and a TVset - that is the worst kind of help you offered to your poor friend. Then you deserve the poorest attitude returning to you from your friend. But if you instead stoped him and called for a talk. You explained him why he is poor, why he is dumb and sick. And then you kicked him out from your house with some best wishes for his life. THAT can be the best experience your friend may experience in his life. Then a best gratitude will return to you from your friend if he will learn the lesson. And notice that you didn't have to sacrifice a penny for that. But you lived for the greater good at that moment. :) It is true that if you want to help someone, you first have to be in a safe place yourself.

But I am sure you can help other person even when you are not yet very rich, full and overflowing.

Real help comes from the system of values of a great person.

If you simply gave your friend food, place to stay and a TVset – that is the worst kind of help you offered to your poor friend. Then you deserve the poorest attitude returning to you from your friend.

But if you instead stoped him and called for a talk. You explained him why he is poor, why he is dumb and sick. And then you kicked him out from your house with some best wishes for his life. THAT can be the best experience your friend may experience in his life. Then a best gratitude will return to you from your friend if he will learn the lesson.

And notice that you didn’t have to sacrifice a penny for that. But you lived for the greater good at that moment. :)

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