Are You Hanging on to Victim-hood?
By Randy Gage
In yesterday’s post we asked why anyone would choose to remain a victim. Now of course to even suggest such a thing to someone usually creates a visceral, negative reaction. They explain why they are the innocent casualty of outside circumstances and chastise you for your lack of empathy. But as they say in Course of Miracles, there are no victims, only volunteers…
We discussed my lady friend who has overcome so many challenges. She is a very powerful woman, and all her friends are always telling her how amazed they are by her strength, perseverance and results, because of all she has overcome.
But that of course, is the catch…
On a subconscious level, she believes that she must remain a victim to keep that admiration from everyone. What we’re really talking about here is a worthiness issue.
That is why she is still struggling financially. Because on some level she is still fighting the abuse issues from her childhood, when she was told she wasn’t good enough. So now she keeps creating obstacles for her to overcome – the hero’s journey – to prove to herself and those around her that she is noble.
And that crazy shit is keeping her broke. I know, because I did that for 30 years. Other clues…
When you still talk about how you were abused, your partner ripped you off or your bitch ex-wife, it means you’re still wallowing in victim-hood and using those stories for sympathy. The only person you should be talking to about things like that are a qualified mental health professional. Otherwise you’re just hanging on to be a victim, because it’s easier than doing the work to breakthrough.
So how about you? Are you creating a hero’s journey by manifesting extra challenges in order to overcome feelings of insecurity and unworthiness? Give that some serious thought and check in below.
-RG
