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Healthy Skepticism or Fear of Success?


By Randy Gage

In a few posts last week we looked at what happens when you are exposed to your “deal of a lifetime.”  I believe the average person gets offered a deal of a lifetime about every two years.  They just don’t become the lifetime deals because they don’t recognize or act on most of them. 

So here’s the million-dollar question.  Or in this caser, questions…

When you pass on an opportunity, is it because you have a healthy skepticism and it didn’t pass the test?  Or did it fail the test, because if it passed, that would mean growth, action, and effort on your part?  Or did you pass it up because on a subconscious level you know it really could work, and you are afraid of actually being successful – because that would remove your chance to play the victim?

It’s worth some very serious thought.  We all have intuition and hunches.  But we must recognize that they can be distorted by our programming.  So how are you on all that?

-RG

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Comment by Neil Ashworth on 2009-06-25 08:57:21

Great post Randy. Without a doubt the fear of success is a major factor for a lot of people and the role of the victim is one which some will use to gain power over others with.

The seven sources of power identifies this really well and when working with groups or teams as we do in this industry it’s well worth a look, as it provides a lot of useful insights into human behaviour and dynamics.

I think the chance of a lifetime comes round more often if you look for it and less so if you chose to look back on all those other missed opportunities.

Neil Ashworth

 
Comment by Bones Rodriguez on 2009-06-25 09:09:11

This is an interesting question because I actually think we pass deals of a lifetime every day… multiple times a day, and it’s just a matter of whether we want to be the person who does whatever it is that makes it work.

Obviously, most of the time is no.

but WHY? I guess that depends on the deal!

 
Comment by Javier on 2009-06-25 09:09:30

Randy, Is thereany other Randy walking in this planet, some people may looks like you and talk like you or want to be like you… but I think we are unique and what ever shows up not matter what size or value has, it is perfect in the universal plan for you to make a choice, there is not human plan, but zillions of spirits living experiencies and creating what you call ” Deal”…..It is just perfect…..
Bondage to the external world or spiritual liberation… what now?….

 
Comment by Craig Davis RN on 2009-06-25 09:36:20

Randy your questions are very engaging and something my group has been reflecting on for the past few weeks. I think the average person is too skeptical anymore to even recognize any
opportunity. Most of their thought process is done on a subconscious level and you’re right they choose to lead a life of quite depseration while complaining that life has somehow passed them by (that victimhood). I truely don’t believe that these people wake-up every day and say “Boy, you know what, my life really sucks and if I live for another 20,30 or 40 years I’m going to learn to enjoy this sucky life until it kills me!” There is no self-actualization within the heard.

On the other hand we have a small group of dreamers who awaken that sleeping giant and say “Boy, you know what, my life really sucks and I need to do something about it if I’m going to enjoy the next 20, 30 or 40 years of my life.” There has got to be a better way and you show up with that same opportunity and instead of being toast they say “Thank you, you’re an answer tp prayer!” And that is what keeps me jazzed everyday!

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Comment by Neil Ashworth on 2009-06-25 09:48:49

Craig,

I agree with your comment here. It’s a subconscious fear or barrier for many and takes a lot to overcome. I’ve just added a post inspired by Randy’s offering here..

http://www.neiljashworth.com/2009/06/if-the-fear-of-success-is-your-biggest-barrier-to-wealth-in-network-marketing-how-do-you-overcome-it/

We all have our demons…

Neil

 
 

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Comment by Jonathan on 2009-06-25 10:12:59

Many years ago when I was down in the dumps, someone came along and recommended I read Neal Donald Walsh’s book, “Conversations with God”. It changed my Life.

Throughout the book you are reminded of a simple statement, “.. what you resist persists; what you truly look at disappears..” To the degree we resist rather than allow good things, we experience the outcome.

Learning of a great opportunity and resisting therefore, puts up a barrier for having what we truly want which in turn fuels the cycle of not having it and falling into the victim belief.

Thanks Randy!

 
Comment by Olga on 2009-06-25 13:43:00

Hi Randy;

Some great post on today’s question. I found for me, it was about cleanning my mental house. I have not found any other way around it as of yet.

It’s only when one examins what has been programed into the sub conscious that we can then start to release the limiting beleifs that hold us back, and keeps us in a victim mentality.

Regards
Olga

 
Comment by Rob on 2009-06-25 13:48:49

Great post Randy. I have recently moved on some opportunities that I would have said no to in the past. I think how you are programmed has a big influence on what you will and won’t do! Thanks for your books that have helped me in many ways…PS Buy Randy’s 5 book prosperity series if you do not have it, and when you get the books, READ THEM!

 
Comment by Michael Eisbrener on 2009-06-25 22:20:09

Super post Randy. In general I am exposed to numerous opportunities on a regular basis. I have a tendency to say yes… to everything. I have developed criteria and questions that if are not met or answered correctly I refuse to venture past looking. From then on I screen all future mentions of same to auto delete. I normally give an opportunity, once it has past the test, a year of my effort before I review. Making money has kept me in a few programs too long and all were all great learning experiences.

Once you have found ‘the one’ focusing on what has to happen and ignoring the numerous exposures is rather simple. Putting yourself in action is then the daily task.

 
Comment by Joe on 2009-06-27 06:47:12

Randy you Rock! I have never been one of a victim mentality, but I am a person of self reason. I try to put myself in the role of sharing the idea with others; “what would they think of it if I was to share it with them?” The genius of your words lie in the “think about it” suggestion! I guess I’ve never revisited the initial idea to see if my intuition was right. Hmmm!

Joe

 
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