Comments on: Are You Hanging on to Victim-Hood? http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/ Success Tips, Marketing Strategies, Prosperity Insights and More... Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:40:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Kathleen Caldwell http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6500 Kathleen Caldwell Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:16:17 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6500 The only thing we take with us, out of this life, is our character. Everything that is thrown at us is about building character and tenacity. Then, turning around and teaching/helping others with our new found strategies/patience. The only thing we take with us, out of this life, is our character. Everything that is thrown at us is about building character and tenacity. Then, turning around and teaching/helping others with our new found strategies/patience.

]]> By: Lorrina Burns http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6435 Lorrina Burns Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:39:09 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6435 Awesome Randy! Awesome Randy!

]]> By: gene http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6433 gene Fri, 13 Nov 2009 01:31:15 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6433 I see problems like low sales ans temporary setbacks as temporary and nudges to study deeper...problems make me go to my knees and pray more and lead me to books with deeper understanding because I m in pain as a results being closer to my goals!!!!I have decided to take full charge of all my actions.. Gene I see problems like low sales ans temporary setbacks as temporary and nudges to study deeper…problems make me go to my knees and pray more and lead me to books with deeper understanding because I m in pain as a results being closer to my goals!!!!I have decided to take full charge of all my actions..

Gene

]]> By: Sherri http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6422 Sherri Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:17:03 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6422 I knew what you were saying. At first I was like hey.. but yes I'm an adult, time to quit blaming everything on the past and react positively to the circumstances that are laid out in front of me. I knew what you were saying. At first I was like hey.. but yes I’m an adult, time to quit blaming everything on the past and react positively to the circumstances that are laid out in front of me.

]]> By: anthony http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6411 anthony Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:24:33 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6411 When I say 'YOU" i don't mean you personally. This is so common in many people. Reliving their past and using it to stop them moving forward. Guilty as charged: grew up in poverty, never had what I wanted, always behind the neighborhood kids....waaa waaaa poor me. Now I work as a counsellor (employment and lifeskills) and I share my story, alcoholism and the changes. Most people find it hard to believe the positive, charge, going forward person working with them had a horrid beginning. The past is great for lessons and learning. When I say ‘YOU” i don’t mean you personally. This is so common in many people. Reliving their past and using it to stop them moving forward. Guilty as charged: grew up in poverty, never had what I wanted, always behind the neighborhood kids….waaa waaaa poor me. Now I work as a counsellor (employment and lifeskills) and I share my story, alcoholism and the changes. Most people find it hard to believe the positive, charge, going forward person working with them had a horrid beginning.
The past is great for lessons and learning.

]]> By: anthony http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6410 anthony Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:19:11 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6410 blame the counsellors and childhood. You are an adult now not a big child, stop assigning blame. Acceptance and action are the solutions. blame the counsellors and childhood. You are an adult now not a big child, stop assigning blame. Acceptance and action are the solutions.

]]> By: Walt http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6407 Walt Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:56:31 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6407 Randy- Great post. I couldn't agree more with you. Playing the victim gets you exactly what you ask for. Maybe some sympathy here and there but that's about it. It may sound harsh but you can either get stuck in victim-hood or quit your whining, shut your mouth and do something about it! Walt Randy-

Great post. I couldn’t agree more with you. Playing the victim gets you exactly what you ask for. Maybe some sympathy here and there but that’s about it.
It may sound harsh but you can either get stuck in victim-hood or quit your whining, shut your mouth and do something about it!

Walt

]]> By: Youpele Ekpedekumo http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6397 Youpele Ekpedekumo Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:44:49 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6397 Randy I want to be the first to admit that I'm a bit of a softie at heart when it comes to empathizing with people if they have concerns about no money. I mean you've been there before right? Ok, I don't necessarily rub there back stressing to them how unfortunate they are. I ask them if there are any alternatives they can find if they have plenty of time but no money. Maybe putting aside an hour of charity work for their local church or doing a fund raising event for some non-profit organisation. In that way they not the victim because they are now contributing for a positive cause. When that person applies for a(dare I say it)job. The employer will hold their application with greater consideration. Then once they cosy in there job let's make them uncomfortable and offer them a chance to be financially free. Sounds good to me what does everyone else think? Randy I want to be the first to admit that I’m a bit of a softie at heart when it comes to empathizing with people if they have concerns about no money.

I mean you’ve been there before right? Ok, I don’t necessarily rub there back stressing to them how unfortunate they are. I ask them if there are any alternatives they can find if they have plenty of time but no money.

Maybe putting aside an hour of charity work for their local church or doing a fund raising event for some non-profit organisation. In that way they not the victim because they are now contributing for a positive cause.

When that person applies for a(dare I say it)job. The employer will hold their application with greater consideration. Then once they cosy in there job let’s make them uncomfortable and offer them a chance to be financially free. Sounds good to me what does everyone else think?

]]> By: Enrique http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6393 Enrique Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:41:20 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6393 Thanks Randy>I will ask my questions on the other blog. Thanks Randy>I will ask my questions on the other blog.

]]> By: Maria Varga http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6384 Maria Varga Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:59:06 +0000 http://www.randygage.com/blog/are-you-hanging-on-to-victim-hood-2/#comment-6384 Curveballs... all day, every day... the interpretation of them is a matter of perspective for everyone. When you're prepared to handle a certain situation, it's not a challenge. If it catches you off guard - that is when you are confronted by your own mindset. Crisis situations could be looked at as serious wake up calls. The challenge is not just solving the situation; it is exceeding our image of ourselves, our believed limitations and fears. And yes, these curveballs are the building blocks of character, absolutely... you get to decide whether you want to build your strength or your weakness. It's important to realize the sharp difference between identifying the situation and immediately moving in the direction of the solution AND dwelling on the situation and losing ourselves in it. Pushing the Restart button is not as difficult as it may seem at first glance... I'm speaking from my own experience :o) Curveballs… all day, every day… the interpretation of them is a matter of perspective for everyone.
When you’re prepared to handle a certain situation, it’s not a challenge.
If it catches you off guard – that is when you are confronted by your own mindset. Crisis situations could be looked at as serious wake up calls.
The challenge is not just solving the situation; it is exceeding our image of ourselves, our believed limitations and fears.
And yes, these curveballs are the building blocks of character, absolutely… you get to decide whether you want to build your strength or your weakness.
It’s important to realize the sharp difference between identifying the situation and immediately moving in the direction of the solution AND dwelling on the situation and losing ourselves in it.
Pushing the Restart button is not as difficult as it may seem at first glance… I’m speaking from my own experience :o)

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