I have always seen myself as the way I achieve financial success. Self-Reliant. I have been working/creating value since I was 12 or 13 years old. I put myself through college by working/creating value. By increasing my knowledge I created value. People can also create value without a college degree.

I don’t really like victim attention. I have avoided people so I don’t have to answer questions about a failure. If I do talk to someone & they start asking me questions that really is none of their business, I change the subject. If that doesn’t work, I walk away. I avoid negative people. I don’t like gossip and believe it says more about the people doing the gossiping than it says about me. If I offer friendship to someone and they return it with negativity then I let them go. Negativity only brings people more negativity. We have to work at staying positive & not let the negativity affect us.

I don’t like to fail, but it is a part of life & the way to greatness…and I am thinking that it is the way to prosperity. Learn from your mistakes and move-on. Keep moving toward your dream.

Randy, Kimbra, and Natalie, I am very impressed. I didn’t quite understand the difference between entitlement and worthiness either.

Our culture (at least US culture) seems to be be steeped in entitlement, and appears to worship victim hood. That was a huge part of my problem- people gave me more attention when I was an “innocent victim”, and I fell into a pattern. Yep, I was only noticed when there was drama, and not rewarded when I did well, no one seemed care for more than five minutes about that.

It became an addiction. An addiction which has caused me to make moronic decisions, give up personal responsibility, and attract all sorts of negative people and circumstances.

I understand your story pretty well Randy, and I’m not much younger than you were when you woke up and changed things (28).

I say these things, because although I have been working on myself more, I am still very stuck. I realize this is my own fault, and I need to stop listening to the idiots who think that going back to college will magically solve my problems or that “if I do the right things like so and so,” or “they’re lucky” or “they have it easy.”

When I lived in Philadelphia, and ended up back in Minnesota due to my own stupidity, I had met people with tons of education that worked at bars or retail (people with high SATs and GPAs I might add), and people that were prosperous whom had never taken a single college course. I have real world evidence a person’s success is more about their choices and mindset than their background or past.

I’m experiencing a lot of cognitive dissonance right now, because I know that there are alternatives. Need advice on dealing with the herd.

-RG

All make time go quickly… AND in order to both be responsible financially for my kids AND make my genuis outstanding and giving remarkable value in the world I need to develop the residual wealth to invest in them to make them outstanding…

I’ve been poor and lived celebrating my genuis. Now it’s time for RICH and celebrating my genuis, and generously work with others to do the same. So that more of us have the income to fund ou genuis into brilliance.

Thanks.

I also feel that difference – tho there are stages of entitlement I think… that hold different energies.

There’s a sense of entitlement from the notion – because I exist I should be given all I want – regarldess of what I do.

And the entitlement of a victim – because I need I should be given – even if I have done nothing of value to deserve it.

I think for the difference is entitlement is an indignant righteousness, vs deserving of your good (like said above) is knowing your true worth.

The entitltement comes from an overated sense of worth that is based on nothing – its empty and devoid of quality needed to receive.

Deserving comes from having given true value, and a deep sense of knowing that you shall receive appreciation for that offering. And unless accept and own that worth – you won’t allow it to come in and will sabotage the good and appreciation of your value. Each moment of receiving you push away…

Thanks!

After suffering with the “savior hero” complex for years i finally realized that the Universe will take care of those people without me.

Thank God, I was was wearing myself out.

-djm

-RG